Do You Plan Ahead for Play?

Just wondering how many Doctors work out a play scenario before they start examining their patients? Do you plan out exactly what you will be doing and medically a reason for it or do you just go with the flow?

For those couples fortunate enough to be regular medfet partners, do you plan ahead your play times or are just spontaneous? Like, "Hey Honey, let's forget dinner out and stay in and do some play exams?"

Lady Teddy

Plan ahead. Always would have a plan and discuss with my play partner beforehand what we would be doing. Now that I have a regular partner, we really plan out what will happen - it just works out better that way for us. We don't kink all the time but from time to time one of us will say 'hey, lets play....' and we go from there.

We actually schedule them together as a couple. There is a schedule book and an electronic calendar on our Mac that syncs to our iPhones. How is that for kink-tech 😃 We do not really go into the playrooms for any other purpose other to organize and clean. This keeps the exam play "special" for us.

Lady Teddy - I'm only answering the first question you pose. I do so for the benefit of other members since you yourself are aware from our correspondence.

I have a quite strict attitude to the examination phase of a consultation in that it mimics, so far as is possible, the sort of top to toe examination one might get when registering with a new medical practice.

It might be that in a preliminary chat a prospective patient will go through a role play scenario and may do so again when we meet and when I ask 'and why have you come to see me today?'. Whatever the reason, be it a genuine difficulty or a fantasy, I shall follow my procedures with the reason or scenario in mind.

As for what might have been agreed in respect of the 'treatment' phase which follows, yes, I 'go with the flow' and in general with what has been agreed with the strictest understanding that the patient may withdraw from what has been discussed at any moment in time and without demur.

It most often happens that what has been agreed does in fact take place but it is good to report that never, ever, has the Safe Word had to be used. I put that fact down to having had detailed and extensive chat beforehand during which much will have been ironed out and there has been ample opportunity to consider.

Yes, Lady Teddy, we plan in great detail. We generally play over the course of 4 or 5 full days every few months or so. Well in advance of our play session each of us will come up with 2 or 3 scenarios for the other. Generally the other partner has a hand in creating the scenario, but sometimes we like to surprise each other completely. Of course the full understanding exists that if the other partner doesn't care for what's taking place, it stops immediately. Sometimes we discuss and analyze where the scene is going and make changes to make the other partner comfortable, sometimes we let it drop completely. "Going with the flow" is not generally a part of our play because we are both control freaks, but we have the kind of incredible "read your mind" trust that lets us indulge in that from time to time.

We both feel the same way about these plans; it's part of the foreplay, it's a component of what makes our relationship so special, and it keeps things fresh between us. We talk every day and I love it when he starts a conversation by saying, "You know what I was thinking about today?". For both of us, the planning really gets the juices flowing.

We each have a safe word, neither of us have ever had to use it.

Play On!

LadyDoc

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. . . . .We each have a safe word, neither of us have ever had to use it.

Play On!

LadyDoc

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Sounds like you need to push each other a little bit harder! 😁 😁 😁 😁

Oh Susie, you devil you!

Honestly, i have heard that a good play partner will push but not quite to the point of having to use a safeword. A good play partner will know when enough is enough. My play partners and i save the safewords for emergencies and i have never used one in my life. my partners have been very intuitive of my responses, and i guess i have been lucky in that fact.

soumise

(noticed some of the changes on the site and they are pretty cool! Good job guys!)

On the subject of play words, the only time that I felt that I had to use the safe word, I was in so much pain that I forgot what it was! The only thing on my mind was, "Ow, this hurts!". My protests got my play partner to stop. By the way, we were playing medfet and trying fisting at the time.

Lady Teddy

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On the subject of play words, the only time that I felt that I had to use the safe word, I was in so much pain that I forgot what it was! . . . .

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That brings up an S&M-Jesus joke (I DO NOT mean to offend anybody)

Q: Why did Jesus die on the cross?

A: He forgot the safeword

No offense taken, at least not by me!

Another priceless contribution - and for everything else there's Mastercard!

Thanks, Susie

Play On!

LadyDoc

Whether with a new patient or a regular one our exams are planned. It's pretty much like going to a real doctor. You at least know what is going to happen when you get there. It is very important to discuss the entire exam with a new patient in detail. It takes a long time e-mailing, calling and finally meeting to allow each other to become comfortable enough to proceed with an exam. With a long time patient she becomes familiar with all of the procedures she will encounter. At that point every exam is still different in that different things are done each time.

For me I'd plan ahead for a scene make sure we have everything we need and it goes properly but that's just me