Sexual orientation vs Fantasy (fetish)

Hi all,

I believe that my sexual orientation (Lesbian) has somehow been effected by my medical fantasies (or fetishes). I am now more convinced and feel more comfortable and assured that what I want to do in my life is to be with a woman and love her. I think this decision was emphasized by my experience, I always felt that being checked (or inspected) by a female doctor or nurse gives a comforting feeling that you are being loved and taken care of.

What do you say?

Lisa

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I am a straight male, and I an another straight male as kids from age 10 to little past 13 took each others rectal temps as we both liked how it felt in our butts. We never had sex with each other and to this day although I date and love having sex with ladies I still prefer taking men's temps if they are into it. I find I like to do temps with men much more then ladies.

I'm gay but I prefer female doctors as physicians. Now I have had a few male doctors as sex partners and enjoyed that.

This is an interesting concept. I always considered myself straight. However, i prefered male play doctors. I have since discovered that I may be bi-sexual as i enjoy many more activites with men and women. So your beliefs may have some merit to them.

I am straight and have always been heterosexual (except for one interesting afternoon in San Francisco years ago) but now that I am older and my wife has ceased to want sex and my ability to have an erection has waned, I find my thoughts going more towards men. In fact, I have my first enema session set up for next week...with a man! In the past several years, my fantasies have been going more and more bisexual. Especially since I have joined this fantastic and somewhat warped group. If my wife who is ultra-vanilla could see the fantasies that flow through my head after I take a shower and I am sitting in the toilet drying myself off and playing with my balls, she would go screaming out of the house. Interesting to see how my first enema session goes..looking forward to it.

Sounds like your orientation and fantasies are in tune with one another, both involving women. Interesting that those who responded so far are mentioning instances where their orientation and fetishes are at odds.

Interesting that those who responded so far are mentioning instances where their orientation and fetishes are at odds.

Perhaps it goes to indicate that orientation may be largely a socialization process, where we are taught which is the correct and proper gender to feel attracted to.

Perhaps it goes to indicate that orientation may be largely a socialization process, where we are taught which is the correct and proper gender to feel attracted to.

It might be so for those who are not naturally orientated towards the opposite sex, but who are told they should be. That might be a source of internal conflict.

Personally I always knew I was interested only in girls for as long as I can remember, and I have a very good memory of my earliest years. I didn't need to be conditioned to have a preference.

Personally I always knew I was interested only in girls for as long as I can remember, and I have a very good memory of my earliest years. I didn't need to be conditioned to have a preference.

I didn't have to be conditioned for a preferences either.

I always knew I liked boys best, but there were a few special girls that really turned me on.

As far as fantasies are concerned, If I THINK something, I DO it.

I didn't have to be conditioned for a preferences either.

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People rarely know they are being socialized into being/doing/accepting something. It is often something like osmosis. All these influences growing up that one is not aware of, still steer one towards a specific preference.

This is not really the same as being conditioned.

Hm good question.

I’m heterosexual and have only been with women. But one physical exam with my male pediatrician during puberty made a big impression on me and probably led to my medical fetish.

I distinctly recall the mental and physical sensations of the doctor pulling down my underwear, exposing my bottom, then his soft warm hands spreading my cheeks, and his gentle fingertips examining my anal area.

I’m 99.9% sure I’ll never be intimate with a man but I do think about this scenario and admit that certain photos of a man getting a rectal temperature excite me.