Be Honest

I guess I am lucky in having ladies give me enemas. The ladies I have met were online first. The decussions were perfectly normal and as our friendship grew, the conversations became more personal. I ended up getting enemas from a few of these ladies, while others just became online friends. But in all cases, I've found that if you are just honest and open, the ladies are usually more than willing to listen and if you are lucky, they might actually be curious. Unfortunately, many people were given very painful enemas when they were young and they don't understand that if an enema hurts, it isn't being done correctly. Honesty and patience is the best way to deal with that.

Well, i am a bit afraid that my boyfriend thinks i am crazy when i honestly tell about my enema phantasy. i don't think that he would react this way, but it is possible. and i don't think my enema phantasy is it worth to risk our relationship.

(but as you might read in one of my other messages, i already got a plan how to get him into this stuff without risking too much).

Theresa,

If you are afraid to be direct with your boyfriend, try a little more suttle approach. You could tell your boyfriend you aren't feeling well and that you need an enema (not completely honest, but you do need one in a way). Ask him if he could help you out by holding the bag for you and maybe insert the nozzle. If he turns you down, nothing is lost. But if he wants to have anal sex with you, I don't think he is going to turn you down. Let us know how it goes. 😄

GB

I could not agree with you more about being honest. All you need to do is think of the times, and, I am sure all of us have experienced, being lied to. You know, I believe that all of this is really just common sense and being honest, considerate and one of the most important is listening to your partner, or anyone for that matter

best wishes,

gentleman

Honesty and good judgment seem critical to me in getting someone to do anything that is less vanilla than going to a movie.

There are PLENTY of women who want to be spanked, and MANY of these like enemas. But, you can't just post an "ENEMATE" ad and expect them to reply.

Think about the regular lovers that you have had. Did you just walk up to her/him and ask if they would go to bed with you? Probably not. This takes time!

I have found very few naturally dominant women. If you are male and want someone to give you an enema, I have found that a spanking partner will probably give one to you, if she feels like you care about her and she feels emotionally safe.

Sorry, but I don't know shortcuts outside of hiring professionals or going to an efest or Shadow Lane party.

I introduced my partner (sub) to it through D/s.

Simple, once she accepted me as her Dom, she accepted being told what would happen.

In previous experiences, within vanilla relationships, I have found the most adventurous of partners reluctant to cross the line into enemas for erotic pleasure.

I have an ex wife who had used enemas for purely theraputic reasons and did once try with me but did not understand / appreciate the erotic nuances to be derived from the process.

My wife brought us some handcuffs to expiriment with so maybe i could move further and try bdsm enemas with her?

I've broached the subject some time ago with my gf. Initially she seemed receptive and not all that shocked, but since then she's become much more hesitant, and now I've not even brought it up in some time

I have been lucky I suppose and have introduced several girls into the joys of a full bum.

Some were very anal, and many girls are very erotic there if shown how gentle it can be, and some were more hesitant but after they were reasurred that they would feel much the better for it they tried and liked.

Many ladies are constipated a lot of the time and they so enjoy the relief. One said to me that all girls should be taught about having an enema for their periods.

Shen

I see everything in life something like this:

Don’t lie to get what you want.

Respect others for being who they are.

If you enjoy it and it causes no harm to others, knock yourself out!

If you want your wife to participate in any activity from enemas to football. Knowledge is the key. Know how they feel, respect their boundaries. First time out, don’t expect them to jump in with both feet. Start small, get them their own equipment. Sometimes it’s only a matter of giving them the tools and opportunity to explore on their own.

I have actually given 2 of my wife’s best friends an enema. My wife was in the room with us and I respected the boundaries of not trying to have sex with them, but it sure made for a lot of fun between my wife and I. She likewise watched as I show a friend of mine how to do one as well. He got a real kick from the fact that I would let her watch.

I always said it is easier to get a lady to try enemas than to try to find a lady into them right off the bat.

A woman to whom you make sweet love on a regular basis will become more and more open-minded.

I always found out that women with a good sense of humor and who love the many pleasures of life were more easily turned on by bizarre kinks.

I always said it is easier to get a lady to try enemas than to try to find a lady into them right off the bat.

A woman to whom you make sweet love on a regular basis will become more and more open-minded.

I always found out that women with a good sense of humor and who love the many pleasures of life were more easily turned on by bizarre kinks.

That's a good advice. More women are anally erotic than most expect. My wife who was a real klismo, told me that a huge portion of her g/f's also loved anal sex. Most however had not tried enemas. But the few she encouraged to, did get "hooked".

So try some light anal play with your girlfriend or date. Fingering. Some slight pressure against the outer anal ring. See what her reaction is. You never know !!!!!!

I have never had a lady give me an enema. We have just done this on our own.

More women are anally erotic than most expect. My wife who was a real klismo, told me that a huge portion of her g/f's also loved anal sex. Most however had not tried enemas. But the few she encouraged to, did get "hooked".

So try some light anal play with your girlfriend or date. Fingering. Some slight pressure against the outer anal ring. See what her reaction is. You never know !!!!!!

Sounds like fun to me!

How much are women being anal erotic a sex thing, or a way to not get pregnant. I think when the fear of getting pregnant is off the table women become more erotic over all.

I could always tell if a date was anal erotic if she let me play with her ass and put one or more fingers in.

All the women I have had anal sex with rubbed themselves as they were on all fours and took them from behind.

We almost always came together 😃

I have been fortunate to have several different females give me enemas over the years. Some enjoy receiving, a few (including my current wife) do not like to be on the receiving end.

But all of this play is because of open, honest communication. I am not afraid to turn someone away if they do not want to play with enemas... have had to let a couple hotties go because I never would have been able to have a quality relationship with them.

But overall, the girls I have had enema play with came from simple dating and chats about fetishes and fantasies. Enemas always come up and I have had a few "converts" over the years.

Try an e-fest or keep looking here or on fetlife. Good luck!

J

Got my wife to give to me twice, then kids came along and shut things down. Need to figure out how to bring it back up because it was nice - first time was mostly kosher (I was more backed up then), second time I caught it earlier and it was more enjoyable. She saw my erection and didn't freak out, so there seems to be hope... I hope anyway!

All the women I have had anal sex with rubbed themselves as they were on all fours and took them from behind.

Agree with you there, but while they liked my anal fingering, it did not always mean they were into enemas (not that you were saying it would mean they were)...

Once I brought it up with my wife she became willing to give me enemas when I ask. She's very accepting of my anal eroticism and I'm very fortunate.

I am very lucky having been married to two fine ladies.Both have passed,lost a wonderful woman a little over a year ago to a freak accident.Both accepted my fetish for enemas and allowed me to give and receive.Being 80 years young I have petty much accepted the fact that my luck has run out but have good memories Have started to get rid of some of the items and may offer some here if anyone is interested.