How To Break The News

Okay, just how does one break the news to their significant other that they are into enemas and also want their significant other to go town on them with a strap-on, and not have them throw up on your shoes and not want to sleep in the same bed with you at night anymore?

It isn't easy. Your entre into the topic will vary depending on how long you have know your partner. It is easier to do earlier in the relationship than later. You are going to have to have a frank discussion about kinks and fantasies you wish to bring to life. You might also ask about their wildest fantasies. Some people will respond better while you're naked in bed, others when you are dressed sitting around the kitchen table.

It is hard to give specific advice without knowing your partner.

Well, we have been together for over 10 years, married for over 6. She's pretty conservative or "vanilla" when it comes to sex. She has always been that way, I was her first. So, I think that they may have something to do with it.

She gets kind of weirded out times with some sex things. We'll catch some of the "Real Sex" shows on HBO from time to time, and she talks about some things, and is kind of repulsed by others. But the whole "pegging" topic hadn't come up on any of episodes we've seen, so it's not like I could bring it up then.

I'll just have to bide my time until the time is right I suppose. Or take some of the advice that I'll get from the kind folks here.

Oh dear! This is a bit of a pickle.

Like Susie said, it's hard to say without knowing your partner, but you do say that she's a bit on the conservative side. You also say that you were her guide into the sexual world, and that could be to your advantage. If she loved you and trusted you enough for that, perhaps she will be willing to follow you down another path.

First of all, let me give you one word, PATIENCE, PATIENCE, PATIENCE. Do not try to rush this or force it, in any way. That will only serve to make her more resistant. I can say from personal experience that I would rather live without sex than be forced to do something I don't want to. That explains why I was completely celibate for 8 years. I'm so glad I got over that!

I would explain to her that while you love your physical relationship the way it is, you'd like to explore some new possibilities. I would almost be inclined to turn this into a fun exercise of exploration, initimacy and trust. If she would allow you to cover her eyes with a blindfold (a bandanna is fine, and not so threatening as a blindfold), then you could gently guide her hands to where you would must like to be touched. Of course, you want to do this gradually. Even though you might want her to touch your anus, start with a few other less "taboo" spots. It's really quite amazing how different someone's touch is when they can't see what they're touching. You must also offer her the opportunity to do the same. Maybe she harbors some fantasies about where she would like to be touched as well, but just hasn't been able to vocalize her needs.

If she has a more scientific, practical turn of mind, you could always explain to her the physical reasons why certain areas are so pleasurable. When it was explained to me about all the nerve endings in the anal region, everything clicked into place. I never would have thought of pegging my partner but when I saw the pleasure he got from it, I never looked back. Although, I've looked at his backside many a time, with absolute wonderment!

That's my off the cuff idea, but I'm sure other members have other great thoughts as well.

Play On!

LadyDoc

There are many things to consider, but respecting and loving are two words that come to mind!

Thanks for the input. I will come clean here soon enough. She has offered yesterday to perform sexual favors to make up for the lack of sex the last 5 months of her pregnancy and the 6 weeks that the doctors had recommended to not have sex.

I think I may write a list down and sneak it in the middle somewhere.

I'll let y'all know how it goes.

It was easy for me because of my disability.I spent twelve years in a childrens hospital fo TB of the bone.So by telling my wife of my experiances in the hospital with enemas for surgery prep and how I enjoyed the feeling of the warm enema solution,she was anxious to learn more.Before long I was giving her a demostration on how it was done.She asked if she could help me with an enema and from then on we were giving each other enemas.

My suggestion if you want to have your GF or wife share your love of enemas is to be honest and tell her you have enjoyed enemas from a past experiance either from your mother or a hospital since you were a child.And enemas are something you do becuase you enjoy them.Tell her you would love to share your experiances with her.Then invite her to help with your enema.If she agrees to help you with your enema,tell her how much you apppriciate her help and how you feel,then pop the question;"Would you like to try it"

This was easy for me. I was telling my girl friend about a recent backpacking experience. I noted that a down side was the friezed dried food cause constipation. He immediate response was " take a few Fleet enemas with you on the next trip." There was no way she could have known of enema fetish so I went on about the subject. She went on to explain how the enemas are are best solution to constipation and felt married couple should give them to each other on a routine basis for general health. I proposed that night over dinner.

As I have posted in other places, I lost my wife of 35 years a couple of years ago. At her suggestion, on her deathbed a few days before passing, she recommended my now current wife by name.

When we initially got together I asked, "How do you feel about enemas?"

Before she answered I went on to say, "It's just a little hole with some hair around it!"

She finally overcame her amazement and said that she had given enemas to both dogs and cats but never to a human. But since it isn't 'rocket science' she felt that she could do it and asked what the condition was that required it. I told her my medical history and current requirements. --it has been just fine ever since.

the boxcar

It could nerver happen. she has no inclination for any sex and certainly not anything anal!