The expectation or assumption that a Biblical/Christian household is total perfection is false, I think for two reasons; First, because a lot of generalities and assertions have been justified by quoting the Bible, and two, simply because people are not perfect. We are all flawed in some way or another. The Biblical definition that a man is the head of the household, has been distorted and taken out of context by both those who advocate for it, and those who react against it; and sometimes, that negative reaction occurs, simply because it comes from the Bible. Cultural changes aside, and believe me technology does and has effected culture.
But what I believe, this is referring to is a standard, a model or a blueprint, which offers, not what some think as "male tyranny", but one of responsibility and accountability, respect and most importantly, the fidelity of love. The Man being the "head" of the household was and is, and should be the or anchor of the family. He is not or should not be a tyrant, or a bully or a heavy hand just because he or anyone else can refer to a biblical standard and make further assumptions. If we read further, the man is directed to love his wife as himself. So he cherishes his wife, respects her, values her, is loyal to her and in essence their children. They are not his chattel or property they are and should be a continuation of him, that completes him and he gives himself to them in the commitment of family; Thus the real village is the family.
I realize that this is a spanking forum, and I get that, believe me. But I came from the home were the Biblical head of the household was my Dad, and now I have an even deeper appreciation for him. But he definitely was the head of the house. He was my Dad, not my friend, not a doormat, and not a tyrant.
Now with all of that being said. My spanking fetish is along with my sexual proclivities something, that probably my Dad did not have, nor found fascinating. I guess you could say in my case, the apple fell quite a ways from the tree.