New To Med Play

Regardless of your gender, your expectations or your other proclivities, here are some things that you should know:

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

There are literally thousands of intelligent, well educated, perfectly responsible, prosperous and otherwise normal people exploring or expressing an interest in the psycho-sexual appeal of Medical Play on the internet every single day and probably millions more who still think that they're the only one in the entire universe that is interested in Gyno Play, simply because they have yet to discover their compatriots.

MEDICAL PLAY IS A FETISH

In this context, a fetish is a compulsive interest in something that becomes the object of sexual behavior. A fetish is not necessarily bad unless it is allowed to interfere with every day life in a detrimental way. In this respect, Medical Fetish is like so many other aspects of adult life: harmless and entertaining when practiced responsibly and in moderation. Many Med Fets refer to themselves as "perverts"; but, don't take this too seriously. It's just a form of self deprecating humor.

BEING CURIOUS ABOUT MED PLAY IS PERFECTLY ALL RIGHT

You'll find that most of the people in this community are very accepting and will be eager to help or to inform, regardless of your sexual orientation, life circumstance or intention to participate. Being "new" is actually considered attractive; so, forge ahead fearlessly.

MED FETISH IS RELATED TO BDSM AND D & S

Med Play is related to BDSM, Dominance and Submission; but, exactly how and to what extent, is highly controversial within the community. Feel free to form your own opinions on this subject; but, it may be helpful early on to bear in mind that, at least in my own opinion, submission isn't an orientation or a lifestyle. It is a state of mind that a patient may enter into for Gyno Play; but, one that they find inappropriate for other facets of their lives such as work or family. Regardless of the controversy surrounding the exact nature of submission, it is widely acknowledged within the community that it is actually the patient (or "submissive") that ultimately calls the shots in Gyno Play.

MED PLAY IS ULTIMATELY ABOUT POWER TRANSFER

The play doc earns the patient's trust and then vindicates it by understanding and satisfying the patient's deep seated desires. The power dynamic in Med Play is very intereting because, even though the play doc is nominally in control, it is the patient's predelictions, proclivities and desires that really drive what happens.

KEEP AN OPEN MIND

The Med Fet community is very diverse. You may be interested to know, for example, that a very large portion of the community is comprised of bi-sexual and bi-curious women. A smaller, but still considerable, component of the community is comprised of Lesbian women. Together with heterosexual women, probably half, or more, of the Med Fet community, is female. This is completely unlike other adult oriented communities which are, unfortunately, often dominated by men.

MANY OF THOSE WHO ACTIVELY PARTICIPATE ARE MARRIED

Many of those who participate are happily married to people

who are not interested in Med Play. Medical Fetish is 95% between the ears and only 5% between the legs. It is therefore not a sexual act in the conventional sense. For example, many play doctors do not perform the conventional sex act with their patients. Med Play is usually gratuitous, it certainly has no pro creative potential and isn't generally expected to lead to a conventional, loving, long term relationship (although friendship is almost always a result). Med Play can, and often does, co-exist with conventional, otherwise monogamous, sex within the context of a faithful marriage.

THESE ARE JUST MY OPINIONS

They are presented as a starting point for those who are new to Med Play.

Hi,

I'm new to this site, and I just wanted to say thank you for all of the information that you have provided and also for your opinions. I found reading this information to be very interesting. It makes a lot of sense.

Lex

I too am new to the medical fetish, and wanted to say thank you for the interesting observations.

Very interesting post - I am a little curious, in a married (or otherwise committed) situation how does the idea of a play exam with someone not the SO work for the SO?

Thank you for the information about Medical Fetish. I have been doing medical play off and on for about 40 years. I started when I was in Nursing School and continued with my first wife who was into it in a big way, but found a guy she liked to play with better than me and left. My current wife (a nurse also) is not into it so satisfying my desires has been spotty at best. The internet has helped as I slowly found sites like this one which at least allow me to satisfy my urges vicariously. Hopefully, someday I can doplay it again IRL.

Examminer. - Thats a really good interpretation of the motives of medfet players, particularly where you touch upon the relationship with SO's.

I especially like your reference to players coming to the scene with an open mind. I often get potential examinees referring to their size or colour etc. It's not important at all. Your further reference to 95% of the attraction being between the ears, in that most important sex organ, the brain, being the most important.

Great advice. I am definitely submissive sexually speaking, but in no other aspects of my life. I am bossy, hyperactive and dominant in my job and a natural born leader. But in bed I love being tied up and teased!!!

Great advices, thanks for posting

I really enjoyed the summary of medical fetishism. I completely agree and think that the summary is great advice for people new to medfet.

However, i feel so alone...

Very good explanation and advice.

Xamminer, I'm not sure how I missed reading this, but I feel like it should be on the front page of this website. Very nicely put.

I've had a long time interest but i've never acted on them with another person.. so i am kind of new. anyhow, i enjoy this forum cause i do feel a bit alienated at times (in my mind) because of my interests.

Medical Fetish is 95% between the ears and only 5% between the legs. .

I am so glad to read that others have the same opinion. After having gotten over the feeling of being a very odd person out and discovering the large number of similarly minded individuals on the internet, there then followed a period where I thought that once again I was not adhering to the norm by never participating in actual play with anyone else ...

Nice to see that the imagining aspect is so prevalent and acknowledged ...

I beg to differ but I do feel alone. not because im into "medfet" but I dont like at all what most people in this rather narrow fetish like. I dont like nurses, I dont like doctors, I just want to have fun with my boyfriend or husband..And I dislike everything that isnt consensual and voluntary so I have to admit this topic is very difficult for me.

I beg to differ but I do feel alone. not because im into "medfet" but I dont like at all what most people in this rather narrow fetish like. I dont like nurses, I dont like doctors, I just want to have fun with my boyfriend or husband..And I dislike everything that isnt consensual and voluntary so I have to admit this topic is very difficult for me.

First, my kink isn't your kink. There is no pressure for you to do or like what I do and like.

MedFet IS about consensual play, where do you see otherwise? Are you talking about people wanting to be restrained during play? That restraint is consensual.

If all you want to do is to play with your SO, that's fine. Use the forum for ideas. Take what you like, leave the rest.

I beg to differ but I do feel alone. not because im into "medfet" but I dont like at all what most people in this rather narrow fetish like. I dont like nurses, I dont like doctors, I just want to have fun with my boyfriend or husband..And I dislike everything that isnt consensual and voluntary so I have to admit this topic is very difficult for me.

Jds4med is absolutely correct, take what you want, leave the rest.

I don't think it's accurate to suggest this site deals with a narrow fetish.

..And I dislike everything that isnt consensual and voluntary so I have to admit this topic is very difficult for me.

Hmmmm ... from all that I have read here and from other sites and chats and so on, medfet is indeed about engaging in voluntary and consensual play. No one forces anyone to do anything contrary to their wishes. A fine how-do-you-do it would be if people went around forcing others to engage in play they didn´t wish to engage in.

You may be confusing medfet fantasies and imaginings in which some of us IMAGINE and PRETEND that the situation is not of our own will, but that is just an important part of the fantasy.

And there are posts in which members ask advice about how to convince their partners to play along, but once again the emphasis is on convincing ... not forcing.

This is a great little post and I hope many new folk read. In fact, all should read. Sometimes I forget, I'm not alone.

Thanks for the post, i am new and it answered a few things

This is an awesome summary of medfet!

Thank for a great summary.The art about how MedFet can coexist in a marriage certainly applies to me - it is the first time I have seen it expressed by someone else.

This is a great post. Examiner gives a concise description of the basics. I feel he is spot on! As a submissive I concur with his description of the power play involved. It is up to me to surrender to a situation or an individual.

Thank you for sharing and reminding us we are not alone in our desires.

I agree with the other commenters. Thank you for an immensely intelligent as well as thoughtful description of medfet. This site is a treasure trove of truly stimulating information. And as you discussed,

I really enjoy the diversity of the members and how much interplay there is between sexual orientations.