Dominance

I am more dominant when it comes to my professional life, I am not sure if that plays into the fact that I would enjoy...correction would be thrilled to submit my will to a strong, confident and decisive dominant man. I am still searching but every fantasy of mine centers around one main theme, me feeling compelled to free up my will to a Dominant man who will play my body like it is a finely tuned instrument and he the maestro. A man I trusted so much that i would submit to being tied, teased, spanked....you get idea. My search goes one but I know I will find him, or he will find me!

I feel like you do.

Here are is a link to a summary of a Psychology Today article that confirms your feelings are not unusual in socially successful women:

http://www.nerve.com/scanner/2009/05/28/socially-dominant-women-enjoy-being-submissive-in-bed-say-scientists

I could not find the original article today. Though, it's on line somewhere.

I can totally relate to that - i have found it hard to find the right dom

I agree completely and totally. In most areas of my life, I'm used to being in control – but truth is I long to surrender. Finding someone who can stimulate me mentally, emotionally as well as sexually and take the lead in pushing the envelope would be very exciting.

I am delighted to know there are some of you out their, too many self proclaiming dominants I have met have been little more the bullies with so many of their own insecurities. It is impossible for me to give up control of myself to a person who shows no self control. Firm yes, decisive caring and observant and above respectful of the power and control a submissive sacrifices. And places in their hands.

Shygal...I can commiserate your feelings, completely. You worded it so well! To find the 'right' one is a journey in its self. I'm keeping the faith though!

Same here. Dominant in work and life; yearn for submission in the bedroom, but only to a confident strong man. Probably my deepest fantasy. There is a group on fetlife about Dominant women who want to be submissive. It is not as uncommon as you'd think.

I am far more dominant in my professional life. However, I'd like to be submissive in bed the bedroom.. having a time finding a young guy to dominant me.

I think you'll find this to be the case not only with many women but with a good number of men as well. They are forced to be dominant and in total control in their professional lives but long to give up that control when away or at home. It seems to be the only way that many people are able allow them selves to de-stress and relinquish their daily responsibilities in the outside world. It has also been found that those who are in a situation where they can give up that control and stress when not having to deal with their professional lives are in better health, as the mind and body are able to rest during those times and they can start the next day relaxed with a fresh clear head.

enemasubgirl you are the frist person I have seen mention fetlife since I have been on this site. I have found it to be a good site with many forums and groups to participate in. Sadly though found there to be many people who as shygal put it, self proclaimed Dominants who are little more than bullies with more insecurity issues of their own than Carter has peanuts.They have NO clue what it is to be a Dom or Master and NO understanding of the responsibility that goes along with it. To even fathom the thought that they might have any idea as to the gift they are given when a submissive gives up control to them is simply ridiculous.

Anyway if anyone wishes to talk or has any questions I may be of assistance with, you can find me on fetlife at MasterB1963 or yahoo at MstrB123 via email or IM or simply msg me here. I will get back to you ASAP

Hope everyone has a great day 😃

I share the feeling. I am successful in my professional life, i have to take decision, to move thing forward, to negotiate, to show my strenght...but then i need a valve and submissive fantasies help me

Then sometimes being a sub can be thrust upon you... Cooperating may open your eyes to something pleasurable.

From my blog, a true account of a weekend on my boat with my Special Friend has just been posted as a story.

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=64545.msg453196#msg453196

As a pilot for too many years, giving control to some other person was a real panic experience for me.. AND a lot of fun....

Cheers

Skybear

There has ben research to prove that alpha females tend to be more submissive in bed than any other type of women. I found this out because I was curious why i'm so dominant at work but so submissive in bed. Makes me feel a lot better knowing that I'm not some oddity.

I can agree with you there. It's interesting to be dominate in one aspect of your life and submissive in another. It's common though and both women and men feel it. I like control in certain parts of my life but at the same time, I wish I had a Dom to keep me in check, help me and play with too.