Rimming

One time I wanted to 69 with my girl friend, but she didnt want her ass in my face. I didnt tell her, but thats kinda why I wanted to do it, so I could see her beautiful rosebud. I also want to lick her anus (once she's clean) but I dont want her to think of me in a bad way...so how can I communicate my desire to her.

I tell her I like her ass all the time, and sometimes I bite down and suck on her ass cheeks which gives her much pleasure, but if i get too close to her butthole, she pulls away.

While you are going down on her from the front, grasp her legs behind the knees and push them up so that you expose her vagina and her anus. Then as your tongue is working, move down a little to the perineum an then a little lower until your tongue starts to touch her anus. Be prepared for her to buck a little at first and when she does make sure NOT to hit it. Then as she relaxes, work your way down again. Has never failed for me. I know some ladies that will let me lick it all day long but let me get a finger close to them and they will pull away every time.

Sorry to hear that your lady isn't agreeable to being licked anally. I love rimming nearly as much as I love being rimmed. It's an activity I wish more people participated in. It feels incredible and arouses me to no end...

Your girlfriend may be worried about the taste, smell or look of her bottom. It's a very common worry. Women are bombarded every day by ads promoting female hygiene, all telling us that it isn't normal to have a vagina that smells like a vagina. I suppose they want us to believe it's supposed to smell like roses, baby powder or a summer rain. There are specialized washes, wipes, douches, suppositories, scented pads and tampon. They feed on the insecurities of women and make them feel that any smell coming from their body is a bad smell that they should cover up. So with all of that to worry about, women can't help but feel especially worried that their bottom isn't a pleasant place to visit.

Making a woman feel comfortable with her tastes and smells will go a long way towards making her less self-conscious about her body and more likely to let you explore her nether regions. You might try giving her a warm bath and washing her or showering together so she feels clean and fresh. Massaging her with warm aromatic oils by candlelight will help to relax her and the scents will ease her mind about her own scent.

Telling her how sexy she is and how much her body turns you on will help her accept herself. If she points out flaws, turn her fears into something positive about what she feels negative about. I used to worry about a few scars I had after surgery, but while showering with a lover, he told me that the scars looked like butterflies. I hadn't looked at them like that before, but he's right. I saw myself as defective, he saw me as beautiful. It made a big difference in my life.

When you're making love to her, express your emotions and your pleasure, especially when you're going down on her. Let her know, by your moans how much you love her taste and everything about her. Encourage her to relax and enjoy the ride.

If she won't let you lick her, you may want to be a little assertive. Women sometimes pull away from their lovers when things feel to good and they feel like they'll lose control. Sometimes they want something to happen, but are afraid to admit it or afraid to let themselves enjoy it. They are tentative sometimes and move away, when they really want you to continue, but need your approval, acceptance or permission. Learn how to read your lover to know when no means no and when no means, I want to but I'm scared, shy or embarrassed.

Something I have used in the past with lovers reluctant to enjoy a good rimming might help for you. Buy a natural bristle paint brush, something small like you'd use for a painting, not a house. Buy some flavored lube, preferrably red in color. When you're in a playful mood and have time to take things slowly, dip the brush into the lube and very lightly paint areas of her body that you want to lick; her nipples, navel, labia, clitoris and perineum, if she's agreeable to it. Let her have the brush and treat you to the same fun. Try doing this several ocassions and dip the brush lower and lower each time until you get to her anus. Then lick her all over, enjoying the sweet, wet taste of her.

"Women sometimes pull away from their lovers when things feel to good and they feel like they'll lose control. Sometimes they want something to happen, but are afraid to admit it or afraid to let themselves enjoy it. They are tentative sometimes and move away, when they really want you to continue, but need your approval, acceptance or permission"

thats what im worried about. I love eating her pussy and she loves when I do it, and I love to rub her bottom and glide my fingers over, and slightly in her butt crack, and she never told me or moved in a way that showed she didnt like it. She did tell me though that she NEVER wanted to do anal, so I wonder if that also means "No" to me licking her bottom..I sure hope not, because I've been wanting to do it to her for a very long time now. I just dont want to make her feel uncomfortable or embarassed if I were to do it, or to ask her about it.

Hmmmmm. I think BillM's suggestion is a good one. That's almost exactly how anilingus was first performed on me 20 years ago. He knew exactly what he was doing because we had been in the shower beforehand (at his suggestion), so any misgivings I may have had about not being "clean" went out the window. I'm sure I recoiled a bit, but as Bill suggested, he just moved back "up" for a while. Later, being caught in the moment, he did it again and I relaxed. Also, I could tell that he was thoroughly enjoying it...which made me feel at ease.

So who knows, maybe BillM's technique could be just the ticket. If she's not anally inclined but loves oral, going about it in this fashion might just work.

Good luck!

Hmmmmmmmmm is right. So long as it goes slow and easy I will not pull away. The idea of a brush that egirlky suggested shouds like lots of fun. Once the licking is over and the finger goes to my anus, I want some lube in the act though.

Saliva isn't lube ! Nothing fun about a dry finger trying to enter my anus. Maybe something like cherry juice would be slippery enough and also be tasty.

If I clean her anus first, is it ok to lick her pussy and anus at the same time?. Also I want to spread her open so I can lick inside her butt too, but would this hurt if she's never done it before?. She would need an enema too probably.

Guy,

I have done this very thing after I got her "warmed up". A shower is a great place to start with this. Use your hands to do the washing with the soap. Sooner or later you will have to wash her butt and that includes the crack too. 😉 But don't linger around back there. Leave that until later. You just want her to get used to you touching her ass and have fingers in the middle.

Its really quite simple. Place a leather collar that has rings attached to it around her neck. Then set her on the bed on all fours. Tie her wrists to the front bed posts and then tie a rope from a ring on the collar around the back side of her knees and back to another ring on the collar. Keep that rope snug. Then tie her ankles to the bed posts at the foot of the bed. She will be well restrained there with here butt in the air and be unable to lower her body or extend her legs to cover her anus. 😮 😮 😮

Some things call for drastic measures! 😁 😁 😁

Switchablesusie I like your style 😄

On a personal level, I can say I don't really understand rimming. I can accept the idea more if the receiver is clean, but it kind of grosses me out otherwise. I dated a guy once that was into rimming, but to him it didn't matter if you were clean or not. He rimmed me once by stealth (before I knew his rimming fascination). I admit I enjoyed the sensation, but there was no kissing that night 😜

We do it, my woman and I - rimming each other, and trying to fist each other anally. The rimming comes after a good wash-out. We don't want to eat shit! But stickong the tonque into each others arseholes gives a lot of pleasure, and nibbling the anus and rectum with the teeth sends the passive partner straight to heaven. To her it also means that she loosens-up her bladder and relives herself on the spot

Jannie and Ulf :😃

I'd feel extremely uncomfortable having someone rim me unless I was completely clean and I wouldn't return the favor unless my partner was the same. I can't blame you a bit for not wanting to kiss your fellow after his stealth attack. I like to be clean, clean, clean inside and out before having fun. If it has been more than six hours since I'd had a bath or shower, I take a quick one before playing and depending on whether or not anal is an option, a series on enemas until clear. I won't do anal any other way.

Dianne

Hi,

my personal view is if the area is clean,i`d lke nothing better than being rimmed by my other half while i pulled on my hard dick,or rimming my beeter half from behind and pulling on her nipples...phew a cold shower is needed ..lol 😜

So far I have yet to be with a woman that enjoyed rimming or being rimmed. I'm looking forward to the day that I can experience that.

Well.....some folks just don't like it, now here at enemas4fun most everyone likes anal play or they would not be here.

If you've tried with her severeal times and she wants no part of it, then that just might be the way it is.

I am a lucky woman. my boyfriend enjoys giving and recieving. :-) it is fabulous.

I would definately be wanting to share a showering or mutual bath giving for this activity. Lets each partner be assured of being clean as possible. The other alternative to overcome any fear is to use dental dams (very thin,shear,plastic like material). Medical toys.com is one source for them. These can be used for all areas for safe oral sex.

It's not for everyone. i personally love to butt munch and when i find a Woman who love to have her ass licked and sucked i am in heaven. i've been lucky enough to find a few that also returned the favor.

If everything is squeeky clean - no problem.

I like giving and receiving. My old gf would open up her cheeks for me to get better access. My new gf wont let me even get close but will rim me. Go figure!

Egirlky - Your comments are well said! I too have encountered ladies who were unnecessarily worried about vaginal musk and/or anal musk. Too many young girls fall prey to locker room rhetoric (smells like fish etc.) and don't understand that many men ENJOY a woman who does not taste like soap, either front or rear.

Like yourself, I NEVER rim/penetrate an anus with my tongue; unless she is clean, but I do enjoy a musky (perspiration) bottom. I have actually ambushed a few ladies, typically when they get home from work, before they have a chance to freshen up and make it quite clear that I am VERY aroused by their natural scent. I have actually just teased them for many minutes by getting in position for oral and just inhaling her vaginal musk while maintaining eye contact. This turns me on endlessly and helps her become a bit desensitized about her erroneous perception about her odor. Then of course when you take that first lick, oh man, the sparks fly.

If I push her knees up to her chest and don't like what I see at the backdoor, I gently take her to the shower and I wash her... Simple and honest.

Heres what I have done, from the 20 somethigns to the 50's.

lay her on her tummy and caress her, start with her neck and back and hold her while ur doing it (and mean it). Kiss her shoulders too and gentle nuzzle her behind her neck - a bit of close and intimate foreplay.

The go down to her ankles and feet and play a bit there, and run ur tongue up to her but and thighs. Then say u want to bj her pussy.

Else, if u were facing her,, then reach for a pillow and say u can lick her deeper from behind, and flip her.

Either way - shes on her tummy, then just dive into her pussy. Push so deep, that ur nose buries into her butt. Keep asking her if she likes it, and then do one long lick from pussy to perieum to ass, and then back. Keep doing it, and gauge from there. it will shock her a bit first, but what can she really say or do when ur going from pussy to ass and back.

Then back to pussy for some loving licks, and then just stab her asshole with ur tongue. If she doesnt back down, keep it there till ur done. 😜

You say "would like to have it done to me". Does this mean you've never been rimmed before? I also don't like it back. I've watched xxx movies, and they usually light of flutter their tongues on the anus, which is meaningless 😶.

I go in so deep, that my tongue feels like its being pulled out. I stab it in, and keep it their, till I can feel her butt cheeks relax to the point of it being in semi-prolapse.

I've had girls who so relaxed (with normal butt holes and non-hemorrhoid/ prolapsed one), and I have actually seen their assholes open up with delight to the inner pink brown parts.

With a bit of halls or menthol sweet on your tongue, the sensation is dynamite for them. The blow in slowly and their asshole retracts, and then stick in the warm sensation again ... Sometimes, I have cuckold type dirty talks, like saying, have your previous lovers tasted you like this, or can I watch while some gets you off, or if you fuck another guy - will you let him ass lick you like this. 😜

they go soo nuts, that they actaully start agreeing to it and grunting 'yes's' and 'okaays' 😉

Well, it really depends on the relationship :😃 If you are a couple - long term relationship - then an accident 😁 isn't that awful. On the other hand - few folks will rim and eat arsehole on the first night :😃 don't you agree :'(

We do it all - but we have been realting for eight years now - and are still going strong 😁 wishing all a wonderful rump

Back to guy21 and his anal strategy 😜. If u manage to get her on her tummy and bj her pussy, then after a while, ask if u can finger her pussy.

Or try it while bj her, making sure to swop between finger and tongue. Once ur finger is in her, then u have the perfect excuse (of ur free mouth) to rim her. She wud be too busy enjoying the bj, and wont notice till ur tongueing her butt.

Once shes comfy, u can slip ur finger out and concentrate all efforts on her asshole. So take ur thumbs, and part her cheeeks where her thighs meet her ass. That way, if she gets 'anxious' on the rim job, then u can sense it and quickly switch back to her pussy.

Plus, if u have to swop between licks, lick her her pussy and mumble that u like licking her pussy. U dodnt want her to know u have a rimjob fetish or other weird ideas.

Also, if ur back to licking pussy, keep ur middle finger near her anus, or lightly depress it. Sense her receptiveness, and gentley insert. Either way, u scored with her bum with ur finger or tongue.

Happy rimming and tell us how it panned out (no pun intended).

Tell her straight that you want to watch, play with and maybe kiss her butthole She may be shocked - but on the other hand she might also be pleased. When Jannie and I first met I said. I want to stick my tongue up your arse - and I want to feel your tongue in my arse. And ever since that day eight years ago, we have loved each other - and given each other pleasure and pleasure and pleasure 😄

I must say that I just adore licking a woman's ass. I like it especially when it has not been scrubbed clean. The aroma drives me wild.

I adore it just as much. Usually, I get a floury type taste, not the usually sweaty taste. Have u ever used honey or a nice liquer to asslick??

Sometimes, I use a chochcolate to simulate a dump. 😜

If the bar is big enough, I push it half way in, and make push out over me, in 69. Thats wild and nasty and takes guts too. 😉

My ex boyfriend and my current boyfriend have both been into this. I was with each of them for awhile (7 months plus) before either of them attempted it. I haven't done it back and don't know if I could or would, but they sure seem to like doing it. I like it when they do it b/c it just seems so naughty

I love both getting and giving!! It seems to me, that as long as your clean, your good....my wife recently found out she likes it when I open her up and tease that cute ass...... 😁