Male Head of Household - Biblical ways

Any else have a marriage where the wife wants and expects the man to be the head of the household, and expects to be disciplined if she gets out of line? My wife told me the day after we got married she expects me to keep her in line and be the head of the household, following biblical writings. I was hesitant but after three years of marriage she's still expecting it and demanding its. So I've fallen into the role. So now when she's bad she is spanked or punished.

My wife and I practice Christian Domestic Discipline. I am head of the household and she is submissive. It is hard for her to be submissive, but she has learned slowly. But still hard. She gets other punishments, and totally consensual. I mean she knows it is best for her and us as a couple, but it is hard to submit. She is bare bottom spanked but only for lying, out right defiance, acts of danger, and extreme things. Corner time for other things.

Uh uh...ain't gonna happen unless I LET it happen!I'm too much of a modern woman to let a man "tell" me the way it's gonna be!There are very few times I'll ever give in and let him have his way but I don't make it an issue or fight about it.He knows that I have a mind and will speak it!

Not in this household. If it works for the two of you, then let it be so. Best wishes on your life ahead.

We practice domestic discipline, my husband is the HOH, punishments are for real, these includes spankings, corner time and enemas.

It is hard to submit to such discipline, but it works for us and keep me submissive.

My hubby is the head of the house. He still respects me being a modern working lady outside home. I had a hard time learning to be submissive, when I am not in the mood. But his lectures always make me find my conscience and make me think that I really did something wrong.

I have to get over his knee and spanked by him once I am naughty( violate the rules of the house ) enema and figging are also on the punishmet list.

Biblical anything is NOT going to happen in our house.

I am usually dominant in things I want to get done, but my husband gets his way a good proportion of the time, especially where making a purchase is concerned.

I don't want to bring any real life situations into our S&M scenes, so there is no corporal punishment for real life actions. It can be dangerous when you play near the edge.

I know in back in time that the men were in charge and made the big decisions but now when I see that happening, I lose some respect for men like that. Men shouldn't be waited on and expect their wives to do nothing but serve for them. Everyone is different though. If the wife wants to get spanked by her husband, awesome. I could live with that perfectly fine but I wouldn't be able to deal with my husband making all the calls. Everyone is equal, man or woman.

I think the head of household concept is often and easily misunderstood. it is a responsibility, not a privilege. It requires strong awareness of and mastery over the ego. The ability to take in good counsel and act on it, even if it is contrary to what the husband wants. It's about leading the family by doing what is right rather than what is desired. It takes a very devout, devoted, special kind of partnership to pull it off properly.

I am spanked by my wife as punishment, but not often. I just do not think that this practice can really work if it is used all or most of the time. The realtionship would fall apart. Spanking, at least to us, is linked to sex, not control.

I'm a big believer in the man being the head of household. IMO women were designed to be submissive. Not in a indentured servitude slave kind of way, but submissive out of love and respect. Women are nurturers, I take to that role naturally. I want to serve the man/men in my life, not because they order me to, but because I want to please them and take care of them and care for them. Treat them like the king of the castle, if you will. Now that being said, I believe men were designed to care for their wives, not only financially but emotionally as well, and to appreciate them for what they do for them, thereby cherishing their wives. Biblically speaking, The Word commands that the husband love their wives in the same fashion that God loves the Church. Powerful stuff.

I'm in a same sex marriage. Married 7 years ago but have been a couple living together for 26 years. My husband is ABSOLUTELY head of our household. We don't consider discipline "play". This is our way of life 24/7 and we wouldn't change that for all the money in the world. We are both retired professionals who both hold doctorates. I don't feel inferior or "less than" in any way. My husband is 18 years older than me and much more pragmatic and far wiser. He's the natural leader in our marriage. These last 26 years have been incredible. I feel like the luckiest man alive.

Dadstillspanks, I seem to be following you around, but I don't mean to. First of all congrats on your long relationship. I just got done writing a comment on another post you wrote about spanking as well.

Doc and I do both kinds of spanking. When we are doing disciplinary spanking there isn't playtime happening. Those spankings are serious and are given for infractions, and not stupid things either, or childish. There is no smiling going on or flirting either. It is discipline.

However unlike you boys, we do engage in playful, erotic, and kinky spankings too. And that is exactly what they are. They are meant to get our sexual juices going/dripping and to be a part of our for play which naturally ends in really freaking HOT sex lol.

My wife and I practice a LDD or CDD lifestyle and I administer the belt and paddle on her bare bottom when needed.

@lulani Exactly. As long as there is respect and equality even if the husband is the "head."

This has been around a while, I recall reading about the Taken in Hand movement about 20 years or so ago.

Given the current social environment, I can guess it is well underground these days.

There was an Amish girl on here about a decade ago that wasn't married yet but from talking to her she expected exactly that. She got bare bottom spanked by her dad growing up. In the context of her beliefs the husband took the wife in hand as needed. She got very wild during her Rumspringa and at one point was shunned. It is an interesting story how she made it back. Maybe some day I'll tell it.

Just curious, where in the bible does it say the man should discipline his wife??

My marriage is a partnership. We have different roles and responsibilities but they are equally important. I punished my wife by not talking to her, she punished me by withholding sex!! She usually won....

Just curious, where in the bible does it say the man should discipline his wife??

My marriage is a partnership. We have different roles and responsibilities but they are equally important. I punished my wife by not talking to her, she punished me by withholding sex!! She usually won....

LOTS of places. There are extremely severe punishments for some transgressions.

Marriage is NOT a partnership in the bible. The MAN is the ruler.

Marriage is NOT a partnership in the bible. The MAN is the ruler.

Times have changed. That's why I don't go to Church!! A little googling on CDD uncovers a lot of contradictions - both pro and con. I always viewed it as a way to justify some kinks - and that it makes for GREAT make-up sex.

You ASKED about the bible.

I TOLD you about the bible! 😁

I have a brother who "preaches" he's the head of his house. But most know his wife runs it. Who they see and associate with and what they do is her final say.

A brother-in-law is the head of his house (religion as he sees it is his guide) and those that follow him too. His wife is not the brightest bulb on the box. She doesn't usually have a thought of her own. She okays what she says and does with her husband.

Those are neither examples of what my relationship is. Don't want it, couldn't stand it. I am getting too old to just sit back and keep my mouth shut on topics/things I feel passionate on.

I notice all the posts about spanking in marriage are about spanking for punishment. The spanking couples I know do it purely for pleasure, with only pretend punishment for roleplay.

I was in a situation that was fairly unique, I think: being mentored and schooled in Bible Study by a very conservative old school Pastor. This Pastor was a Spanker (as the Bible allowed, he always said); he sometimes disciplined his wife, daughter, and teenage son with spankings and paddlings, usually over his knee on their bared ass. As he was Mentoring & instructing me, he also insisted on disciplining me similarly when I deserved it. I agreed to his authority.

This was in the mid-west USA where I grew up. The church he was Pastor of was called the "Reformed Church of Christ" and was in a very small town of mostly farmers.

He would never go into detail about the spankings he'd give to his wife and daughter, only that he gave them. I think he felt that info would be too salacious (perhaps) for me. He DID go into detail (to me) about punishments he'd give his teenage son, often as an example of how he'd punish me if I deserved it (and yeah he DID discipline me several times).

I heard rumors that one or two of the "Church Deacons" - older community volunteers who were church members - would also on occasion spank or paddle a church member, usually male, sometimes a female wife of a member who requested it. I have no doubt that these "rumors" were completely true.

I received great tutorials on The Bible from this Pastor who mentored me. I respected him, feared him (somewhat). It was a situation few have been in (I suspect).

Actually truth be told, most wives just let their husbands think they are the head of the household when the wife is indeed the head of the household!! lol Denise

Actually truth be told, most wives just let their husbands think they are the head of the household when the wife is indeed the head of the household!! lol Denise

@denise. That is ABSOLUTELY not true. I run and control everything in our household!!

Excuse me, but I have to go empty the dishwasher and throw in a load of laundry before I get yelled at! 🤔

I believe that situations do exist today, whether it be in a small town or a huge city. People run their lives as they think they should, and as both individuals agree..... C'est La Vie !!!!

Actually truth be told, most wives just let their husbands think they are the head of the household when the wife is indeed the head of the household!! lol Denise

The adage "Happy Wife, Happy Life!" applies fully. Let the wife do as she wants, sees fit, and they have less trouble.

Well just to make a good point here about the head of the family being husband, that means wife is the neck, hence the the neck regulates which way head is facing, etc. Ladies you have power 🔋 in your hands ✋️, or rather your neck 😉

I heard rumors that one or two of the "Church Deacons" - older community volunteers who were church members - would also on occasion spank or paddle a church member, usually male, sometimes a female wife of a member who requested it. I have no doubt that these "rumors" were completely true.

Sounds like one of those religious leaders who will one day get caught in a very comprising situation that will more than likely make him look like a hypocrite.