Erotic ritual

There are some great discussions going on here, but I haven't found anything either here or elsewhere that relates to a particular fantasy of mine. I've never discussed it with anyone, never read anything about it ... surely I can't be the only one?

The fantasy is about ritualised sex play. The defining aspect is that whatever happens is fixed beforehand, and played out slowly and solemnly like a ceremony. In my mind it would usually be dark, candlelit, we would often be wearing masks, and gradually disrobe as the ritual proceeded. It might be in front of others or just the two of us; there might be talking or might not (but if there is it would be part of the ritual); we might know each other or we might be complete strangers; it might involve full sex or it might not; it might even not involve touching, just exposure, inspection and close approach.

Has anyone tried this, or imagined it - or find the idea exciting even if you haven't thought about it before? It would be really interesting to know if anyone else is into this, as I haven't found anything else about it on the internet (and as we know, you can find most kinks somewhere...)

cd.

Reading this reminded me of the Ivory Snow Girl, Marilyn Chambers in Behind the Green Door.

The main scene reminded me of a ritual.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Behind_the_Green_Door

Yes, Doc I've had the same thoughts.I am currently writing a short story like that.It involves people I know although it's strictly all fantasy.The reality in the mind is the real player here.I usually drift into this realm when I'm making a long drive.It's a great way to relax and go to sleep at bedtime too. 😎

Well, thank goodness it's not just me! I'd love to read the story when it's finished.

No, you are not alone.Writing and dreaming up new stuff always is exciting. Don't care much for the "telly",although there are quite a few women that are pretty hot on the shows! Think, new material to write about. 😎

S&M scenes are often scripted and followed to the "T".

I have a few scripted S&M scenes that my husband and I have performed as well as a couple of scenes that my husband and I and a couple we are friends with, have performed.

Mental hospital, kidnapping, rape and prison scenes make for good scripted S&M sexual episodes. Some MUST be performed exactly as scripted--no improvising allowed.

How does that work? Does everyone have a part to learn? 😁 And what happens if you forget your lines...? ???

Everyone has a pre-determined role. There isn't necessarily a defined dialogue, but the jist of what you say and do IS pre-determined. For example:

A very experienced couple we know from an S&M club in NYC that is always playing on the edge, had planned a consensual non-consensuality scene. That means the submissive consents to anything, including things they would NOT consent to if they knew they would take place. The submissive has no idea of what they are consenting to and has no right or ability to end the scene for any reason--no safe word. So, a few years ago the wife wanted to do a non-consensual scene, the details of which she was never to know. About five years ago her husband and my husband and I, hooded and kidnapped his wife in the middle of the night (she didn't know it was us). We drove around for an hour or so and brought them to our house for the scene, which was mostly one of bondage and sexual torment. We took many liberties with her body for almost 24 hours before she was brought back to her house, still hooded and finally released. When her husband told her that she had just experienced the non-consensuality scene they had planned more than a year earlier, she said she would NEVER do that again because she was absolutely terrified, felt powerless and feared for her life.

I don't want to get into too many details, but I will say it was the most daring, exciting scene I had ever done with another couple. I know I would have been terrified out of my wits if I was kidnapped, and she was too. She was under severe stress and at times put on a real struggle and cried a lot. I have to say, at times I felt sorry for her, but we had agreed to help with the scene.

Luckily, we are still friends today but we don't look back on this with good feelings. There are limits, even for players on the edge, and this went beyond them.

Sorry, can't agree with that scenario. Last night a teen was shot and killed when a home invasion took place! ( Think of the scenario you described) What if the "unknowing player" was mentally harmed beyond repair? Physical wounds heal (I know), mental wounds do not (I also know). Sounds like you run with a rough bunch Susi. It may be "all play"for some, but not for others! I believe in the philosophy of "do no harm". Being in the medical profession, you also should know what that means. My opinion.

All I can say about that scene was the woman was a tough cookie, wanted it, planned it with her husband for a year before it took place, and the couple was very experienced in wild, edgy S&M scenes.

It basically shows that you don't always want what you wished for.

By the way, very few of our scenes run really wild and severe. Most are moderate, some are sensual.

As someone who has been beat on, bucked off,stomped on, frooze up,burned bad,... didn't seem like much fun at the time. Different days, different ways I suppose. Have fun and enjoy what you do...I sure do! 😁

I can see the advantage and excitement in planning an S+M scenario in advance. Indeed the play exams I've given have been pretty well mapped out, and the better for it.

In the situations you've described, the plan allows you to do things safely without worrying about real-time 'is it OK?' feedback. But I was thinking of it from a different angle; what if the script itself, the ritual itself, was the fetish? As if the scene that the participants are playing out was itself a sexualised ritual, almost like a religious ritual but with sexual elements?

Are you thinking in the realm of Stanly Kubrick's "Eyes wide shut"?

Are you thinking in the realm of Stanly Kubrick's "Eyes wide shut"?

ABSOLUTELY YES!

I LOVED THAT MOVIE even though the dialog positively sucked!

It's dark and dangerous.

I have seen Eyes Wide Shut several times and enjoy each time its on.

But I do see the connection with the thread.

A

Somewhere along the line I saw an Isabel Ice clip that sounds just like what you describe. Robed guys, pseudo-satanic altar, girl (Ice) carried in and properly molested ... I can't give you a URL, but if you do a search for Isabel Ice on xhamster(dot)com or maybe badjojo(dot) com you'll eventually find it. She's one of my favorite semi-pro porn stars out there these days -- does some amazing things with her various openings LOL

Ritual really adds to eroticism. Many have heard that then anticipation of an enema is half the fun.

My patient lies naked on the bed while I prepare a bedside table with a speculum, selection of urethral sounds, catheter kit, and carefully selected enema nozzle.

She says the most intense anticipation comes when I begin to mix the enema solution and slow pour it into the selected bag.

Like eroticred, dream of sexual sacrificial molestation and use. Made beautiful like in a horror goth sex movie.

My spouse and I have done that often in various scenarios, sometimes using enema(s) or suppositories,. As example, sometimes she'd tell me to masturbate myself, which I would not do with her voluntarily, and then stimulate me in various ways to make me do so. One such method is to bring me close to orgasm, repeatedly as many times as necessary to force me to finish it. Another is to stimulate my rectum and/or anus until I'm begging her for sexual relief and she reminds me of what she had told me must happen until I comply..

I am Bi passive and often fantasize about being made helpless, bound and ritually raped by a line of worshipers. Experience the full dark mass ritual service, knowing I am to be sacrificed and invaded. Following this I am mesmerized and reuired to return, have my blood drained for consumption and so weakened and raped again. This is my fate forever,

I've often thought about performing ritualized discipline on my wife. Having a list which has to be read aloud and performing every point in strict order. This way things can be orchestrated in an escalating manner and build to a crescendo.

Thats one of my fantasies actually. To participate in a ritual sex act in masks,being observed when i'm doing it by people in masks on a sort of altar. Participate in a ritual orgy. That is right up my valley.