Did childhood spankings cause a fetish?

I went to all the wrong schools … 😢

It certainly awoke my fetish. I think the fetish must have been there dormant all along, and then the moment it was aroused there was no going back.

I'd go with yes for me. Being strapped with the belt naked in front of my brothers definitely awakened something in me. My oldest brother is into it, but my middle brother, not so much.

I believe that I was born with a spanking fetish, but I think that being spanked as a child and witnessing spankings as a child most certainly contributed to my spanking fetish.

As far back as three, I can remember lying in my bed fantasizing about men and occasionally women, who were not my parents, spanking me with various implements. Some would be people I knew. Some would be people from TV shows. Sometimes other people were watching. Sometimes other people were getting spanked too. It was very stimulating to me. I started masturbating at an early age, and these were the things of my fantasies.

Like many of the people here, I didn’t particularly like getting spanked by my parents, especially my mother. I despised that, and it lead to a lot of anger and hatred toward her over the years. I didn’t mind my father spanking me as much. I’ve always been a daddy’s girl, so those spankings, while they hurt, somehow seemed ok because they came from him.

And like a lot of the previous posters, I looked up every word possible related to spanking in the dictionary, repeatedly. It got me excited and wet. And any mention of it in a movie or TV show, or better yet, a scene, was awesome.

The icing on the cake though was at school. My school practiced corporal punishment. It was complicated. I would for the most part feel bad for the student getting paddled or having their hand slapped with a ruler, but I would get sexually excited too. And even though I would endless imagine myself in that situation, I was thankful that it really wasn’t me because it would seriously complicate my life.

It was even better if it was a friend, or if a friend got spanked at their home, because then I could politely and delicately interview them about their experience and get more details for my fantasies.

So, for pretty much 40 years spanking has been an important part of my life. It’s a part that I often have to hide, unfortunately, but one I can’t live without since I’m a masochist submissive.

It did, I used to lie in bed at night thinkin of machines to spank me.

It did, I used to lie in bed at night thinkin of machines to spank me.

How old were you when you started to fantasize about spanking ?

In my case, no! Since the kind of spankings I got were not bare bottom or even over the knee! Also my spanking fetish predates them! I have been fascinated by spanking, literally for as long as I can remember!

Not in my case. I wasn't spanked much as a kid; no more than the occasional quick swat on the butt when I was quite young, for direct disobedience (I was pretty sassy). No drama or ritual around it, no pants down or even any humiliation involved.

I was well into my 30s before even thinking about it, and my interest began when reading a novel in which it was done to a woman by her fiancee, in a sort of "Taming of the Shrew" type story, described of course in a very erotic fashion.

Thinking on it now, and knowing how sassy I could be to my poor hubs, I think I feel I deserve, or even need stricter discipline than I have ever received. He still has an extremely hard time bringing himself to spank me even lightly, even though I ask him to. He was raised to believe hitting a woman is absolutely wrong, and struggles with it. I, in the other hand, believe I was more of less allowed to be a brat, until I began trying to reign myself in.

@Phoenix18, in honor of International Women's Day, you could/should tell him that precisely because of today's important event, he should start respecting your wishes and start reddening that bum of yours properly like you want/need it reddened. 😈😄

Aw, I missed the day! Good idea, SadisticDaddy!

I was spanked many times as a child and I hated it. But it did not turn into a fetish. The only childhood activity that turned into a fetish for me was shots in the butt. I got penicillin shots in the but several times each year until I was about 13 or 14 and I hated them. But now I love shots in the butt and I don't get enough of them. When I do get them at the doctor's office, they really don't hurt or sting very much.

. But now I love shots in the butt and I don't get enough of them.

My impression is nowadays shots are administered in the shoulder, not the butt. It was long time ago when the butt was considered as most appropriate place. And I remember those days when we, all boys at school, were lining in a queue to get a jab. One after another we lowered down our pants in front of all others. It was embarrassing. BTW, usually a couple of boys had traces of a belt on their butt and that was considered as nothing extraordinary.

I was flogged with rods until I was 12-13 years old. Often enough. These were not long, thick branches, but rather small and short. They left only longitudinal pink stripes on the body, which disappeared without a trace after a couple of days. It just didn’t make sense to spank them through clothes, I wouldn’t even feel them, so always on bare buttocks. My stepsisters always saw it easily, but I never saw them. Although most likely they were also flogged, but earlier.I didn't develop any fetish for spanking.

Spanking for me and my sister was always at the time of the offense, always bare ass and it didn't matter who was around. It was either administered with a bare hand or a paddle. The humiliation of being exposed in front of others, I recall being awful and this went on until we were about 15. I recall very clearly being spanked in front of a girlfriend when I was 14 and made to stand in the corner with my pants still down. She just sat there and stared. Not sure if it caused my fetish, but I definitely love getting spanked and humiliated from it. The domme I see has brought her friends to watch my spanking sessions on several occasions, it is a total rush.

It's always difficult to tell, as I know some who didn't get spanked who have the fetish, and others who did who don't have it. I was always fascinated by it, but I think certainly being spanked into my teens guaranteed it really and a lot of the things that push my buttons come directly from my experiences at home. There's also the awkward realisation that my fetish probably led me to not put a stop to it when arguably I could have done.

I think certainly being spanked into my teens

Until what age were you spanked, @sonwithsorebum

Until what age were you spanked, @sonwithsorebum

it was a primary punishment until I went off to university, although a lot less used by that point.

I really don't think that being spanked as a boy created my interest in spanking any more than I think my being taken to the movies as a small boy created my interest in cinema. I don't believe that being exposed to anything regardless of the intensity of the experience necessary would be the determining factor in later-life interest. The first time I remember being spanked, it was intense. But then again the first time I went to the movies and seeing a film on a huge screen as a young boy was also pretty intense. I was exposed a lot to fishing and sports as a boy and those experiences were unpleasant too but I did not become interested in fishing or sports in later life.

I have always been interested in domestic and school disciplinary spanking as a boy and adult and corporal punishment in a variety of other venues such as prison, military, judicial setting, etc as an adult. I am not really interested in most erotic spankings unless they originate as a disciplinary event and then I am only interested in the disciplinary aspect. M/F spanking scenarios and video interest me as an adult because of the punitive aspect but also erotically if it is a young woman being spanked and her lovely buttocks and/or vagina are displayed. And even though I am also intensely interested in cinema, the same is true for that interest...I love certain genres of film and avoid others like the plague.

Without having any proof whatsoever, I still believe that people tend to develop interests in things in certain ways for a large variety of reason that may or may not have both a nature and nurture component.

No, I didn't even know it was a thing until I was maybe 13. I think what caused it was when I got my own room, the first time I said was saying bye bye to the getting to bed at 10 PM rule and watched TV and reality shows, including all kinds of adult ones that were really popular in the 2000s. I happened on an episode, even though I can't remember which show it was where they talked about BDSM and girls volunteered to be spanked and talked about it. This causes all kinds of emotions since I didn't really understand why anyone would do that and later developed into fantasies about that.

Not for me, I was spanked a lot as a child (or smacked we often say in Aus). Sometimes I was often smacked with a belt, wooden spoon or the like.

But I’m not a huge fan of receiving a spanking now and not my first thing I come to mind when I have someone to spank either haha

Never enjoyed being spanked as a kid. What did turn me on to spanking as a sexual expression was being asked by a friend to spank his wife. Found that to be a huge turn on and stuck with me ever since.

I believe I have written about that somewhere on here previously.

I was spanked growing up, and even a few times in my teens, but I think that was only an indirect cause of my fetish. The summer I turned 19, however, I (very discreetly) dated an older woman who knew my aunt, who had basically raised me and my sisters.

Anyway, one day while I was seeing the woman, I guess she saw my aunt in town (the perils of living in a small town) and my aunt who was never a fan of mine just went on and on about how difficult I was growing up, and how often she had to spank me. This clearly put ideas into the woman's head, and I had to spend the rest of the summer hiding the fact that it was often uncomfortable for me to sit down.

After that, and until I was in my 30s when my interests changed, I will admit I found excuses to mention my childhood experiences to the usually older women I dated. I never asked for one, but a few did jump at the chance.

I think it contributed but was not a decisive factor.

I think it's more because I'm in control most of the time and if I get spanked this means I have someone to keep me in line, therefore I was a baddie and stepped out of line and broke the rules, that excites me

I believe that being spanked growing up and watching other getting spanked added to it. I also believe that i inherited it as I found out at 18 from another friends mom that the parents had spanking parties.

I'm really not sure. For me it's always been a chicken or egg moment.

I wouldn't say that I was a bad kid overall, but I did get spanked fairly often growing up. Moreso as an early teen. I had developed a bit of a rebellious streak at that point. My father was never in the picture so I think my mom was the type to try and be both parents. She was incredibly loving and sweet, very understanding and empathetic but also could be particularly strict when she felt like she needed to be. Being an only child, I got all the attention I needed positive or negative.

I don't really remember how old I was when I got my first "real" spanking. I must have been maybe like 8 or 9? And by real I mean more than just a few swats on the bottom in the moment. Spankings stopped shortly after I turned 16 and most of the memorable ones were between 14 and 15. I'm sure there's some sort of connection to be made, since those are formative years in terms of sexuality. But the thing is I remember being even younger and hearing about spanking on the TV or from overhearing parents talking or seeing the word in a book or whatever it was and being thoroughly excited and obsessive about the idea. It was kind of awkward because there were moments when I was a kid and I would want to "play spanking" in the same vein as some kids want to "play doctor" before I had ever even experienced a "real spanking" but this never became a reality.

I think I was born a spanko and would have gotten here regardless. But maybe my upbringing shaped the way I respond to it. Something about the way my mom carried out the discipline instilled in me very early this kind of logic of "okay, this has to happen to me whether I like it or not" Like, if someone told me something was wrong I would understand that it was wrong and that I shouldn't do it again. I knew that logically and that would usually be enough for me to not break a rule. But simultaneously it was like something was incomplete until I underwent some sort of punishment if I did break a rule. It wasn't entirely a guilt based feeling. The phrase "balancing the scales" doesn't quite fit either. Idk, its very hard to explain. But its still the case today for me as an adult. In fact, as an adult I think the verbiage and concept of "punishment" has almost eclipsed that of "spanking" and become more exciting. Just like in my childhood, punishment sometimes was spanking, or spanking and corner time, or just corner time, or something else - that is still the case for me today. There just has to be some sort of unpleasant exchange. I don't need to "suffer" I just need to simply be punished for what I did wrong.

I think the arousal I got from the embarrassment and exposure led to the kink. Not particularly the spankings themselves.

I think it may be.

Spanking was quite common when I was a child. I remember one episode. I came to my friend’s house to call him to play outside as we arranged beforehand. I knocked on the door while hearing some noise inside. His younger sister opened the door and allowed me in where I heard more clearly my friend’s dad shouting at him and I saw from the entrance hall how my friend was pulling his pants and underpants up in a rush. It appeared he was being spanked and my arrival helped to stop the punishment half way.

I felt sorry for my friend and at the same time I felt relief that even he’s got spanked too, not just me. On that day my friend was not allowed to go and play with me. The next day we had a chat about this. He admitted such things happen to him sometimes and I said the same. Even at that time when I was 11ish I felt something exciting discussing spankings with my friend, especially when he described it was always bare bottom for him and asked me and I confirmed the same.

@Kulemh wrote:

I think it may be...

...The next day we had a chat about this. He admitted such things happen to him sometimes and I said the same. Even at that time when I was 11ish I felt something exciting discussing spankings with my friend, especially when he described it was always bare bottom for him and asked me and I confirmed the same.

I remember having similar feelings when I discovered a friend was spanked as I was (felt sorry for the friend but relieved that it wasn't just me.)

Did you and your friend engage in any spanking play after that event?

I used to think that my spanking fetish stemmed from being spanked as a child, but there still seem to be plenty of spanking enthusiasts who missed out on childhood spankings by ten or twenty years.