Does spanking have anything to do with it?

I fantasize about being spanked, but never experienced it. I remember being spanked once as a child, but that's it. I think for me, the spanking interest parallels my interest in domestic discipline.

There are two occasions when a girl may be ordered to remove her knickers in front of a male stranger. Either to be spanked or caned for some wrongdoing or in preparation for an internal examination. In this way the doctor and the punishment officer have the same power. Also the language of power - please take off your knickers and lie on the couch parting your legs or take off your knickers and bend over to touch your toes

I liked being spanked and that may have had somthing to do with it. I loved when my bottom was examined and they would have to touch it

In some way it will give the same feelings, for both the spanker and the one who will be spanked. It has to to with control, humilation, embarrasment, naked and someone is playing with your body. However ithink it is a quite different game and you may not combine these two.

That is so true suppersally, and I love how you put that. It is humiliating when my husband bends me over his knee, lifts my skirt, bares my bottom, and spanks me with his bare hand. I know he is not angry, and he does not want to hurt me. I know my husband is in control and more enjoyable things are to come. Its the same way when my doctor is preforming a pelvic exam, its humiliating, but he is in control, and I am going to enjoy it.

This is my second post on this subject. On the first almost a year ago I stated I did not like spankings. Since then I have learned that spankings (light ones) raise the blood flow and make other activities that follow more enjoyable. So I have revised my opinion due to recent experience. A hand spanking is now erotic to me.

You do have a point there Nero. It could be a culmination of both getting caught playing doctor, and the spanking that followed. 😮

Interesting to note that our proclivities come in all flavors, with many shades of differences ... it sounds to me that what we like today has much to do with early experiences, but also how we chose to view them at that early age as well as how our culture influenced us.

Nero, a karma to you for your insight throughout this discussion ...

For me, I love surrender for the sake of surrender - I love to be spanked because the person spanking gains pleasure from it, not as punishment. And yes, I just love the feel of the bare hand on my bottom ... I think my submissive nature figures prominently in my love of medfet as well. Allowing someone else - in a caring, fun, loving relationship - to assume complete control in a sexual context puts me over the edge. Great discussion, all.

Helena_handbasket, I could not have summed it up better. I think you enjoy it for all the same reasons I do. 😉

I've wondered about this myself. I have a strong fetish for anything ass-oriented--spanking, enemas, rectal temps, injections (and anal sex and toys, outside of the medfet aspects). In most cases I fantasize myself in the active role. I don't recall getting enemas as a child, but we had an enema set in the house. I was generally a pretty good kid so didn't get spanked too often, but remember my dad's belt stinging my ass and legs a few times. I have a VERY early memory--the earliest I can recall, actually--of being on an exam table in the doctor's office and crying. I think they must have taken a RT and given me a shot--I remember it being painful and crying. I couldn't have been much more than a year old or so.

Deep in my mind I know I link some of these things with punishment and/or embarrassment. When I was a kid I was overweight and stuttered, both of which made me a constant target of ridicule from other boys. The constant verbal abuse really hurt and made me mostly a loner. I felt helpless to get back at those kids, so I frequently fantasized about them being subjected to spankings and injections in particular. (Rectal temps and enemas got mixed in when I learned about them later.) These "revenge" fantasies ended up becoming pretty much hardwired into my brain. To this day my most intense fantasies involve males being put into someplace where they cannot escape and being subjected to being stripped, spanked and receiving painful injections.

Elaborate rituals of preparing the injections in front of them figures heavily into these fantasies. I want the subject to be AFRAID and humiliated. We have discussed at length the feelings about being forced to bare private areas and the anticipation of receiving a spanking or a shot. Being in charge of such a scene and causing that fear and anticipation is a huge turn-on for me.

I suppose the numerous times I went home from school suffering emotional pain was what got me wanting to "get back" at my tormentors. But I am basically a nice guy, not wanting to hurt anyone in any way. Until recently I would not even acknowledge these fantasies; I never talked about them to anyone for fear I would want to act on them. But now I realize that talking about them helps me deal with them, especially if I can find willing playmates to allow me to indulge some of these in a safe "play" environment.

I only received a handful of spankings growing up, but received enemas on a more routine basis, can't be exact, but I think about 4 or 5 a year between the ages of about 7 and 10 years old. In my case, I am sure if my enemas or the occasional spanking I got were done in private I doubt very much I would have this interest and be posting on this forum. The reason I say this is there wer a few times where these events were done in private and no matter how hard I try I cannot remember any of the details that went on.

I'm really not into medical exams, etc, but have always had a fetish for anything to do with my butt. I was given enemas, at a very early age, and started putting things in my butt, when I was around 5-years-old. I was always spanked while growing-up, and didn't like them any better than an enema as a kid. However, there was always something rather mysteriously erotic about spankings and getting enemas. As I grew older, I did sneak around putting things in my butt, and spanking myself. I did give myself some enemas, when I could sneak them in. If nothing else, I'd just put my finger in my butt, while masturbating.

I really think that all this "butt-play" that we all seem to have in common, in differing ways, is just because all this stuff feels good to our butts! Since it feels good to our butts, then our butts are just around the corner from our penis's or vaginas it arouses those parts at the same time. . .MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM!

Just seems like a very natural thing, that we do have erotic nerves in our butt areas, that are somehow connected to our other sexual arousal, areas. Maybe it's more dominate in some of us, rather than others? Or. . .Maybe others haven't figured out how to "tap-into-it"? Or. . .Maybe some, just won't admit to it?

Thankfully, at the age of 67, I no-longer have to carry the guilt feelings that many of us grew-up with! Heck. . .When I grew-up, masturbating was a big "no-no"! I think it was a more accepted thing with my parents, way-after I was adult? Sadly, those type subjects were not accepted as genreral conversation.

Above. . .Just a lot of thoughts, from an old-guy, that has a lot of time to think :-) Mike.

I was never spanked and I didnt have any life changing experience with it before I was 16 already. I think my interest in it started when I happened on a documentary about it by accident (yes, honestly!). It was about a couple who practiced it regularly and instead of role playing or master/slave type of play, it was voluntary, even though it was quite severe and they both didnt act like they werent enjoying it. It just seemed so exciting that I couldn't stop thinking about it for a few weeks, trying to figure out why that woman would agree to be spanked but I also wanted to swap places with her even for one night, just so I could try it.

I wouldn't say I have a fetish for spanking though, maybe I would but I don't like pain and if its too light it wouldnt create that atmosphere and those feelings. I guess it all depends on the partner though. If Id ever find someone who I could trust completely, Id want to give it another go.

While I was spanked frequently throughout my years as a kid/teen, I'm not too sure if can say for certain that it caused me to become a spanko. I get aroused thinking about spanking in general, but don't think it correlates with my adolescent punishments.

I really don't think that being spanked as a boy created my interest in spanking anymore than I think my being taken to movies as a small boy created my interest in cinema. If exposure and experience with something in childhood was a determining factor in later-life interest then I would be a fisherman and sports enthusiast...and I am definitely not.

I have always been interested in disciplinary spanking and disciplinary corporal punishment in a variety of venues. I am not really interested in erotic spanking unless it originates as a disciplinary event and then I am only interested in the disciplinary aspect. The same is true for my interest in movies...I love certain genres and avoid others like the plague.

Without any proof whatsoever, I still believe that people tend to develop interests in things in certain ways for a large variety of reason that may or may not have both a nature and nurture component.

After my first spanking at 9 there was something about it. If my friends and I got into trouble together we were spanked together. There was something about watching and hearing you friends getting spanked even if you had been or were waiting to be.