Enemamates and sexual orientation

Stated that I consider sexism as a despicable demonstration of cultural backwardness, last week I have been involved in a discussion about sexual orientation of those who feel erotic sensations in giving and / or receiving enemas to / by people of their same sex.

On that occasion some of the present asserted that the above-said persons can't be heterosexual, but are at least bisexual.

I strongly contested these assertions, because I believe that, for those like us who feels pleasure in giving and in receiving enemas, the maximum pleasure is in the erotic treatment itself, independently of the sex of the giver and the receiver.

Of course, the enjoyment is strongest when the playmate is a beloved one (because most often there's also "a before" and "an after"), however this is quite normal and the same happens for an evening at the theater, for a trip in sailing boat, and so on.

I myself have never had any doubts about my heterosexuality, nevertheless I feel an intense pleasure when I happen to give or to receive an enema to or by another woman.

Personally I don't take into any account the sexist biases and I don't care at all what those intolerant people think about my sexual orientation; however, in cold blood, I said to myself that maybe those persons were not sexists and that there may be some truth in their statements.

So now, since certainly no one in here has sexual prejudices, I'd like to know your opinion about this topic.

Hello all.

Claudia -- Long ago I gave up wondering why I am the way I am. I now only seeking gratification for what I am. Like you I have never had any doubts about my heterosexuality but can find pleasure from being administered an enema from a female both for health and erotic reasons. -- DD

While I am certainly anal erotic, I could not enjoy enemas from other members of the same sex

Have played on both sides of the fence i perfer from a woman

Reading your replies up to now, it seems to me that most of you don't like at all receiving (or giving) enemas from (or to) persons of the same sex.

Is it so?

Based on the responses here, I think that if you aren't in a hospital or giving the enema for some medical reason, and you enjoy giving enemas for the sake of "giving" to the same sex, you probably are bisexual.

If the enema isn't for a medical reason, it is most likely a "sexual" activity.

If the enema isn't for a medical reason, it is most likely a "sexual" activity.

Most probably you are right, however, at least for me, there's also a third function equally important: it helps me to relieve tiredness and stress.

When I happen to go back home in the late evening, tired and stressed, my more pleasing and relaxing therapy is to get a lukewarm enema lying face down on the bed, with arms folded under my chin and a soft pillow under my hips.

If I'm alone at home, necessarily I do all myself. Conversely, if there's anyone with me (obviously not a stranger whatever, but a family member, a close friend or a person with whom I have great intimacy), I am more than happy to receive my enema from this one (if well disposed in doing it), whatever the sex.

So I can stay comfortably lying down all the time and enjoy my enema totally relaxed, without having to move or to do twisting.

Is there anything wrong in that? Honestly I don't think.

I would agree with this. There are things you can do alone but being given an E most always is better than giving one to yourself.

Giving an enema to a friend is an act of affection and love. These characteristics can be found in both gay and straight individuals. If there is true enjoyment of enemas between both parties, pleasure is highly likely to abound, and greater emotional (not physical, emotional) affection and fondness may be a result and a plus for both individuals. After all, enema activity between two individuals is inherently intimate in a very special one. One is essentially giving up a good bit of one's bodily control to the giver, and the giver is bound to fell and respect that and act accordingly. Those who have enjoyed such contacts will affirm that significant and special closeness of a unique quality is often a by-product.

I just had one of my most sensuous solo enema episodes ever experienced (described below). A lifelong heterosexual, I found myself wondering what it might feel like to have an actual warm penis sliding in and out of my anus and rectum instead of a favorite nozzle or dildo—connected to an equally warm body to hug and feel genuine love for as mutual delights are explored. Much preferring a female partner—seemingly hard to come by in real life in recent years—I nevertheless much feel a need to fulfill a desire to share anal pleasures with a fun-loving partner.

I like to take my enemas in bed—safely atop a plasticized pad and thick, absorbent cotton diaper—so that I can feel maximum relaxation and comfort. I mostly use a four-quart silicone bag that, this time, I suspended a mere twelve inches above "entry." After a preliminary cleansing enema, I refilled the bag with a two-quart coffee solution and placed a container with a small quantity of wine nearby within easy reach. From the twelve-inch height, the first third of solution went in at a "normal" rate of flow, then diminished to a sensual slow rate for the next third. The final third was stop-and-go, while bowel contractions allowed it to enter and push back into the bag. I enjoyed the back-and-forth relaxation and pressure for about a half hour. Then, while the bag had half-refilled from pressure of my bowel, I sat up to pour in the amount of wine I'd kept aside. Lying back, the sensual back-and-forth flow continued, while I began to experience the new sensation of the wine as it's effect swept over my entire body, enhancing the overall combined feeling of the enema—heavenly indeed!

I would surely love to hear from anyone else who has had a similar experience.

Giving an enema to a friend is an act of affection and love. These characteristics can be found in both gay and straight individuals. If there is true enjoyment of enemas between both parties, pleasure is highly likely to abound, and greater emotional (not physical, emotional) affection and fondness may be a result and a plus for both individuals. After all, enema activity between two individuals is inherently intimate in a very special one. One is essentially giving up a good bit of one's bodily control to the giver, and the giver is bound to fell and respect that and act accordingly. Those who have enjoyed such contacts will affirm that significant and special closeness of a unique quality is often a by-product.

That is so nice to read! I always think I would love help in the bathroom 😃 I have felt much special fondness toward two of the three colon hydrotherapists I have gone to.

Don't let anyone give or take an enema if you don't respect each other and respect the reason behind the enema! It is more about respect and making it a pleasant experience, than it is about sexual orientation!

I am definitely and totally gay, and enemas and my sexuality are closely bound together. From my earliest fantasies reading ads in Sear's catalogues, I have always fantasized about giving or receiving enemas to/from another male; that is my total interest. I don't hate women or such, and don't consider myself sexist, but where enemas are concerned, I really want to be with someone with the same plumbing (gay or straight doesn't matter to me if it doesn't matter to him).

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Seems I am more interested in male to male enemas, being the reciver, in rral life. But enjoy a lot the images and stories involving m/f dom/sub roles. Prefer them in that context.

I can get pretty aroused when given an enema from a woman, not counting a needed medical setting I'd only allow a man to give me an enema that I was at least somewhat attracted to me. So for me being somewhat bi gender doesn't matter too much at all.

I have given and received enemas to other women that I consider very intimate friends .. very intimate. These friendships started out as with any other friendship but evolved into intimacy and then with enemas over a period of time. Some .. many .. of the enemas we share are not sexually motivated and sometimes it is just a way of being together and really trying to understand what is happening with our lives at the time. To do this .. or have sexual intercourse with another woman .. I have to be honest and say that it does involve bi-sexuality. But with those few women friends I share enemas with .. there are 2 and used to be 3 .. the relationship started out as friends .. then into intimacy .. enemas.

With my husband .. almost all of our enemas are part of foreplay .. or afterglow .. 99% of them .. and I am on the receiving end of those enemas for the most part .. which I very much want and enjoy. An enema with my friends does not always end up with sex .. many times this is the case.

Just being honest with myself .. I have had sex with women .. so that in itself is bisexual .. even if it isn't the goal at the outset.

Claudia: Life is too short to worry about all the politically correct labels society has flying around these past years. If two people can give each other pleasure via a complimentary enema session, enjoy it to the hilt. I consider myself bisexual now that I'm older and more honest with myself. I haven't had a full bisexual experience yet, but if the right person or time comes along I won't be worried about what others think.

I've always been a bit envious by the way women seem to communicate across gender preferences. It seems that women find that easier path to exchange intimacies. Men are often expected to be alpha or have built-in barriers that prevent them from sensitive expression with each other!

Ramlver and watertrain: I believe you are both right ...

Interesting topic, I feel 6 of one and half a dozen of another about this topic.

Over all, for anything that requires real medical things I want a man. For a play setting too, I want a man. But with this being said, I am not going to lie, I went to Ohio University, ummm, things tend to happen at that school and at that age that you may try once or twice and may never try again, I was no exception.

All of my naughty first happened down there at that school my first year. I started smoking, swearing, drinking, I smoked dope a total of 5 times, did't like it by the way, so never did it again. Also, don't like drinking either, so I don't so that any more either. And well I tried a little girl on girl action a time or two.

I was nervous, scared, thoughts kept creeping in my head like, "am I really gay? I have often thoght about getting an enema from a girl at some point in the future to see what that would be like. Someday perhaps?

This is indeed an interesting topic. I feel that I agree with Claudia in her first post which started the thread -

"The maximum pleasure is in the erotic treatment itself, independently of the sex of the giver and the receiver."

I wanted to find someone for years who would be willing to discretely, with no strings attached, give me enemas occasionally, and with no pressure to participate if or when it wasn't feasible for myself. I had really began to think it was just too much of an off-beat fantasy to ever actually happen...

Then I met a guy. He just happens to be gay, but that doesn't matter to me. I am sure that he gets something out of giving guys like me enemas, and that's cool too - why else would, or should he do it?

I had been up front with him since we first started discussing the possibility of myself traveling down his way for a visit that would involve me having enemas given to me. I was not interested in getting fucked in the butt, period. He was totally okay with that. But, like I had said - I am sure that he gets "something" out of it. I know for a fact that I did.

I think that the fact that a guy had given me enemas increased the "kinky" aspect of it for myself. Do I consider myself gay? - No. Am I bi-sexual? - Probably at least to some degree. Have I fantasized about a cock up my ass? - Yes, of course (I am analy-eroticly inclined). Have I fantasized about kissing or making out with another guy? - No!

I have chatted with and read posts of numerous guys that although they profess to be straight, are open minded (at least) to the idea of doing enemas with other guys. Of course a lot of other guys have said "no way" to male/male enema play... Asked me that question 20 years ago, and I would have said no way too. Obviously though, I no longer think the same way.

I recall reading a post or two on this forum stating that the author was bisexual only when it came to enemas, and I believe that may also apply to my own self. Enemas seem to be a "different kind of thing" for some people.

The enemas that were given to me by another man were sensual, erotic, and totally pleasurable, as they were meant to be. I was totally at ease - with being naked, having a hard on, being anally stimulated, masturbating, being seen, and with acknowledging all the pleasure that I was having. And as I have said - I certainly hope that he had got something from it too.

If I lived closer to my new friend, I definitely would have had visited him a few more times. I don't think I would be into it every week end though. I wouldn't stop doing enemas by myself either, even if it was possible to visit another person every time that I wanted an enema. I can't wait until spring/summer when I can begin to have more excuses to be away from home most of the weekend!

FOr me it does not really matter about the sex or gender preference of the other person. I just like to give and receive. Had gerat times with both males and females, straight and gay.

I've given/received enemas from both males and females and have enjoyed both. I find enemas sexually stimulating but there doesn't always have to be any other sexual activities involved for me to enjoy them.

All of my enemas have been solo. But a female giver would be my preference.