Rant: More so for my mental health than anything else

My partner and I have been together for several years. Over this time out Daddy/little girl relationship has changed and evolved. As of late he refuses to see me as an adult too. He is always saying he sees me as a little girl. This has caused numerous “fights” between us. I see it as I am an adult pretending to be a little girl, to ignore that I have an adult side is to neglect that the adult me exists. I have stated this to him so many times and ways, and it seems like it never sinks in.

I don’t know what to do or what is left to say at this point. I suppose that it why I am here. This is probably going to open a huge can of worms, but I really don’t know how else to get it out. Am I being unreasonable? Is my argument unfounded? I think it is unfair and impossible to ignore there is an adult me. If there wasn’t an adult me sex wouldn’t be in play, but yet it is. I think the incorporation of an adult relationship (i.e. sex) means there must be an acknowledgement of my adulthood, yet my SO can’t bring himself to say so. To literally SAY IT.

I feel so hurt that he just can’t… I’m not sure what I am looking for here. I guess just the chance to get it off my chest one more time so I don’t explode in a ball of hate of all things little girl and AB.

Maybe you could just refuse to go any further with the role play until he acknowledges that's not all you have to offer. I'm sure he'll come around and realize what he's putting you through right now. Everyone gets carried away occasionally, even to extremes like that.

I relaay hope it works out for you.

Well, I suppose it's difficult to formulate a proper response without knowing more details. Specifically, who initiated the ageplay/roleplay aspect into the relationship? If it was him, and you consented to explore new terrain, then it is more his responsibility to correct his image of you in his head. If you introduced the idea at the beginning, depending upon the initial response that it garnered from your partner, then it may be something that you both need to sit down and really hash out in an adult discussion.

Granted it lies in both of your hands to make it work, but whomever presented the game to the other might take on just a bit more of the brunt of responsibility for sorting it out at this point. I say this due to my own thoughts on establishing a roleplaying relationship and the potential problems that might ensue. At what point do you fall out of the role and stop pretending? Once someone adopts a headspace, whether top or bottom, that switch gets set inside one's head. Granted the degree can fluctuate depending upon the circumstance, but submissive is submissive and dominant is, well, you get the point.

What factors does your play hinge on? Does your play last for hours, days, weeks at a time? Or is it something that is over once you have consummated the experience? If you are over and done with after having a good ol' fashioned romp then it should be easier to shake, while playing for wildly extended periods of time further ingrains the idea of the role.

There is also the question of 'how' you play. Without attempting to get you to dredge out personal and/or graphic details of your personal sex life, you should-for yourself-consider to what degree your playing takes. Is it light and topical or involved heavily in the psychology of it. The deeper you delve into the psyche, again, the more ingrained the characterization becomes.

There are a lot of factors to consider before really determining how to approach the problem at hand. And even after all the evidence has been collected, truly no one but yourself can decide an outcome that will work for you except yourself. You will never remove a weed unless you attack at the roots.

Our play hinges on 24/7. It has been established that when I enter his doors I am supposed to become little. It as of late has become a struggle for me. I want his attention, but I don’t want to be little while receiving it.

Being little to him, consists of me being “changed” there are no if, ands, or buts about it. He wants me to be little, and being in a diaper of his choosing is a way for that to happen. I have been fighting that though. I argue that I can be “little” and not have to put on that type of “underwear” or that I may be wearing what he wants but I am still an adult. He has said my whining proves just how little I am. This usually causes a tiff between us and inevitably I give in.

He makes sure he addresses me as “baby” and I am supposed to address him as Daddy. I don’t always and he always pauses for it to be stated or asks me who I am addressing.

It is harder for me to fall into the sub role. It used to be easy. Now, I want to have control over some things and even exert my dominance. There are other factors in play along with this, which I will not get into here, but I have with him. I think he pushes for me to go into that sub role because once I do arrive there I am happy and feel very cared for. It is just quite a bumpy ride there when at the time I don’t want it.

I really just want for him to acknowledge that I still am an adult, just to say it.

I suppose you have to ask yourself what is more desirable: the pleasure that you usually experience from simply giving in and submitting to your established role or standing firm and retaining a modicum of control.

Then I would pick about in that questioning of control; what it means to you and why and if a comfortable and workable middle ground for exchange can be achieved in your present situation.

Really, most things-no matter how seemingly complex-come out to be a simple matter of what you want versus what you feel you have to give. Where is your fine line in compromise and how can you better the equilibrium of such?