No luck with the wife

My wife knows I like enemas. She doesn't want to participate. I hadn't brought it up in a long time but in the past few years she really got into yoga. The other day, we had a few days off together with nothing to do so I brought it up. I told her we could do a cleanse just like the Yogi's do. She shot me down. Yogi's don't put anything in there body that needs to be cleaned out she says. Oh well. Better luck next time I hope.

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I told her we could do a cleanse just like the Yogi's do. She shot me down. Yogi's don't put anything in there body that needs to be cleaned out she says. Oh well. Better luck next time I hope.

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Tell her that enemas are often a part of some types of yoga. I've read a bit on this, but am no expert. A quick Google search brings up tons of pages on that. I once read of a yogi that claimed he could take an enema by merely sitting in a tub and relaxing his muscles enough to let the water in. It's beyond my abilities, but does sound interesting.

Tailz Up!!

Equitube

Herbie I'm sorry to hear that she wasn't willing to try to help you with your enemas. Little does she realize what she might get from filling you up. I sure know what I can get when I fill my sub/hub up. 😉 Maybe with time she may come around. Google yoga and enemas as equitube suggests. Maybe you can find proven info that may help convince her it will be good no matter what she puts in her body.

^^^^ Knowing what you know from googling enemas, are you occasionally leaving the back door open? 😁 😁

My late wife wasn't into enemas, butt she knew of my love of them and would sometimes give them to me, butt not often enough to suit me. After several years I hit on the "extortion" ploy. If she wanted me to do something she knew i disliked, I would agree if I got an enema session out of the deal, i.e. going shopping, visiting her mom, etc. Always worked, and I think she liked doing it, tho she would never admit it. She even started wanting to get them.

Before I married my wife, I brought up my enema fetish with her, only because it was important to me, and I didn't want any surprises down the road, so to speak. At the time I mentioned it to her, she said she was fine with it, and really didn't seem to be bothered by it, even though she really wasn't into them herself. After we married, she did indulge me a couple times with a really nice and sensuous enemas. They were heaven. Unfortunately, she has since decided that she's not into enemas, and completely ignores my desires for them. Even when I hint, she just smiles, and pretty much ignores the comment. So, I'm back to solo, as in years before. I'll be honest, it is frustrating, particularly because it wasn't something I sprung on her after the marriage, but made a special point to be open about my feelings prior to the marriage. She's kind of changed the contract on me. Not worth getting a divorce over.....but very frustrating nonetheless. As they say: "Sex does not make a marriage, but it sure can ruin one, if one or both of the partners is left wanting".

Tell her you'll try yoga if she tries enemas. You never know, might work. At least might add a bit of humor to the situation.

^^^^ Enemas are part of some yoga activities. 😄 😄 😄 😄 😄 😄

You can find a reference on the internet. She should give it try!

Those who get help from their wifes can be very lucky!

I have got it severals times befpre, when youger, but not so often any more. She tells me she not like it and gives her nothing.

I think I can understand her, and have exapted to do it solo for the future. But we still have sex, 2 or 3 times a week.

I am 68 and my wife 71. She is still atractive.

My first wife was very willing to give enemas, but received them rarely. The second was rarely involved in them either. My latest "friend" is very much into the scene.

I think its great that you at least have your fetish out in the open like that. i still haven't mustered up the courage to tell my g/f yet. kinda dread her reaction. i bet shed love it though. just gotta break the ice. she loves yoga though. thx for the tip.

What is it with wives? Mine want's nothing to do with giving me or receiving from me an enema. You feel sooo very good after an enema series. If I could only get her to try just once.

Being anal erotic i would have no problem with wanting a partner giving me an several enemas. . . i would love to start out by being given several bulb enemas with the good old fashioned ivory soap solution. . . and then given another rinse enema with my 4 qt bag to make sure the soap is gone. . . and possibly a second one. . . too bad i dont have a willing partner and i guess that is why i am here looking for an enemate

My lady, who I've been with since 1976🤗🥰 , initially had absolutely nothing to do with enemas. She viewed this as bullshit.

I loved her very much and we were always one heart and soul, I put my kinky back and sometimes did it alone.

Over the years our sex life developed really well; A lot of things have been and are still being tried, including anal sex. In this way, the way to enemas opened up in terms of hygiene. Today she loves to enema me extensively, for herself she likes the small enemas with glass syringes.

As you can see, good things take time; My endurance and patience are bearing the biggest and juiciest fruits today...😎😇

The comment about "changing the contract" seems to be a common refrain with women. Far too many wives are willing to participate in something until they either get married or mature for a few years. Then they change their mind and refuse, no matter how much this refusal frustrates their mate. And then these same women wonder why some men step out with other women or get a divorce.

Far too many wives are willing to participate in something until they either get married..

Reminds me of joke about why the bride was smiling going down the aisle...

The comment about "changing the contract" seems to be a common refrain with women. Far too many wives are willing to participate in something until they either get married or mature for a few years. Then they change their mind and refuse, no matter how much this refusal frustrates their mate. And then these same women wonder why some men step out with other women or get a divorce.

Well are a lot of jokes around the following theme:

What food makes women stop giving blow jobs?

Wedding cake

Or as the comedian Les Dawson put it:

My wife is a sex object - every time I ask for sex, she objects.

The comment about "changing the contract" seems to be a common refrain with women. Far too many wives are willing to participate in something until they either get married or mature for a few years. Then they change their mind and refuse, no matter how much this refusal frustrates their mate. And then these same women wonder why some men step out with other women or get a divorce.

I wonder how much of the wife's attitude is not being put on the husband? In my experience the amount of daily things I have/had to do and keep track of, throw in kids - when they were here, and supposedly find time for myself...where might I not have the desire to fulfilling my husband's needs/desires. Most he did was work all day and come home to have very few other cares except to think, "I need fucked!".

Just my thought.

This thread evokes a lot of feelings and thoughts for me.

i don't think humanity has generally evolved much when it comes to 'intimate' relationships. When i peruse studies of why people divorce, it seems sex is always in the top 3 reasons. Yet there's still a large segment of society, culture, that won't even have sex till after the 'contract' is signed. i wonder how many guys, in say some religious cultures, get married so they can have sex? i think those same notions and standards have become a part of non religious unions as well.

Notions of love and sex in such arrangements often end up being based on quid-pro-quo instead of symbiotic, mutual need/desire. i don't think quid-pro-quo is a sustainable approach when it comes to sex. It isn't for me anyway. i do not want anyone doing something for me sexually just because i want/need it. For me, a big factor of sex is the exercise of mutual need/desire. When the need/desire is mutual, the result is symbiotic.

Sure, people change, but most of what i have as sexual needs has not changed over my entire life. Taco Tuesday is negotiable, me needing to be bred is not lol. Our social/cultural 'training' typically doesn't include learning how to be self aware or communicating about such things as sexuality prior to getting into a long term relationship. i think we do it backwards, we get married then try and negotiate mutual need/desire instead of openly communicating as part of discovering compatibility that hopefully leads to a satisfying and sustainable relationship.

@tallslenderguy Yet there's still a large segment of society, culture, that won't even have sex till after the 'contract' is signed.

That's the way it was with my first wife....