Fisting past the wrist.

Over the past 5 years my wife has been able to fist my anus with considerable ease. She has managed to get her fist and her wrist joint into me. We've seen several videos of males taking fists in up to the elbow and wondered how we progress to this next level. We always use lots of lube and never rush this wonderful experience. Is it simply position, I'm normally on my back with knees pulled up to my chest. In fact is EVERY person able to take fisting to this depth. I've manged to take 20" of a colon snake, which I know is far more flexible than my wifes arm. On looking at large intestine diagrams I get very confused. Clearly the large colon isn't straight but an arm is, so how does the colon straighten out to take the invading arm?

Any help, suggestion, or ideas would be appreciated.

Prickless:

The colon does straighten out as you advance objects. As I have posted in the past, I can fist my husband to my elbows and grab his ribcage from the inside..

Marvin:

According to my husband, you don't know what you are missing

Prickless,

Read this

http://www.jlubejack.us/goingdeep.html

I had a bodywork practice which specialised in prostate massage. Every once in a while, I would get a client who, although he hadn't said anything about this over the phone, showed up not for the massage but to get fisted. Point 1: I did not know this person, had no relationship with him, this was the first interaction between us. How did I know? Either because he indicated something about going from one to more fingers or perhaps he took my hand and started to insert it or because it was non-verbally obvious. Point 2: fisting is an intense relationship between two people, usually non-verbal, in which the fister is 'reading' what is going on with/for the fistee, by watching facial cues, by moving things along with the fistee, never ahead of him. I wasn't the best bottom until I dated someone who bottomed as an escort and showed me, when I topped him, what it meant to WANT to get something up your butt. Then all is possible. Point 3: the fistee has to want, i.e. cue his muscles into taking/relaxing, know which muscles to signal this. Some have argued that these lower muscles are governed by a lower/primal brain, so it would mean moving the signal from the upper to the lower brain.

I have just been fisted but it took months of pre play and stretching,i would love to meet a female for this fun.

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I have just been fisted but it took months of pre play and stretching,i would love to meet a female for this fun.

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Don't worry, once fisted you will always have the confidence to allow yourself to be fisted again.

If you want to be sure, just give yourself a nice dildoing every few days.

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..... Is it simply position, I'm normally on my back with knees pulled up to my chest. In fact is EVERY person able to take fisting to this depth. I've manged to take 20" of a colon snake, which I know is far more flexible than my wifes arm. ...

... so how does the colon straighten out to take the invading arm? Any help, suggestion, or ideas would be appreciated.

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Position: Lying on your back with the knees pulled up means that there will be considerable tension in the muscles, tendons and ligaments around your hole. Consider investing in a sling or turn over so that you are facing down.

I find the best way is to lie face down straddled over a couple of large cushions, with my knees pulled up next to the cushions. My weight is almost entirely supported by the cushions and there is no tension left in my thighs. My head and shoulders are lower than my butt.

Yes your colon straightens out. With constant practice the supporting tissue relaxes and lets you take more.

The main thing is to keep practicing. It took me about 6 years before my partner was able to go in past the elbow.

It's very important not to force anything when anal fisting (FYI, we are not anal fisters, but I work in a gastroenterology clinic where we see all sorts of things...) but anyway the point is your rectum and lardge colon are NOT a straight pipe. There are signiifcant turns. Go slow can help stretch the connective tissue and also rotating you hand can help. But just as everyone has different size penises, everyone will have different elasticities of there colon. If you force it, you can do serious damage, potentially life-threatening. So just remember to go slow and do thrust like the do in the movies!

I think Restof10 meant to say go slow and *DON'T* just thrust like they do in the movies, at least not until you're ready. :-)

I've been anal fisting for over 7 years, been with my current partner 5 1/2 of those, and she has only reached her elbow and felt the inside of my ribcage a half dozen times. At least half of the time she fists me, she doesn't go any deeper than her wrist, the other half she'll get about 4" up her forearm before my body says that's enough. Many times I feel like I want more, but I'm simply too tight, not relaxed enough, or my body simply won't allow it. Here are some hints to help you go deeper if you like.

1) PATIENCE... and *lots* of it. Don't rush it. Play when you can, enjoy when you play, and progress as you're able. It's not a contest and noone is judging you if you don't reach that porn star depth. Just take your time and enjoy whatever you are able to do.

2) Stretching... Play with some fairly large toys as you are able. The first barrier your partner runs into will be your anus. If she can't make it past there, she won't be able to go deeper. I like to insert a 3" diameter toy at least once or twice a week, holding it 10-30 minutes enjoying the stretch on my anus. Your body will try to cramp and push it out, but if you can hold it until the contractions pass and relax, it will strengthen and stretch your anus, allowing you to take larger things (like an arm).

I haven't been able to confirm this in a medical manual, but my partner described a second sphincter about 9" into my bowels. When she reached there, she massaged it first with the tip of one finger, then another, then another, and so on, gradually opening it until she was able to insert her whole hand. This took us months to do, but with patience and practice, it was possible. I like to use a 24" long dildo to reach and open this sphincter and stay accostomed to the feelings.

3) Position... On my back with my knees drawn up is a *terrible* position for me. My bowels and abdominal muscles fall toward my back, folding over themselves. I have taken a deep fist on my stomach, but my favorite position is on my knees and elbows, back straight, chest slightly below my hips. This lets my abdomen stay mostly straight and gives me room to move as needed.

My partner prefers to sit behind and to my left, using her right arm for two reasons. First, the bowels go in a certain distance from the anus, then turn toward your (the recipient's) left side. As my partner reaches this point, she can bend her wrist to keep her hand pointed in the right direction to move my bowels as needed. As pyewacket said, your colon will move, but it takes practice. Second, she's right handed. A deep fisting takes effort from the giver, not only the recipient. My partner's left arm and shoulder are not as strong as her right and tire more quickly. She also has more dexterity with her right hand, which is important for moving with my body, rather than forcing her way in.

4) Partnership... It takes two to fist beyond the wrist, the giver and the recipient. As you've doubtless learned already, you work together, learning each other's bodies, moves, and cues. The more you get to know each other, fisting and otherwise, the easier it will be to work together.

4) Cleanliness... This may not be as much of an issue for you and your partner, but it is for me and mine. If I'm dirty, there is much more friction and discomfort. Also, my partner doesn't like dirt. If there is much dirt, she stops, plain and simple. I'm not excited by the dirt, I just accept it as part of the play, but it is a show stopper for her. As wrestler wrote, "fisting is an intense relationship between two people," and you both have to be comfortable if you want to explore it deeper (pun intended).

Take your time, be patient, and practice, practice, practice and eventually your wife will be able to tickle your belly button - from the inside.

I know from personal experience that I have a kind of second sphincter about a 20cm in which needs to be slowly stretched to take anything past it.

Using large toys and inflatables is obviously an effective way to stretch, but you can also just stretch by slowly practicing fisting. It takes experience on both ends to deep fist.

I usually find that I have to rotate my wrist a lot to get through the second sphincter, that being said there are some people that I have played with who have nearly straight piped themselves through experience and knowing how to relax. that being said they are all 10+year players in the game. I find that imagining I am putting a sock on my hand helps a lot in getting through with most. some you can get one or two fingers to dip through the second ring and then if you can stay with them and they can keep their head in the game lightly flexing the fingers and sort of manoeuvring the rest of the folds around gets the third and fourth through followed by another duckbill and some wiggles and though you will go! I have found with some that to have them roll to their right side with the leg in the air helps.

In another post on here, I found a link to SquarePeg toys. Under their Learn section, Health Information they have a Physiology section that talks about this "second sphincter." A little snippet from their site (http://www.squarepegtoys.com/topics/health/) ...

The Puborectalis … what some call the Second Sphincter.

Although you can have feces in your rectum, the bulk of it is usually held back by what Morin refers to as the ‘pubo-rectal sling’, in America known as the Puborectalis. It is a loop of muscle attached to the pubic bone at both ends and embedded within a whole sheet of muscles within the cavity of the pelvis which wraps around the intestine to form what is essentially the boundary between the rectum and the sigmoid colon. A lot of people commonly refer to this as the ‘Second Sphincter’, some say the ‘Third Sphincter’ depending whether you count the anus as having 1 or 2.

Waow, what a lot of good knowledge. Those posts will for sure help me getting deeper.

I took us at least a couple years to get through the bigun! I actually used a 1/2 pint mason jar back then to see what I was dealing with. I regret the decision, however they are quite thick and durable. I shined a flashlight when it was in and seen a, which appeared to be a small opening. I later started sticking one finger in and kinda ream around with that one finger. I continued to add a finger just as you would starting out being a beginner. My guy was dig-gin it as much as me. I finally got to the four-finger point and added the thumb. Now we've been working on this for about two months now. The duck bill or goose neck was what I had been doing to this point. It seemed to me that this was not "my approach", so I bent my four finger at the second joint back into my hand so that is was more like a flat goose neck with a flat top. I made my hand as flat as I could. My thumb was almost rolled in. There was a degree of stroking and twisting throughout the process. I later found the angle you go through at is as important as the raking of the knuckles can create pain for the bottom and decrease your play time. It took about four months of this. The whole fist, when at the right point and angle will or seemed to slip and be sucked in simultaneously. A sling is the only time I do him on his back. 90% of the time he is on his knees. I use my left hand and know at a certain point I need to veer right after a quick left-right jag and pop through it. I then open up into a standard duck bill and keep going That sure was a long time ago! The best I can remember it took three years, three times a week and up to three hour sessions! Young and resilient I guess. Typical would be 1.5-2 hours. We also lucked out and after many trials discovered the secret weapon of the time, in lubes!