Getting your wife or husband involved in enemas

I have been married for 20 years and my wife knew I have always taken enemas. I grew up needing them for constipation and I continue to now but they are also very sexual for me. I am very anally erotic. I was cleaning my enema gear in my laundry tub with water and bleach, and I left it in there, When she got home, she found it and I would say she was probably shocked because my gear is pretty advanced, 2 3 qt bags attached, a 39" and 54" colon tube, several different nozzles, and also a 17" very thick dildo (that I love). My wife is in nursing school (which is a turn on thinking about her being my nurse and maybe even pegging me) and she has told me in the past she hates enemas and won't take them. She is not adventurous at all sexually, very vanilla. It's been not even a full day and she seems to be kind of mad. How should I address this with her? Many thanks for any advice.

I have been married for 20 years and my wife knew I have always taken enemas. I grew up needing them for constipation and I continue to now but they are also very sexual for me. I am very anally erotic. I was cleaning my enema gear in my laundry tub with water and bleach, and I left it in there, When she got home, she found it and I would say she was probably shocked because my gear is pretty advanced, 2 3 qt bags attached, a 39" and 54" colon tube, several different nozzles, and also a 17" very thick dildo (that I love). My wife is in nursing school (which is a turn on thinking about her being my nurse and maybe even pegging me) and she has told me in the past she hates enemas and won't take them. She is not adventurous at all sexually, very vanilla. It's been not even a full day and she seems to be kind of mad. How should I address this with her? Many thanks for any advice.

Mikey, does your wife enjoy foreplay? Does she enjoy having her clit played with? Does it get her going? Playing with a male prostate is no different. Enemas and other anal play stimulates a male the same way that clit play stimulates a female.

I liked the enemas I got when I was a little girl and I gave myself lots of them just for fun. About the time of puberty, I learned my orgasm was much stronger if I masturbated while I was giving myself an enema. After I got married, I continued giving myself an enema and masturbating when I had some quiet time alone and I wondered if there was a way to make enemas part of our sex play. My husband knew I sometimes gave myself enemas and I even arranged to “get caught” giving myself an enema when he came home. He didn’t seem to be interested other than making some comment that I sure took a lot of enemas. I told him they make me feel good and suggested it would be fun if we did it together. He said he has never had an enema himself but from what he had heard from friends growing up, it couldn’t be much fun.

A few days later when he started acting all horny, I told him I wanted him to give me an enema so he could see that there was nothing to be afraid of, and he agreed. I showed him how to prepare the bag and give it to me making sure to give myself an orgasm to show him I was enjoying it. He seemed to be mildly interested but was in a hurry to get it over with so we could have sex the “normal” way. The next time, after he gave me my enema, I asked him if I could give him one. He said he didn’t want one. Some time later, I decided it was time to be more direct. After he had given me my enema, I refilled the bag and told him this time he was getting an enema too. He whined like a little kid and said that he did not need or want an enema. I told him if he wanted to fuck me tonight, he was going to get an enema. Us girls do have leverage in these situations. I managed to get about a quart in him before I couldn’t take any more of his complaining, and I let him up. When he was done on the toilet, he got his reward for the evening.

I managed to get a few more enemas into him from time to time when he was really horny and desperate, but I could tell he wasn’t having fun. The enema just did not do for him what it did for me and he was only doing it as a favor to me. Occasionally he would give me my enema but I stopped asking him to take one and eventually I stopped asking him to participate in enema play knowing he was not having fun. Now my enemas are mostly done when I have the house to myself so I can take as long as I want and do whatever I want. He knows that is what I do when he goes to play golf with his buddies but he does not bring it up because he is afraid that I will give him one.

While some of us are lucky to have a spouse/partner who understands and participates in our enema activities, it’s the rare few who are coupled directly with another klismo. And, if so, chances are they found each other on Zity or another fetish site.

My loving wife doesn’t receive, but will administer to me most anytime I want. She likes making me happy she says, and I’m of course appreciative.

But early on in our now decades-long marriage, I realized I had a strong desire to not just receive but to give as well, primarily to women who share the same fascination with bags, bulbs, and nozzles. To my delight, my wife thought I should pursue that desire and was willing to talk on the phone with any such woman to assure her that she was extending her blessing for such a meeting.

Now, if such liaisons were every week, I doubt my wife would be so open-minded, but once in a while was just fine. And, a few times over the years, my wife participated as well.

I must say, when two klismos click with each other, the sessions can be unbelievably exciting. One woman even regularly orgasmed as she administered to me. And my wife and I have even made a few friends along the way, although they now live far away. Nothing new in the last few years, but the future can be promising.

I realize that many people love their partner and would never think of leaving him or her just because that person doesn’t fully understand or participate in an admittedly uncommon activity. It’s admirable that they honor their commitment and plan to stay together forever. And they find ways of achieving fulfillment. That's great!

But if you’re looking for someone and you find yourself falling in love, do tell them of your unusual desires before deciding to settle down. It may be a deal-breaker but, if not, you won’t have to hide your fetish if he or she accepts and supports your orientation. Good luck!

While we both enjoyed anal play, my wife had no-zero-nada- interest in enemas. We talked about it but she never came up with a reason why. I think it was that the potty issue was too private for her.

I have to say that I was not really that interested in enemas having tried to distance myself from the topic growing up. That all changed when a year or two after we got married I got sick and the meds got me pretty well bound up. My wife decided that the only remedy was for her to make me an enema. While I wasn't feeling that great I finally gave in and she gave me a full two quarts from the bag. It sure was a relief but also made me change my opinion.

It'not an easy topic …

Personally I got a few from my mate but he always show a little interest in it.

I must be in the wrong country or something, how i wish my partner would let me give her enemas

Being a guy I can only speak to what it's like for a guy. First of all, I think so many people are turned off by enemas because they are so intimate - there's a reason why bathrooms have doors and public toilets have stalls around them. For guys, the penetration that comes with an enema can also be a red flag. The key to it all, once someone has decided to give it a try is complete relaxation. If you are not relaxed down there, the anal sphincter is going to tighten and resist the insertion of the enema's tip. An enema tip, well a normal sized one that is, is not thick, so with some good lubrication on top of the relaxation, it should be a smooth entry. So then it's time to let the water flow and here is where the real pleasure can begin. It's definitely best to start out with small volumes and to adjust the flow so it is slow. Relaxation with in and out breathing and an occasional change of position usually results in a successful fill. Focus on the water. Massage the abdomen to help it along the twists and turns of the large intestine. Think about relaxing things and if you're like me, you will feel really, really good.

If I had a husband or wife I would hope they love enemas as much as I do🍑💦

I am a big fan of enemas as well and reading through all comments my conclusion is before you start relationships make sure tell your partner about your fetishes and desires in sexual life and also in other way. Ask her / him in the beginning so not to regret rest of your life.

@chelle300 "If I had a husband or wife I would hope they love enemas as much as I do"🍑💦

@chelle300, Please allow me to share my experience: I discovered my attraction to enemas unexpectedly from a wonderful nurse who cared for me at home when I was recovering from an accident. My husband and I were newlyweds. He began to discover enemas from me two years into our marriage when he became very sick. He was a reluctant patient at first, but as time passed, he became a very efficient nurse with an enema bag when I needed his help. Then, lo and behold, one evening when he wasn't feeling well "on the inside," he asked me to give him an enema. I felt myself getting wet! It became a very intimate experience, which we both fondly remember. After that, his reluctance to receive when he needed my help just seemed to melt away.

We're not equal in our love for a warm enema, but he gets awfully hot sometimes. Maybe this would work for you, too!

How we got started after 30 years and children out on their own.

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I would dearly love my wife to say to me, "Do you want me to DO you darling?" 😊

When I met my wife I was already 30 and she a little older. As we got into sex, I made sure she knew what turned me on and vice versa. First time we got into anal, she was a little uptight as she was not "prepared". I playfully proposed an enema, laughing she accepted and from that day it became part of our routine. Very quickly she found out that I enjoyed them too, same as some good ass play....we got married shortly after.... my advice it is for always to be sincere with your chosen partner, complicity paired with intimacy it is the best...and if she/he is not into it, you'll avoid frustration in your relationship...

Welp, something I’d wanted for a while happened today, just in circumstances I would not have chosen.

The recent problems I initially took for small-bowel IBS kept coming back. Then they came back worse and I ran a fever. That got my attention and I asked my husband to take me to the emergency department, which led to a completely unsentimental parting between me and a very inflamed gallbladder that my body had shielded in fatty scarring.

From my reading of the surgery notes in Epic, my surgeon‘s skills justified his ego. I’m happy he kept things laparoscopic, which is giving me a seemingly quick recovery.

But of course one thing had not recovered quickly after general anesthesia smack dab in the middle of two days of opiates. I ditched those as soon as possible but it was too late, and I was not going to risk a laxative-induced vasovagal attack with fresh incisions.

So I did it: I asked my husband for an enema.

His first response was “I don’t want to,” although it might have been more nerves than intent because he quickly relented.

The experience was not fun or sexy, despite lubrication skills that were freely offered and get an A from me. But, with my coaching, he did give a painless enema, in bed, with good later results.

When asked if it was as bad as anticipated, he said no and that some day the shoe might be on the other foot. So, who knows?

I don’t recommend a medical emergency, but it did have a silver lining.

My wife gives me enemas on a weekly basis, doesn't mind and does a good job. She, however, really doesn't like to be given enemas, only takes them is cases of serious constipation. That translates into me giving her maybe 1 enema/yr. She has struggled lately with bowel issues, finally asked for an enema yesterday. Based on past enemas, I first gave her a 1 quart ivory soap enema with a 250/250 lates double balloon nozzle. She has poor sphincter control, leaks a lot, so balloon nozzles are the only way to go. She took the enema well, but no returns after 25 minutes of sitting on the toilet. Finally, the enema started to come out, over 90 minutes before she was sure she was done. The second enema was a 2 qt. ivory soap , same nozzle. Went in easy, she took the entire 2 qts, probably could have taken more, but I'm not going to push it. Again, a long time to drain out of her. Other than the time commitment, this went well, I'm thinking it will be easier to give her enemas in the future.

My wife asked for another enema!! The bowel issue has not fully resolved, so she wanted to be sure she was cleaned out before 2 big Christmas dinners. I gave her a 2 qt.. enema with 2 tsp of Dr. Bronners peppermint soap added. Double balloon nozzle, 106 F, 7 minutes to administer the enema. No stops, 1 big cramp that stopped the flow, and she retained for 3 more minutes. This worked out great, I think the resistance to enemas is beginning to dissolve!!!!