How do medical experiences become sexualized?

I think too theres "artificial intimacy" or what you want to call it. A stranger is in a position to see and do what normally only a wife/husband/girlfriend/boyfriend can, and sometimes even more than that. It's just a weird surreal thing outside the ordinary. and any time there is even partial nudity that social norms say is sexual, it will feel like that for some ppl.

Anyway human mind is amazing thing.

This was a surprise to me. Following a car accident a few years ago, I engaged the services of a chiropractor that I'd met, through a friend. As with Doctors of Chiropractic my visits to him were very frequent at first and then settled into a lengthy regime. I didn't object to that because after all he had helped regulate my spine issues. Eventually I did wean myself from his treatment, mostly due to scheduling issues. Last year I developed some chronic muscle pain issues that, after time I thought might be helped with another series of treatments. I recalled how effective and dominant his approach to my earlier experience was with him.

I made my first appointment. Three days prior to that event I had a very vivid dream of his large hands manipulating my back and spine. In my dream I was laying on my belly with my face buried in the tissue covered, slotted pillow, completely naked. Suddenly I felt him mounting me and his face nuzzling my neck. He turned my head and gave me a lengthy wet kiss.

Nothing else happened, in my dream, because that actually woke me to consciousness. That dream was this past January, so one can see how it's stuck in my subconscious! I am weaning off his treatments at this time, and he has been nothing but professional, at my appointments.

This all seems very sexual to me..... but extremely odd!!

For me, it seems to be reversed. I acknowledge my sexuality in most environments. When experiencing a medical situation, I can't help but have sexual fantasies.

There are some exceptions, dental for example, but most things work for me.

Come to think of it being naked and restrained in the dental chair with the gas flowing...

Very interesting how sometimes a situation which if it happened for real would be terrifying, or a turn off, can be a source of sexual excitement. I think a bit like where you go to a scary movie and you know you are going to be scared, no matter how realistic, you will be safe, and at the back of your mind you know that. But you still jump and scream when the ghostly figure or whatever appears. With medfet, the mind gives one permission to be aroused, as in an imagined fantasy, as you see your wife having an intimate experience with another person, but your mind allows you to be aroused by it because its SAFE as he or she is a professional, trained, medical practitioner. Although I have never tried it (apart from when I was a kid.......and I don't think there are many who haven't) I would think the same applies with Play Exams with Play Dr.

From 5 to 14 I was often a hospital patient and had frequent, whole body nude, medical exams.

The doctors were all male, but nurses were always there, and looked at me naked often.

Sometimes I got rectal temperatures taken and was fully exposed. Bowel, penis and herna exams were a routine part of many experiences. Before surgeries I was often prepped by nurses who kept me naked on a table for substantial periods. By 12 or so I started to get erections when washed or touched "down there" and sometimes it was obvious the nurses were amused or interested. Once a nurse thumped my penis when it was hard, and it went right down. Sexual instincts are in all of us, whether children, adults, nurses or doctors. When one person has control over another, these instincts lead to actions more readily.

I personally think that it's a way to deal with the feelings we have about the medical experiences. In my case, as a child I truly hated all things medical. Every time I had to go to the doctor, a whole war would start. The fear I felt then has become the excitement that I feel when I remember those things now. It;s a way to escape the negative feelings.....and that's my own two cents 😃

The elements, ranging from privacy behind a closed door, being exposed, being touched, especially in what's considered "private parts", places off limits to most people.

Then comes the element of control, Just as BDSM is all about control in the sexual context, the process of a medical procedure, be it exam or whatever is the yielding of control of one's body to a trusted medical professional to view, touch, & "operate" as that individual chooses, albeit professionally.

For many people, it's just another thing you gotta do, like take your car to get inspected, & they don't think twice of what's taking place. Their regular doctor has seen them several times before, everything happens in a flash, & then they're out a bunch of cash (for the appt). That's pretty much how they view it. They are not so self-conscious about the process.

And then there are some, where being nude, being seen, being touched, has some kind of effect on them, both mentally &/or physiologically by how it feels & how it affects them. .For some if may be horrifying, particularly if they are suffering from some type of trauma stemming from abuse. etc. And of course for others, they participate & open up about it on a medfet website. Mainly because there's something about the process that relates to something they enjoy, either regardless of a medical setting, or specifically because of a medical setting.

I'm fairly certain my medical fetish came about from having surgery when I was about 5 years old. It was terrifying at the time, but I got over it. I think that experience stayed with me somewhere in my mind and eventually manifested into my fetish. After I saw some lightly medical themed porn sometime early in adolescence I fell down the rabbit hole.

For me, it stems from an early fear that I had of the gyn exam. I did not have my first until I was 22 years old. Already married for three years, I wanted to go on the pill, but I was terrified of the pelvic exam and pap smear. I am not sure why. But I had to go, so I started to educate myself by going online and watching, reading, and even chatting about the process. Along the way, I stumbled over a play exam walk-through/script on Doublemoon, then later found Speculum pages, and reading the stories eventually became titilating. Eventually my fears gave way, I did end up going to the doctor's - and it wasn't nearly as bad as I originally was afraid it would be - but somewhere in the back of my mind, it turned into a fantasy of mine.

My husband and I have been married for 20+ years now and a play exam is still on my bucket list. Unfortunately, he is not interested in medfet, nor would he likely ever consent to my having one and, therefore it would be tantamount to infidelity. And since I plan on life-or-longer with him (smile), there it shall remain: on the bucket list.

But in a way, the fantasy, psychologically speaking, fuels my imagination more than a failed expectation, so.... c'est la vie.

. Along the way, I stumbled over a play exam walk-through/script on Doublemoon, then later found Speculum pages, and reading the stories eventually became titilating. Eventually my fears gave way,

That is so nice to hear, that the stories on Specpages helped someone overcome something they were afraid of ... I never thought of the stories that way, though maybe i should have ...

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Interesting question !

Personally in my opinion I think that from an early age I enjoyed going to the Drs . I am one of 4 children and both my parents worked long hours . Getting ill and having to visit the Dr meant some one on one attention off the parents. Going to the Dr got a bit more attention .

As I got older and those Dr visits became more personal and intimate parts got examined that's when I realised that I had a medfet.

I'm sure the whole privacy thing also adds to it .

Getting undressed and then sitting or lying down whilst your sexual organs get examined I'm sure turns a lot of people on . I personally can't help having sexual thoughts.

I honestly don't know where it came from,

Seeing any doctor for anything as a child ment a whole war would start.

Thankfully I have had a very healthy life so have never needed to see a doctor for anything intimate or anything else except a broken bone or two,

I have avoided any intimate exams, never had a smear test and never had children,

However, in play,with my trusted play doc, I love the embarrassment, but I think the real thing for me, is the fact that I know it will not result in sex, so I can let go and relax and enjoy the feeling I feel when I know he is looking at me,

I hope some of this makes sense, lol

Caz I'm afraid you're whistling in the dark. Out of sight out of mind doesn't apply to cervical CA.

I may post again if my thoughts or memories become clearer, but for now, this whole "where did I get my fetish/kink?" has always fascinated me and I enjoy discussing it. This certainly applies to most of my kinks which are shared by many on Zity, particularly enemas, rubber, D/s, (moderate) bondage and anal play. But it's especially curious and interesting to me because of my other kink which even here seems to be extremely unusual. This particular discussion thread also brings up the question of why those kinks would predominate for me but not manifest as a real MedFet interest. Certainly anal and enemas could be closely intertwined as part of MedFet, but I enjoy those intensely without having any real arousal or serious desire for other aspects of MF that others here adore. Another issue tangential to MF could be rubber, perhaps my biggest kink, because of medical exposure to rubber products like gloves and catheters in normal health care settings. But again, though intensely interested and aroused by rubber, anal play and enemas, they're distinct from an overall MedFet kink for me. Now if I had a woman partner who loved MF and wanted to indulge in it one way or the other, I'd be delighted to play with her, exam or be examined, and I'd enjoy it, but not to the extent a MF lover might. I'd be especially waiting for the parts that involved rubber and anuses.

To get to the potential origins portion of this thread, I too, like some others here, had significant congenital defects and medical conditions requiring far more exposure to doctors, nurses, health care and procedures than most average kids. My memory for a lot of it is not good (repression?), but I have distinct brief memories of multiple facial surgeries and anesthesia, specialist eye doctor and plastic surgeon and orthodontic appointments. There were also undoubtedly many forgotten or completely repressed memories of much more, including treatment for apparently life-threatening hydrocephalus after birth and initial cleft-reconstructions before age 2. I can also toss in my mom being a nurse who accompanied me to all my surgeries and other appointments, and who may have given me a few enemas from the ever-present amber bag in her bathroom. And I knew well and revered her multiple surgeon employers at her office. Other than not liking shots or post-op recoveries, I was never worried or afraid of seeing all my different doctors including the regular pediatrician. Yet with all those experiences, I don't have a real MedFet kink, but do have intensely powerful kinks for rubber, anal, enemas, etc. As I said, writing about this is fascinating for several reasons, not the least of which is that it may spring some vague or lost memories to the fore for me, so another post may appear about this.

Eric

Having grown up in the era of penicillin shots, my greatest medical fear throughout youth and much of adolescence was the painful humiliation of bending over a receptionist's lap for her to watch me get one in my bare bottom. I also got booster shots the same way. Although fearfully detesting the ordeal in reality, I often found sitting (or trying to sit) on the tender site later curiously arousing. I even fantasised about getting shots like that when none were imminent and particularly enjoyed visualising attractive young ladies injected in their shapely bare bottoms. By late adolescence I was mature enough to appreciate the erotic aspect of a pretty nurse baring, swabbing and jabbing my erogenous buttocks.

A receptionist once told me that her favourite part of the job was holding teenaged boys (as I then was) across her lap for injections. She added that boys of all ages normally had an erection when standing up after their shots. The buttocks are a generally acknowledged erogenous zone but getting shots back there has been a peculiar fetish of mine since childhood - even when overtly afraid of the treatment.

Following up on earlier discussion here about "misattribution of arousal" and the crossing of signals between fear and sexual arousal. Here's what Scott Stossel has to say in "My Age of Anxiety", p. 42:

"The brain of a research subject who is sexually aroused by a pornographic movie will light up on an MRI scan in much the same way it does in response to a fear-inducing event; the same interconnected brain components - the amygdala, the insular cortex, and the anterior cingulate - will be activated in both cases. A researcher looking at the two brain scans without knowing their context might be unable to determine which image is a response to fear and which is to sexual arousal."

What he's describing makes a lot of sense. But as others have points out, it doesn't seem like all fearful experiences get fetishized or sexualized. Do people who are afraid of tall buildings get aroused by looking at pictures of skyscrapers? What do you think?

What he's describing makes a lot of sense. But as others have points out, it doesn't seem like all fearful experiences get fetishized or sexualized. Do people who are afraid of tall buildings get aroused by looking at pictures of skyscrapers? What do you think?

I sometimes wonder if the MRI isn't just the newest toy that researchers have and that they really read far too much into the readings and results they get from it. When X-ray machines were first invented they were all the rage and the key to understanding the human body, or so doctors thought. Now it seems that everything must be described as 'parts of the brain lighting up' with stern importance attached to it.

Maybe the same parts of the brain light up when test subjects experience fear and sexual arousal, but anyone with half an ounce of common sense will still be unequivocally able to tell the difference between the two sensations. Clearly an MRI reading is just not detailed enough to tell the difference. And further, the quote contains the usual conditional phraseology such as: 'in much the same way' or 'might be unable to determine', which for me means that the researcher clearly has an almost fervent wish to take the results seriously, but is still - wisely I'd say - hedging his bets. Whenever I read something phrased in this manner, I conclude the researchers don't really know one way or the other, they are just whistling Dixie ...

So, until something better comes along, time to start shaking the salt shaker for those grains ...

That said, there are indeed so many things I am afraid of, that will never ever become sexualized for me. As for medical situations when I was young: I didn't care for them, mainly out of distrust of doctors and older people in general, but I never was afraid as such.

So then, why do I have a medfet thing after all? The answer is not going to be found in an MRI machine I think ...

Echoing many before me, I can't remember a time before my fetish. But I'm certain that my glove fetish laid the foundations for overall fetish: I've always had female doctors. When I was very young, I would consistently get an erection before the gloved physician did a hernia check. A little later, I became very embarrassed that I would have such a visible reaction, and that embarrassment would fuel my sexual response. Still, the embarrassment only came after I knew what an erection meant (and that getting one in front of a doctor might be considered humiliating). None of this explains why the gloves turned me on in the first place. Perhaps because their use proceeded the only instances in which a stranger would touch my penis, gloves and sex became linked in my head? After that, the other details of a medical exam became erotic by association: the dynamic between a caring but cool professional and a patient, scrubs and uniforms, etc..

Here's a decent Psychology Today article detailing some of the main theories about the formation of fetishes: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-excess/201401/survival-the-fetish

In one of my personal favorite studies on fetishism (referenced in the above article), an Italian researcher looked at the prevalence of different Yahoo! fetish groups: http://www.nature.com/ijir/journal/v19/n4/full/3901547a.html

If you scroll down to look at the graphs, you'll see that most fetishes involve either "objects associated with the body" or a specific part of the body. The former would make a lot of sense for us medical fetishists. I like the study because it suggests that fetishism isn't a totally random misfiring (i.e., it would be difficult to have a fetish for toasters); rather, most fetishes are the case of a "bodily object" standing in for or enhancing the body part itself.

Sorry for the rambling post, this subject fascinates me.