Hiding a love of enemas from your spouse.

My wife is aware of my love of enemas but it took a couple of years to slowly introduce her to the fact that I enjoyed them and intended to find pleasure in using enemas. We have been married for roughly 10 years and I would say it took 2 years to get her to come around and accept that I enjoyed this type of fun...

The thing about women is, the longer your married, the more relaxed they become to the idea of new things. It also depends on the woman's age... When my wife was younger, in her early 20's she was very Up-tight about a lot of things... Very closed minded to anything she had been brainwashed to believe anything erotic was bad... I'm several years older than my wife and I introduced her to vibrators, dildos, etc. and other techniques that allowed her to finally experience a TRUE orgasm herself. This was a real awakening for her because before I used vibrators on her I'm quite sure she had never experienced an orgasm before. Now she is in her very early 30's and she has really come around quite a bit from her former frigid self and learned to enjoy and seek out the pleasure of orgasm.

It's in this newly found joy of sex and orgasm that my wife now is open minded to the concept that I derive pleasure from receiving enemas and using other forms of prostate stimulation.

Now I use enemas while she is at work. She is aware that I enjoy enemas but I'm working towards the day when I can give myself an enema while she watches or perhaps takes part in the procedure.I don't like the fact that I am expected to HIDE my love of enemas... I honestly would like to have a room in the attic that I close off and turn into a doctors office with enema equipment hanging from the walls...

I swear some people are just so up-tight when it comes to things like enemas... I mean why deny yourself pleasure?? Why go through life knowing there is such a amazing way to enjoy such eloquent and sublime pleasure and choose not to enjoy it??

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I swear some people are just so up-tight when it comes to things like enemas... I mean why deny yourself pleasure?? Why go through life knowing there is such a amazing way to enjoy such eloquent and sublime pleasure and choose not to enjoy it??

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In the real old days you would have been killed as a witch. At least now you can enjoy the pleasure without fear of death.

Being able to connect with others and discuss your likes and even dislikes has only been in the open for less than 2 decades. Started with magazines that arrived in brown paper to those bold enough to order and take the chance that the mailman would not peak inside.

Now today we find thousands of kinky folks just like us (& pick up a good idea or two) in the blogs and sites just like this.

My advice to the young is don't wast time worrying about the social issues. Use good judgment, keep it legal and enjoy your greatest fantasy before age prevents fulfilling your desires. Now, going to work naked with a butt plug/ponytail hanging is not using good judgment, people point at things they don't understand.

Finding others that would like to insert that ponytail in private is another thing.

Not all people or spouses enjoy the same kink, How about finding their kinky fantasy and exploring it first. Hard to get some people to open up but if you ever do it is a lot fun.

A truly great moment occurred in my life the day I discovered the "special preference" letter in Penthouse Forum -- from the English nurse who enjoyed enemas. A gigantic relief to realize "I'm not alone." Not long thereafter I made a guilt-laden confession about enemas to my wife of 6 years: she shrugged and treated me as though I were weird. So it all went underground until I left her 20 years later. Speaking of hiding things: meanwhile she was engaging in extra-curricular activities, with my best friend no less, for the last 7 years of our marriage. Another weight lifted: I wasn't the only one to hide things. Needless to day things have improved considerably in recent years.

I can't imagine being with a women that I had to hide my enema use from. I realize there is a lot more to life but the idea that you had to hide a part of your life from a spouse would seem to indicate that you probably should have found a different mate.

I have not told my gf about my love of enemas. But I'm not actually hiding it either. I used to hide the bag every weekend. Now I don't. It sits on the top shelf of my bathroom closet. I'm sure she's seen it, but no comment from her yet. My next step is to leave it hanging in the shower.

But the point is she is over 50 and more open to toys and other stuff than I ever hoped for. All of it is pretty mild by this sites standards, but wild by what I've know in the past. If you think she's more open at 30....wait until she hits 50! WOW!!

When I was much younger, someone told me women peak sexually at 50. And men peak at 16. What a cruel joke to play on us guys.

I love women in their 50's. They're more confortable in their own skin, more at ease with their sexuality, and more open to new things.

I'm pretty sure enemas are something we will eventually share a love of. (Fingers crossed)

My wife knows that I like enemas (get off on them) as she puts it, but she has, if anything gotten even more against my use of them as the years (33) have gone by. For a while I tried to be very open about them and let her see me taking them, but now unfortunately it's much better if I just hide my use and do "quickies" when she's home or just wait until she's at work or a meeting to do them. I have also come to the point of never again asking her to finger my anus/rectum because of the fit she threw the last time. I think she thinks this makes me (sorry gays) queer. Such is my life. If you have a partner, male or female that doesn't try and make you feel bad about yourself for who you are, you are very lucky.

If I might render a little logic here; I would suggest that if you are at all interested in getting your mate interested in enemas, isn't it a bit counterproductive to try to hide your interest? I mean, if she has no idea that you are interested in them (a consequence of your hiding your attitude/actions from her), how could she ever consider their use?

just a thought...

My wife has only had bad experiences, pre-birth, barium, and has only mentioned enemas in a negative way. But it is probably my fault as far a being up-tight. I've had a couple of opportunities to bring up the subject but I passed. She is pretty much open to many other types of stimulation.

I have been into enemas for about 25 years now. My first wife took about 6 years before I could do enemas out in the open with her. I use to do a lot of traveling for business and I had a traveling bag, so I would take care of myself while out on the road. I was finally able to keep a bag in the house and I gave myself enemas behind close doors. Then one day I left the door open and she came in and got a little curious. She never let me near her ass, so I could not give her any enemas, but i would give her Douches. So I would give her a douche while I took a enema. There at the end she was getting into dressing up as a nurse and giving me enemas. Those were some great nights. I am on my second marriage and after 3 years, I am able to keep a bag in the house. Before that I had a bag hidden and I would give myself enemas when ever she went somewhere, or I went on a business trip. My second wife knew about how I loved to take enema's. She is not too keen on it, but i have been able to give her a fleet enema before I have anal sex with her. Even though I have a bag in the house, she has to be out of the house before I can give myself one. So now I am trying to figure out how to start giving them to myself with her in the house. It will come around, but like everything else in life you have to be patience for the things you want.

Lol...I suggested it to my wife once. You'd have thought I had grown a second head. Not a single comment...just the strangest look.

As with a lot of us,I was given enemas as a child by my mother. I liked the feelings that enemas gave me so when I was old enough I started to give them to myself. I continued to enjoy enemas when I could as I grew up and threw my teens. I never told anybody because I thought I was the only person who enjoyed them. When I got married I also kept this from my wife as I was sure she wouldn't be interested in them. When the internet came around and I started finding sites like this one, I started chatting with like minded people and found out I wasn't alone in my enjoyment of enemas and anal play. I decided if I was chatting with strangers about them that it was time to tell my wife I enjoyed them. She was not happy that I was enjoying something this much alone, butt she was not into it and so I stopped taking them for awhile. When I started taking them again I had her watch me one night as I did it butt she wasn't impressed. She knows I do them now when I'm alone and I know she wishes I wouldn't butt I still do. I've told her she can join me anytime she wants to butt she hasn't yet. I don't think she ever will. She however doesn't know that I come in here and chat with others that do enjoy them as I do. I'm sure she would not like me chatting with others about my erotic feelings. I'll always continue to take them when I get the urge and I suppose she will never join me,butt I'm glad I finally told her about how I feel when I'm getting one. Even though I didn't get the result I was hoping for.

My wife knows about my passion but has no interest. This has become a private interest for me

I'm in the same boat as Draino14. My wife thinks I'm a nutcase when it comes to loving enemas.

Mine also has no interest in enema or my medical fetish as well. I have tried over the years, and was only able to have her give me one. As much as I enjoyed she hated it, wanted no part of any future play. I even offer to get her a Nurses uniform and medical toys but that did not go over well also. So need to be like others my own private fantasy.

My situation is the same as draino14 above. In my case, because I knew that I enjoyed enemas, and wanted a spouse who would participate with me (at least, give me enemas), I broached the subject with her BEFORE we married. At the time, she said it was fine with her, and she had no aversion to my enjoyment, although she didn't have any desire to receive enemas herself. Well, we married, and she did give me perhaps 2 or 3 enemas early on, and then that was the end of them. I certainly wouldn't come out and demand an enema (no fun in that), but have hinted many many times that I sure would enjoy a good enema. She smiles, and essentially ignores me. Does it piss me off and frustrate me? You bet it does, because I made a special point of discussing the subject before we married, and at the time, she said it was fine with her. Obviously, it wasn't fine, but I think she said yes, she was fine with my enjoyment of enemas, just so that I wouldn't bail out of the relationship way back then. As far as I'm concerned, the marriage contract got revised unilaterally after we married.

My wife will pull on my nipples to help me come when I masturbate. All this happens as I fill myself as full as I can get. She will not give me an enema, I now hang my two bags up and use them when I want. She used to pull my nipples when we had sex, but for some reason she now feels that sex is something she cares less about. So I fill myself in the open, with her around, I don't have to hide my enemas, but I wish she would fill the bags for me and help, but I know that when hell freezes over she will help, but we all know that ain't going to happen soon. She won't even touch my penis to masturbate me, she doesn't like her hands to get sticky, either from the jelly or anything else. So I fill myself and enjoy the ins and outs so to speak.

As have earlier stated, my wife knows about my use and enjoyment of enemas, but wants me to take them while alone in the house. I was right in the middle of a hot soapy enema when she returned home today earlier than expected from a "girls" party. I had to pour a little over half of it down the drain in my haste to put things away so she could use the potty. Man, I just hate having to waste all that good enema. Would much rather have had it expanding my colon to a comfortable size. Anyway, she was kind of in between the party and then having to go to work. I enjoy spending time with my bag but found myself looking at the clock and thinking, ok about an hour, then ok about 30 minutes, then ok now about 15 minutes until I could again feel the pleasure of a fully inserted bulb douche nozzle and the soapy water flowing through and expanding my belly. Sometimes, one enema will do it for me. But, today I was in the mood for as many as I could lose count of and being interrupted was not on my agenda. Have any of the rest of you found yourself watching the clock and counting the minutes until you could resume you favorite activity? After posting this I plan on a couple more soapy enemas and have the coffee brewing (he he) for some nice relaxing follow ups.

Diamond, that kind of sounds like being between a rock and a hard place.

I have expressed my desire get an enema from my wife, altough I think I could get her to do it she has no desire to get one, said she got them on a regular basis as a child and did not like them, I did find her stories very arousing as she explanined the enemas her and her sisters got

I have read some very disheartening posts about wives who disapprove of their husbands' affection for enemas. You can feel the tension in their words and share the rejection they feel. I am so very sorry for these men, because my wife was unique in that she shared my love of enemas, and our sex life was rife with all the permutations that went with them. It was the most satisfying time of my life. Unfortunately, some women view their husbands as something weird, or not quite right. Certainly not the man she married. She might feel you are going gay on her. There are lists of objections that men have to conquer to get their wives involved in their desires. The only advice I have is open and honest communication. You have to find out what her objections are, her real objections, and work your way through them. I wish all you men good luck with this.

My ex wife knew of my enema use. In fact all my enemas during our 23 year marriage were given by her. Early on she let me give them to her but later did not. I did not come out and tell her I liked enemas. I especially enjoyed them when she dressed up in her nurses uniform. Now that we are divorced I have only myself to please. In retrospect I should just have told her of my liking of enemas.

I've dated a lot of guys over the years, but haven't really met many guys who enjoyed enemas as much as I do. I did date one guy for about 6 months or so who really enjoyed enemas, but there were too many other issues at play that I just couldn't invest in a long term relationship, but we sure had some fun!!!

I don't have to hide but she just accepts it. Not judgmental

My wife doesn't accept them or believe in them!

Enema love like any fetish is an acquired activity..Either you enjoy them or you have no idea what pleasures are derived from taking or being given an enema. Its really impossibly to "change" someone so they love enemas...Just as an example there are people who feel the same about smelling and sucking dirty smelling feet as we do enemas..Now does it turn you on or do you think you could Get of just from smelling dirty feet or sucking on a dirty toe? I thought not...Just remember not everyone is into enemas.They do not have the fetish,,,,,

Informing my wife that I would be taking enemas was a huge relief. I'll admit that I used the "healthy" ticket as my reason - and for the most part it is largely true. But not needing to hide equipment or explain the excessive water running and toilet flushing is liberating.

I'm sure she will (or has) figure out that there is a kinky nature to them as well. I'm doubtful that she would approve, since she doesn't approve of self masturbation, and has virtually managed to remove any intimacy from the sex we do share.

So, like all things - I'll let her believe what she chooses. I won't go out of my way to hide it - but I will make some considerations toward keeping it discreet. Except for those times when I feel like she needs her comfort level shaken up a bit.

My wife has known of my enema interest since before we were married. At first she was a wiling participant but as time went on she admitted that she cared very much for me but not very much for enemas. So, I do solo enemas and she is good with it and so am I. The typical scenario is that I will simply say, "I am going to take an enema, do you need to use the bathroom?" Also, if she needs to use the bathroom she will simply come on in and depending on my state of involvement in the enema process, I may say something like, "You had better be quick because I am not sure how long I can hold this."

I'm stating the obvious when I say that openly discussing a connection between enemas and sex is not likely to be warmly accepted by many people. The first time I actually brought up the subject with anyone was after discovering enema related letters in the "Penthouse Forum." Even then, I initially shared those letters with my ex-wife without telling her of my own interest. Although I was relieved to know there were others, it took a long time before I confessed my connection with them to my ex-wife. Over the years, there have been a few people in my life with whom I could discuss and even share my interest, but only a few. My current wife knows about my connection, has even experimented with some sessions, but enemas are not really her "cup of tea." This site has opened up so many opportunities to read and chat about enemas in ways that would not be possible otherwise.

My wife accepts giving me or receiving enemas but she does not know it is a pleasure. It is only for constipation

Even if it my wife and I know a lot of her intimacy, I never succeeded in saying I am an enema lover. Maybe the fear of her thinking I am a perverted man

Fullu understand and my wife is in same boat, but knows it is pleasure too.