About To Lose My Wife Over Diapers and Maxis

My wife and I got in a huge fight yesterday and it of course came out that she can not handle my diaper usage and maxipad wear. What do I do? Do I try and stop. I really do not know if I can. In fact, I am almost positive I can not stop. Please help.

Well markie hate to say this but if you keep up this fetish it wiil cost allot more then just your wife. Seeing she will get allot of what you two have made together.

Maybe if you asked her if you two could go to counseling and try to work things out with each other. And as far as your fetish goes you can say to her "i will only do this when she is not around to see it". Good luck bro sorry to hear the bad news.

Its not like that. We would part our separate ways and I would pay her child support. She hates handouts and would prefer to be independent. We have gone to counseling btw.

You have a big decision to make.

Do you have children? Do you have a good PRE-NUP???? I hope you are not in a state that divides things 50-50 just because you were married. The lion's share of the money should go to the person who made it.

She may say she hates handouts until the courts decide to give her one.

It sounds like you are going to be in the market for a new partner.

What's more important -- your marriage or your fetish? Only YOU can answer that question...

My friends already know that I wear panties and diapers. Her family knows I have a diaper fetish as well. I never hide behind it. In fact my best male friend encourages me to not change who I am because how she feels. She accepted it before and changed. That may not be her fault but its not mine either. Is this fetish so easy just to quit? I have been wearing diapers off and on for twenty years. I guess I feel that I should be loved for who I am. Also, my panty and diaper fetish may be incriminating to me but so is the documented use of drugs I have of her.

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. . . . . . Also, my panty and diaper fetish may be incriminating to me but so is the documented use of drugs I have of her.

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Oh, you ARE going to have a very unpleasant divorce.

Pray for a traffic accident so you won't need a divorce. You KNOW what I mean.

In the divorce, you'll both get "experts" to testify you're both "good people", that your fetish is OK and that her drugs use was necessary for some reason. The children will get a law guardian (a court appointed crook to take still more of your money) and your liars, I mean lawyers will milk you dry.

Good luck, you're going to need it. Plan your divorce long before you have your wife or your wife serves you with papers.

THIS IS REALITY. This is how it will be.

Actually she has calmed down some. I wore panties and a maxipad to bed last night, sleeping next to her, and she was OK. Eventually, another fight will occur and she will bring it back up.

In case of a divorce you will lose big, I fear for you. You may win perceived freedom but since a kid is involved you will carry that bag with you - well - for a while.

I speak with neither professional authority nor experience so just disregard my comment if it doesn't make sense to you.

You had counselling already. But if you believe there is the slightest chance of a peaceful "us" in the future why not give it another go? Maybe another professional can show you and your wife new angles. "Change can only come from within yourself" is what I read some time ago. And I believe there is a lot of truth in that. It can mean not to lose your very self but find the strength in yourself to make little changes. Once these are achieved it's much easier to request some subtle changes from your partner as well.

All the best!

Why must you wear panties and a maxi and stick it in her face by sleeping in them next to her? SLEEP NAKED, you might even get lucky!!

The fact is you do not have to wear those things in front of her. Do it when you are alone.

Why should it matter? That is what I want to do. She has bought me panties and maxipads before. She has accepted that about me, played along, and now its an issue. Imho when a partner has these types of fetishes he is either accepted or not. It should not change. I guess I just want her to love and except me like before. This fetish and desire is so strong I almost can not help it.

Why must you wear panties and a maxi and stick it in her face . . . .

Why should it matter? . . . It should not change. I guess I just want her to love and except me like before. This fetish and desire is so strong I almost can not help it.

Hey, EVERYTHING CHANGES. Nothing stays the same.

She accepted it before, now she doesn't. If you want to keep the relationship, do what you can to make her happy. I am not telling you to give up your fetish, just do it when she isn't around.

You asked for help, now you're telling us you aren't willing to make accommodations.

I am thankful for your advice, I really am. I understand the concept of not doing it around her. I have done that in the past and she felt by doing so I was dishonest by going behind her back. I think what it boils down to is that it is all or nothing for both of us if that makes sense.

Its a lot of ups and downs. I love my wife and I love my lifestyle. At one time both were acceptable and now because of change its not. That's why I posted this in the psychology corner. It is hard to deal with mentally. I wish it was as simple as just throwing away my diapers just to make her happy. For whatever reason I can not do that and its hard to understand why I can not. I apologize if I offended anyone.

You did not offend anyone markie. You asked for a outside view and what we would do in your situation. We spoke you, read and responded. Take it for whats its worth. We see things from both sides here because we are not involved in your problem. We understand your fetish better then her, but we also understand there comes a time when change is needed. Its up to you now to do what you must . We wish you well in whatever choice you make.

Things have calmed down with my wife. I find it difficult that whenever we fight she pulls my card that she will leave me and site cross dressing and diaper wearing as the reason why. I am so sensitive with those things. Also, I am not willing to change being who I am. My wife and I without question love one another or I would be living alone in an apartment somewhere.

Sounds like maybe there are other issues besides your fetish. I obviously don't know you or your wife, but from what you are saying, your wife is bringing up your diapers and cross-dressing as a way of "pushing your buttons". When people fight, they often try to gain the "advantage" by bringing up some "fault" of the other person. I believe many counselors try to discourage this kind of interaction, because it hides the real issues. Maybe another round of counseling is the proper course and try to establish some ground rules for truly communicating the issues that are important to you both. Good luck.

Well said, Grumpy Boy. Sound's like pretty good advice to me, karma for you!

Markie, I kinda think that there are other issues at hand that you might want to pursue. It dose sound to me like she's only upset with your fetish when it suet's her need's.

Good luck Markie!!!

It will cost you much, if you want to stay married you must try to stop sorry to say that

Sounds like your wife might never have fully accepted it, more like just tolerated it, and even gave it an honest try?

Does your ability to have sex and achieve orgasm depend on wearing diapers and pads? If so, she might feel substituted for. Do you ever have sex w/ her just straight up with no fetish items? If so, when was the last time?

What about giving her a night where she gets to act out her desire, maybe some kind of role playing?

I guess what I'm saying is to throw her a bone so she has sex with a MAN once in a while. Not saying this to offend you, as I love getting all sissy/girly myself, but women usually are attracted to that masculinity that they see/sense when they first developed urges to be with us. Ripping that away some time into the relationship and not giving it back is a tough pill for anyone to swallow. Coming her way might let you still have fun with your fetish in the relationship. Maybe a couple nights a week where she can reach across and grab a naked hard cock as opposed to a diaper or pair of panties once in a while. Letting her get you off, with nothing more but her body and desire will make her feel like a desirable woman.

Having this fetish is like a separate sexual preference, and is very difficult to deny. If she completely rejects it, I can see this leading to divorce as it is shutting down your "preference". But if you give her what she needs a few times a week, and if she feels that you did, then maybe there's hope...

Good luck!

Ugh, I just realized this was posted a while ago. Wonder how things are going.

One thing I have learned in my professional life is that the presenting concern is often not the real concern. A diaper fetish is an easy to speak of justification for a divorce when there might very well be more deap seated problems in the relationship. Many times when people exit from relationships and organizations, the reason they give is often not the main reason. I cannot speak directly to your situation as I do not know you or your other half, but I think there is much, much more to your relationship problems than a mere fetish. I wish you the best and hope that you and your wife will be able to work your differences out. Too often in this world people tend to think of their pleasures and concerns long before they consider the greater good in their lives.

During our divorce the diapers word was brought up but also so was:

working on race cars

drinking

the use of pain pliis

going to indoor shooting range

hadnt had sex in long time

hadnt gone dancing in long time

HELLO I WAS PARILISED AND IN A WHEEL CHAIR

but also what was brought up was her use of cocaine and her going to bars after work with her friends from work and me having to raise our 3 daughters plus do all the housework

My diaper fetish and bedwetting came out in my divorce she was a bitch yes in was embarrassing but so was her sleeping around