How to Introduce My Wife to E-Stim?

My wife is not so open minded how to introduce her in the exciting world of estim? any suggestion is welcom

You have two choices. You can tie her up and beat her into submission or you can show her how it works on yourself and also let her hold the electrodes in her hand to see how it feels. Start on very low power--even too low to initially feel it and SLOWLY increase the power so she gets the idea of the entire range of sensations from barely perceptible to maybe medium. DON'T set it so high she feels pain. Also, use larger electrodes. They disperse the electricity so she won't feel any hot spots and use a good conductive cream.

Thanks Switchablesusie, clear and simple.

Great advice - introducing a spouse can be one of the most challenging things to do, it seems like a big risk at first.

I had a medical tens kit supplied by a local hospital that I used for pain relief, tried it on the wife one pad each side of her labia, then messed around with the settings until orgasm ensued. Only tried it a couple of times. Must try again 😉

All has to be done at the right time, in the right context. (and usually with a bit of wine) (joking lol)

the trick is leading her gently u to the subject, but I find just asking sometimes works too. Shy boys get no sweets!

Try with large pads on the buttocks. It feels like a great massage. The larger the pads, the more the sensation is distributed over a large area. Small pads can feel like little needles--not great for a novice

Maybe a "mixed media" approach would work, for instance, if she likes beer, the idea of a little warm beer enema might appeal, or if she loves playing in the shower, maybe a shower enema..you get the idea.

Maybe discuss physiotherapy's use, and how it might work in more erogenous zones.

Just talk with her

And be persistant

^^^ ah yeah...that will work real well !!.........Try the art of tender (full body massage)...time should be of no consequence...seduce her very very slowly....titillate her....tease her...whisper sweet romantic nothings in her ear...build desire....be careful in subtlety of suggestion...allow her to languish in physical pleasure....bring her to the edge repeatedly....connect with her very being through seductive touch...plant the seed on which to ponder...if your partner has absolute confidence /faith & trust in taking them there then that hurdle has been scaled..Lead her to that promised land.

Use imagination to the fullest one can muster....be artful in creativity when introducing something new...persistent self interest in pushing creates the breeding ground for rejection...you may push her away...Never ever hurry / race towards a goal, for if you do you'll surely blow it.

Well... I wish my partner would use my e-stim on me. I have two "versions." Violet wand (neat) and a more industrial style e-stim that I bought at a sex store - with various attachments purposefully for sex. I had a male friend "use" it on me one afternoon because I so desperately wanted to experience it. (This was prior to my moving/committing to a relationship). He is convinced that I could "charge" him for abuse if he used it on me (even with my consent). It's sad....

I feel for you.

My suggestions:

* find videos where it isn't done for the purpose of pain - it's for the sensation and being able to "feel" (we all too often walk around numb) - watch them together - comment on what you find hot. Ask questions - see if she is receptive (or not). If she seems hesitant - ask probing questions behind the why.... (just writing that... probing.... behind.... it's been TOO long).

* perhaps take her out to a sex store - and show her the various options - some will allow you to take them out of the package and try them on a wrist/hand or arm - to feel the sensation before you buy. Again, ask questions - how does it feel? If she says good - or it tickles or whatever words she chooses - if it seems positive perhaps whisper "what do you think this would feel on/in your _______" Gage reactions and use her facial expressions and comments as your guide.

* offer for her to use them on you - encourage it.... trust is huge. See if offering to submit first turns her on... maybe that would encourage a power dynamic (if you're interested in that).

* this one is "iff-y" - buy a book and leave it out.... oh, I've done that with a great many partners. It'll open up a dialogue (or not) and that may be a way to scope out her thoughts.

A candid conversation.... hey honey - do you want to try something new - let's go to the sex shop and explore together.... linger and see what happens. 😉 Good luck! I know how it feels to be with someone vanilla - who is reluctant to try new things....

If you don't want to frighten or overwhelm her, look for one of the remote controlled wireless butt plugs available on Amazon that features vibrating and electro functions. I think this would be much less intimidating that an e-stim box, a bunch of wiring, and medical looking inserts. You could even say you bought it for the vibrating function and you wonder what electro means?

It will be much less expensive than a full e-stim setup too. If she hates it, you aren't out a lot of money.