Safe word

Having a safe word is a must. But so is the communication before scening. There needs to be an understanding that red means stop. And dominant needs to watch. And listen to their sub. I like to be oushed a bit over my limit but red is something important to both partners

Legally, STOP! and NO! is all that’s needed.

Be safe.

@Lance29 I beg to differ to your statement as there are court cases which will prove you wrong. Having an established safe word will hold much more weight in court and get a conviction if necessary.

This could easily go under one of the "your last/next enema" threads. But it's also an interesting good typical example for me of asking about the sub needing to use their safe word just now.

Status: just finished 4 quarts of warm saline with a single balloon latex catheter pumped up pretty high, about 8-10 pumps. It's a broken DBC which lost the outer balloon a few weeks ago due to rupture (after only 1-2 years - grrrrr!). They wouldn't replace it or give me a discount on another one. Just for the curious, if any, I wore a pair of modestly used/extremely comfortable white Converse Chucks, athletic socks, my catheter with diaper on top, plus a neoprene rubber sweatsuit shirt and SCUBA hood. This all aroused me but also kept me comfortably warm lying on a soft bathroom rug.

I took the whole 4 q rubber bag full largely in one go, over perhaps 20-25 minutes, with a few Higginson pumps here and there to move it along. It was mostly right side down after the first quart or so done on hands and knees. Then I retained it for about 20-30 minutes (forgot my watch/timer this time), almost falling asleep.

The safeword example was/is that during most of the prep, insertion, inflation, filling and retention, I had my fantasy Domme running a narrative in my head as I'm still solo. I wasn't sure I could even take or hold the whole 4 q as I've never had too much success with a single balloon before, but it worked fine today. Also, I hadn't pre-planned it, but in the Domme narrative, she frequently let me know I was moaning and pleading a great deal, and did I need to use a safeword? ("Is everything still green? Do we need to ease up on our little subbie?" "No, mistress, I'm green, and thank you for pushing me.") This is a bit different from my usual fantasy Domme who just goes on and on talking about what I'm going to have do or tolerate next with no mention of safeword. This may seem a very small point, but whether real or fantasy, for me whenever she specifically asks about needing the SW, it gives me a little extra thrill of submission and humiliation/arousal which I really enjoy. I'm guessing it may have come up today because I'd mentioned it here in a post this week. Also even though it was very satisfying, I had somewhat more of a real physical struggle today actually receiving the full 4 quarts, not helped by wondering if the single balloon was going to work well. I may have had more waste volume packed in me than usual, making the fill/retention more challenging. So I really did do even more than my usual moaning and pleading about filling and holding, which may have prompted the "Domme" to ask more about safewording out.

All in all, extremely erotic and satisfying, especially with giving me a nice orgasm while sitting just before emptying. If the single balloon catheter keeps working this well, I may not have to replace it unless it fails.

TL😁R: 4q enema today with sitting orgasm with especially solicitous (fantasy) Domme making my submission/humiliation/arousal even better than usual during one of these. Just my 2¢.

Eric

When I was still experimenting (heh) with Dommes, all but one just made me use a single word system, whereupon it was basically a word for "stop." The last one I sessioned with used the traffic light system so go-slow/ease up - stop as others have mentioned. I tried not to use them at all because these gals pretty much knew what they were doing anyway and could see when I was approaching a limit, even with enemas and other anal play.

Good times. And if You're out there Mistress Morgana, thank You (may i have another)...

I like the yellow idea too. But there should be no consequences for safing out. Especially since limits can be different on different days. No one shares a nervous system & therefore we truly cant gage someomes pain no matter how hard we try. There are times @Slipperynozzle & i know what each other is thinking after almost 10 years together. However thwre are also times i can get a bit too rough with the paddle.

I'm thinking that I'll do a modified traffic light, with "flashing" in front. If you're getting your ass spanked it seems that "red" might enter the discussion, so putting "flashing" in front makes it clear that it's traffic light related.

I'm thinking that I'll do a modified traffic light, with "flashing" in front. If you're getting your ass spanked it seems that "red" might enter the discussion, so putting "flashing" in front makes it clear that it's traffic light related.

That isn't necessary

EVERYBODY knows green, yellow, red are the S&M traffic light colors and what they mean.

Just wondering if discussions such as "my red butt" or "how red am I" might stop play to sort out if it was real or just a comment on the color of my buttocks.

It won't.

If the dom/me or sub is that stupid, they deserve whatever happens.

OK, that makes it easier. Never done this before, wasn't sure if the merest hit of "red" would halt play.