Male Head of Household - Biblical ways

If I had ever tried any of that 'Biblical head of the family' stuff with my wife, I think she would have started divorce proceedings in short order. And I would have been shunned by friends if the word had ever gotten out.

The idea that you get married without knowing about the expectation a church may have in your marriage on punishment is a stretch to me. That also implies that you know little about your future wife, or what her vision of marriage is.

Several ideas, for one, have a chat with the pastor of a different or several religions and ask about male domination and punishment beliefs of their church doctrine. That might give space to the idea not everyone believes the same way.

Consider a woman who learns to be a professional in some field. Suppose that field is finance and is empowered to make the decisions regarding banking and investment. She might well be a much better authority than her husband to decide the suitability of a double tax free bond, treasury bill, or a bank's CD. In most relationships, the idea of discussing matters of finance, vacation, returning to school, and others is practical from a number of directions.

And yet another aspect implied by submission and punishment, the need to lean on someone for life skills, I wouldn't want that for my children or spouse as it leaves them unprepared for life.

Punishment acts play out for many persons here, and to varying degrees, the rub is where it goes from want or desire to becoming a need and incapacitating. My wife and I participated in the want and desire side, but it was only acting. I have heard of areas where a woman's chief purpose was to have all the children she could in her marriage. I'll leave the Guinness Book of World Records for the maximum children born to one couple for someone else.

Can someone enlighten me regarding the specific Biblical Books, Chapters and Verses that indicate that a husband should discipline his wife with corporal punishment. I can find passages that indicate support for children being subject to physical discipline but not spouses. (Proverbs 23: 13-14, Proverbs 13:24, Proverbs 29:15, Proverbs 22:15, Proverbs 23:13, and Hebrews 12:11)

@Papa_Sam the usual quote is Ephesians 22 but (as I'm sure you’re aware) if you read the full letter, it doesn't actually support corporal punishment (unless the husband practices self-flagellation or habitually disciplines himself with corporeal punishment).

I don’t think that religious beliefs have any place in personal relationships. A group of religious zealots tried to split my wife and I up on two different occasions. Reading the Bible doesn’t make you a good person.

@Nurse_Phillips Ephesians 28 "In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies."

In other words, what's good for the goose is good for the gander. If the man of house is willing to put the woman of the house's buttocks on the line for a spanking for misbehavior then he better be ready to put his own butt on the line for a spanking if he misbehaves. Why do I suspect that a lot more male bottoms would be in jeopardy in such an instance.

@Papa_Sam i think you need to start with 22 “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord...”

@Nurse_Phillips . i think you need to start with 22 “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord...

Now I'm gonna have to look to see if I can find scripture that suggests that the Lord puts females over his lap for a bare bottom spanking when they misbehave. Wish me luck. 😃

@This_IsMark I think some more younger men need a good mentoring to become better responsible men. I am not saying all men need to be spanked. But in some cases they clearly need to be taught better and have discussions with an older mentor more so!! I'd love to hear more about your experiences.

I don’t think that religious beliefs have any place in personal relationships. A group of religious zealots tried to split my wife and I up on two different occasions. Reading the Bible doesn’t make you a good person.

A brother of sub's tried to push his way between us. It didn't work and put more between sub and him for him trying to be such a supposed know it all. When he actually knew nothing.

While I suscribe to the husband being the head of the household, the wife is a team member whose opinion really matters and is respected. I think that being spanked for any number of agreed to reasons, can for many couples strengthen ther bond between husband and a wife under certain conditions.

1) Spanking should be a consensual agreement by both husband and wife.

2) A spanking should never be done in anger nor frustation with their spouse

3) A spanking should be over the knee on the bare bottom.

4) A safeword should be established for stopping a spanking which should be instantly honored and never violated.

5) The severity of a spanking should not result in marks that last more than a day or two on the bottom.

6) There shoud be an equal standard in that the wife or the husband are to be spanked whenever it is warranted.

7) Any spanking should be done in the utmost of confidence and done only when the wife and husband are completely alone in the house or wherever they might be.

8 ) After a spanking, very tender love and appreciation for their spouse should be expressed and the one being spanked should be encouraged to do "better" in the future

9) After a spanking the "offense" should be completely forgiven and not mentioned again.

10) Many couples experience a sexual arousal when spanked or giving a spanking......My advice would be to follow up on that opportunity with a great deal of enthusiasm and energy!!!

There are likely other conditions that have worked for my husband and myself that I may have missed. I feel that spanking is a kinky behavior and it is up to the individual couple to do their own "thing", I guess bottom line is to do whatever strengthens your love and devotion to your spoure.

It all sounds like foreplay to me, spin it however you want to.

From the movie, "My Big Fat Greek Wedding"

Toula, the daughter, talks to her mother about getting permission from her father.

Toula: "Ma, Dad is so stubborn. What he says goes."

Mother: "Ah, the man is the head of the house! Let me tell you something, Toula. The man is the head, but the woman is the neck. And she can turn the head any way she wants.

One man explained his role and his wife's role in their household.

"I make all of the important decisions and I delegate a few minor responsibilities to my wife. For example, I decide thing like how to resolve the Middle East crisis, what to do about poverty in the world, and what should be done about the homeless population. My wife takes care of only small things like what house we should buy and where, how we should invest our retirement funds, how we manage our household budget, which cars we should purchase, where we go on vacation and when, and all other household and family matters. In all of these minor responsibilities that she manages, I act in an advisory role, but she makes the final decisions."

My husband is the Head of the Household. We practice domestic discipline as a lifestyle, the "4 Ds" often refer to Directive, Duration, Discipline, and Disengage.

Directive:

This refers to the clear and concise direction or instruction given by the Head of Household. Rules and guidelines are given and explained to me clearly and to follow it closely. Any breaking of the rules will result in punishments.

Duration

This refers to the length of time the instruction or discipline is in effect. When the rules and instructions comes in to effect my bottom will feel the effect of the discipline.

Discipline:

This refers to the actions taken to enforce the directive and ensure compliance. This the part that the spanking start and a sore bottom end. It enforce and ensure that the mistakes will not be repeated especially when you sit down on the next few days.

Disengage:

This refers to the end of the discipline or instruction. At this stage all is forgiven and aftercare takes over.

This what my Head of the Household is all about.

Wow, Some real sound and well planned ideas for happiness. Thank you, All !!

We have a 5th "D"

The fifth {"D"} is used with #3 and #4 and when Directive is critical, needing emphasis to help memory with #1.

We Call it, Ddahh greasy finger. When used with #1, it is held straight up, glistening in plain sight during Directives and delightfully received in the end,,,,

Dear Denise !! - thanks for this comment !! - it looks like " the ten commandments ", that we all know from the bible !!

I am the hon in my household, dominate over my wife, too daughters and one son, I give bare butt spanking to all. Sometimes the discipline must be punished through the use of an enema but that is very rare.

I am the hon in my household, dominate over my wife, too daughters and one son, I give bare butt spanking to all. Sometimes the discipline must be punished through the use of an enema but that is very rare.

Could you clarify what you mean by 'hon'? I don't think I have ever encountered this word used in this way.

The expectation or assumption that a Biblical/Christian household is total perfection is false, I think for two reasons; First, because a lot of generalities and assertions have been justified by quoting the Bible, and two, simply because people are not perfect. We are all flawed in some way or another. The Biblical definition that a man is the head of the household, has been distorted and taken out of context by both those who advocate for it, and those who react against it; and sometimes, that negative reaction occurs, simply because it comes from the Bible. Cultural changes aside, and believe me technology does and has effected culture.

But what I believe, this is referring to is a standard, a model or a blueprint, which offers, not what some think as "male tyranny", but one of responsibility and accountability, respect and most importantly, the fidelity of love. The Man being the "head" of the household was and is, and should be the or anchor of the family. He is not or should not be a tyrant, or a bully or a heavy hand just because he or anyone else can refer to a biblical standard and make further assumptions. If we read further, the man is directed to love his wife as himself. So he cherishes his wife, respects her, values her, is loyal to her and in essence their children. They are not his chattel or property they are and should be a continuation of him, that completes him and he gives himself to them in the commitment of family; Thus the real village is the family.

I realize that this is a spanking forum, and I get that, believe me. But I came from the home were the Biblical head of the household was my Dad, and now I have an even deeper appreciation for him. But he definitely was the head of the house. He was my Dad, not my friend, not a doormat, and not a tyrant.

Now with all of that being said. My spanking fetish is along with my sexual proclivities something, that probably my Dad did not have, nor found fascinating. I guess you could say in my case, the apple fell quite a ways from the tree.