I have talked about this before, not sure where, maybe a blog post or something, but apparently not here, so I will.
When I first met Doc he was a somewhat uptight professional sort of a guy. He was easy going and laid back on many levels, but strait laced on others. Examples, easy going...he takes things in stride, goes with the flow usually. Often times when someone would ask him a question about what to have for dinner for example his answer would be something along the lines of, "whatever you guys want to do." Uptight examples, at work he always wears a button up dress shirt, and when we first started dating he had every button buttoned, but no tie. Which is fine, but I always felt like he was choking, lol. He has a bit of OCDish behavior, as do I and most other medical professionals, so when he wanted something, or wanted something done it was his way or no way. Which by no means is meant to be a crack, just stating the facts so that what I tell you in a bit makes more sense. It took me about 3 months by the way, on a side note, to get him to relax and unbutton the top button of his shirts. He does now and looks and probably feels a lot more comfortable. lol.
He is a doctor, I am a nurse and that's the way it is. We were both raised in homes with a parent who was also a medical professional, so with that being said, we were taught from the time we were small, and of course now due to the kind of work that we do, never really used slang terms for body parts.
Looking back on it now, 4.5 years ago when we were in bed, although we are one of the kinkiest couples I know, we still for the most part only used correct medical terminology for body parts, and oddly enough, neither of us thought anything about it. Our conversations in bed were still romantic to us at the time and turned us on just as much as our naughty talk does to us now, even though for most kinky people our "sex" talk was very boring and dry. We would say things like, "I can't wait to play with your breasts", or I might have said, "I love sucking on your penis". Stop laughing, I know, how vanilla.
I am not sure how it came about, actually I believe I was driving to work and was talking to him on the phone and for the first time I heard my very professional, strait laced doctor/boyfriend pop off with a comment along the lines of, "I can't wait to suck on your tits." Needless to say, I about wrecked the van. At first I couldn't believe it, then I started laughing. I was in total shock. Well, that opened the window for what was to come. (Which would be both of us as soon as we got our hands on each other, lol.)
Anyway, I think that talking dirty is a huge turn on, always have, but even more so from him for some reason or another. I think because of who he is and what he does. I still find myself chuckling when he says naughty things, however, just because I am chuckling doesn't mean I am not turned on because I am.
I love it when we are in bed and he says things like tits, pussy, ass, and dick. And when he puts them in a sentence such as, "I want to stick my dick in your pussy", well, gosh, what is a woman to do in that situation? Usually I have to put my tongue back in my mouth and regain some composure so I don't look like a slut in heat ready to pounce on him. Yes, him saying things like this to me is that much of a turn on for me.
I made it very clear to him right from the start, actually even before we met face to face that the one thing that I love to do in bed above all else is ummm, well, to be blunt and crass,(sorry) is to suck his dick. He was fine with that, lol. Sometimes I would ask him, and other times I would just do it depending on our mood and what we were doing, but after a year I realized that HE had never asked me to do it. I started to wonder if maybe he didn't like it, or maybe I wasn't doing it well enough. So I asked him. He pretty much point blank told me he was taught that it's not right for men to ask for things like that, and it was considered rude and might be degrading to the woman.
After another year of convincing him over and over and over that it's not rude to ask for what you want and deserve, what makes you feel good, and as far as degrading, well it might be for some, but definitely is not for me, he finally understood. I had to tell him that by him asking me for that, not only would he be on the receiving end but I would be too because him asking me was and is a HUGE turn on for me. He's never had a woman who liked to do that before so it was a foreign concept for him.
I believe I was in "baby" mode and he was Sir. I was on my knees awaiting his next command when I heard him unzip his pants and pull them down, then he said, "baby, suck my dick". You have no idea how hard it was for me to stay in that submissive role. While I really wanted to suck his dick, (oh wow did I want to suck his dick), I also wanted to push him down on the bed, rip the rest of his clothes off, suck his dick then ride him hard. I think I almost came right then and there that first time I heard him say that. And the fact that he said it in a somewhat commanding tone, well, that was just the icing on the cake for me.
Later that same evening I told him that eventually I was going to get him to a place that he would be comfortable enough with himself to use the 'C' word, with the 'C' word meaning cock. He laughed and said something like, "well, that might be pushing it a bit for me." Then I think I laughed, pinched his nipple and said something along the lines of, "You're such the conservative, but we'll see."
Moving forward another year to about 6 months ago or so now maybe, we were being ourselves, we were not in Dom/sub mode or anything, we were naked and going at each other pretty hot and heavy in the middle of the afternoon, (wild aren't we?) lol. I was getting his pants off and managed to do so and we were both finally totally naked and without missing a beat out of no place Doc says, "Now, suck my cock!" I looked up into his eyes, I think sparks flew. I actually sort of lost my breath I got so excited so quickly. OMG that was the hottest thing any one has ever said to me. It's been said to be a time or two before, but coming from him, it still wow's me.
So I realize that someone saying to you, "suck my cock" isn't a big turn on probably for most, hearing my story maybe you can realize why hearing Doc say that is a HUGE, the HUGEST turn on for me. Huge, simply huge, (just like he is, hehehe) !!!!!
Mashie