Double standatd in the health care field

It's so interesting for me to learn your opinion about the proposition for double standard in the health care institutions. I have my own experience in close bond with that assertion. Even after reach puberty I and most of my male coevals have our complete physical exam with our mothers present in exam room. Plead the medical office-policy about a parent be present, my mom stay and watch during examination, despite my protest. The inspection include genital exam to, and I was obliged to lower my underpants to my ankles. The doctor started by check my testicles, phase of development of my penis and hernia check. Then she retracted the foreskin of my penis to insure all is OK. All that procedure happened right in front of my mother. I don’t think all that can be happen with female patient with male chaperone.

I agree with you completely, and I got an erection the first time it happened to me. I was grilled by my mom for doing this...

It makes for some interesting stories later in life

When I was growing up, it was always my mother that took care of me, helped me buy clothes, took me to the doctor. My dad never saw me nude. I have two sons 12 and 10 and I have taken them to the doctor and have been in the room when they were examined, and neither one of them complained. The doctors office requires that a child under a certain age being examined, have a parent present. My husband could have taken off work to be there, but it was more convenient to have me go with them. I consider it to be a mother's duty. It may be a double standard, but I would venture to to that most of the time it is a necessity.

I do agree with the double standard. I also think the mom should not grill her teenage son about the erection that happens when the doctor is performing a genital or rectal exam.

Lets face it. When it comes to mothers , they can do whatever and be whereever they want. Without them, we wouldn't be here.

My mother was present at numerous physical exams...definately a double standard

Yea, there is a huge double standard, I think it is unfair for men who do not feel the way we all feel being in this room. I am sure glad from time-to-time I have been a willing/unwilling participant of the double standard.

Seems like a practical standard for me to have a parent present in the exam room with a child under the age of, say 12-15 years of age.

There is without a double standard as my Mom was there during my physicals growing up, but more so due to my scenario, it has always been my responsibility to take my kids to the doctor as my wife travels more than she is home with her job. With that said, all is normal for my 11 y/o son, but my 15 y/o daughter hasn't taken a stitch of clothing off, other than pushed around here and there, in years. Figure that is the double standard, new age of medicine, and my presence.

Dr. Bob...not looking for a cheap "Show" from daughter; Lord knows if I want that all I need to do is hang out at my pool when she and her friends are there in their little bikini's. What I am saying is that being the standard care-giver consistently for my two kids, with the same pediatrician (so it isn't like I'm new to the scene one day), there is a difference. My son undresses to an appropriate level for his age and she hasn't for years. As a parent you do protect your kids as opposed to pushing them out there to get a cheap thrill.

It may be double standard, but moms are more careful about kids growing up. My mom followed my development very closely, including inspections for health and hygine at home. Embarassing, but probably a good idea.

It is certainly a double standard but which is justified in a certain way.

It is normal that the mothers who take care of their son, who were bathing them when they were still unable to do it themselves correctly can be present for a medical examination of the boys, a few years after she stopped bathing them, at least until they reached puberty.

After, as I said previously, I think that the mother may also be present for the examination of a male teenager, above all if he is not very mature which is often the case for boys, but she must be more discreet.

Some teenagers can even feel more comfortable in a doctor office if their mother is still present as far as they are not exposed naked in her plain view.

Nevertheless, it is not fair if the doctor is performing a genital exam right in front of her eyes but of course, if there is an issue, she is very much concerned and can watch while the doctor explains what it is.

I believe that the men who complain about this double standard are too much thinking to their embarrassment and not enough to the necessity for a mother to know of her son is in good health. It is a normal interest, without anything unsane.

As one has previously said, we, men, will not be here if there was not a women to give us birth, a mother is generally the person who knows best her son, even her body until he became an adult.

I second Arnie12's comment - "Mom's are mom's - they do what needs to be done

DrLaennec

Whichever parent provides the greater amount of primary care - the one who takes care of you when you're sick, as opposed to the parent who works more, is going to be in the room with you while you're young. That's mothers in the majority of cases. It's not a double standard, it's just statistics. I doubt that a doctor would have a father removed from a consultation room during his daughter's exam, if she requested he be there, but that's got to be a rare case.

As children become teenagers, it may be that parent and children come to an agreement about when/if a parent is present or not, or it may be the case that the doctor senses some reason for a parent to not be in the room. (I've worked in various medical centres, and occasionally, there are parents who are so domineering, or interfering that it is too inefficient and difficult to have them there. A doctor may ask the parent to leave in that case. That being said, sometimes, even adults really need a parent there).