Fiancee afraid to try enema

Does anyone's wife refuse even when you try to bribe her?

My fiancée was incredibly nervous at first, and it took a couple months for me to finally convince her...but now? She sends me pics of her taking them when I'm at work and she's home. We play all the time and take them for health and fun. I think that if you love someone, that at least needs to come with an open mind...it's up to the person with more experience, to make it fun

Mrlee: Right Now there is Nothing I can promise to my wife that will get her to give me one; and I doubt if she will let me give her one. She Knows of my interest (actually enthusiasm), and that I take them once a week if I can fit them into schedule. She has diverticulitis, and is very careful about her diet; takes all kinds of measures to ensure that she won't get constipated. One day, though, due to my M.S., I will probably find it beyond my capability to self administer; and maybe she will help me then... I have given to her in the past, and I guess I didn't do a good enough job of developing her interest. She has given to me in the past; but makes sounds indicating that she is being repulsed by the appearance of my anal entry. Of course, I haven't examined it myself; but I don't expect that it should be all that ugly. (Maybe I should look into it ... LoL.) I suppose, though, that just as some people find blood, poop or other things repulsive, there are some who don't like the appearance of an anus. I am envious of those of you who have managed to find and/or develop a reciprocal arrangement with your mate... Enjoy it, it has got to be marvelous.

Cos

Perhaps a bulb would be less "threatening" than a large bag hanging over their head.

I took my first 4qt enema yesterday :-)

For those of you who enjoy anal play -- including enemas -- with your spouse or fiancee....fantastic! I envy you since I've tried for 33 years now to get my wife to participate with me...even had others on line try to talk with her about giving or receiving and she has refused. So...don't take your loved one for granted...she/he is a special gift that you have received. Enjoy life together!

Start with a small suringe bulb filled with baby oil, and then increase the size of the bulb filled with warm water........

I'm a gay male, and sadly my last boyfriend, who I cared for a great deal and who we spent almost 6 years together, didn't enjoy enemas, but knew that I did. We would discuss enemas and stuff, but he just wasn't into alot of buttplay. He did let me administer a few small enemas to him, but I dreamed of administering a large volume hot soapy enema to his hot little butt!!! Barry

I had a girlfriend who had chronic constipation. I recommended enemas as a relief for her. She said she was afraid of them. So volunteered myself, to let her give me an enema so she could see she was making a big deal out of nothing. She was eager in fact to be the giver. I had her fill the bag, lube the nozzle and stick it in me. She stood next to me in her bra and panties holding the bag high over me. It became very erotic for both of us. After expelling we had a very hot fuck session. Then I told her I'm going to give you an enema now. She complied without a fuss. It also excited me giving an enema virgin an enema. I has naked while doing it and when she was done we had round two fucking to exhaustion.

You need to talk more to her

Some people will never try an enema. Face facts. They will get really turned off by your constant pressure. Zity is full of one sided enemate couples.

Willing it, and wanting it, doesn't always make it happen. Remember the old adage: You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.

Fear of the unknown can often prevent someone from taking the first, or next, step. You may love skydiving, but that isn't going to make your partner WANT to jump out of a perfectly good airplane.

There needs to be a little persuasion, get your partner to see it in her/his best interest. In that vain, Bagman925's post may be a useful model.

If you have done "everything imaginable" as you say, and she is "up for anything" as you say, tie her up and give her an enema.

Don't take no for an answer.

Cos, I have diverticulitis also. Does not stop me from having an enema. When it is causing me discomfort it makes for an unpleasant enema however getting cleaned out relieves the discomfort. The rest of the time it does not interfer with my enema.

It took some time for my husband to convince me to let him give me an enema. The only thing that made me say yes was the i was so badly bound up that it was either that or a trip to the ER. I had tried every other thing I could think of before even sharing my plight with him. Fortunately, the enema worked and I avoided the trip to the ER, but then after thinking about the experience thought that I might want to try enemas solo on my own. That was over 6 years ago and I have been doing them ever since, many of those times is my husband and me playing.

Sir Wraith:

thank you for confiding that an enema can cause relief from a diverticulitis attack. Although my wife is very careful with her diet, I believe that some day she will miss something ( in her diet ) and be subject to an attack. At that time, I will mention the possible use of an enema for relief, indicating that I had hear from another sufferer that it was useful. If she can get over the idea that I might be mentioning it for my own reasons (which of course I would be ( I always enjoyed giving her enemas )), I would be overjoyed if she benefited enough to ask me again... thanks

Cos

You can make her first experience a good one by starting out nice and slow. I would recommend using a bulb syringe, have it off to the side. Start off with her lying naked on the bed, begin rubbing her slowly from head to toe. Offer to give her a sensual massage and use baby oil. Take you time and be sure to massage every inch of her. Make sure you concentrate on her bottom and back door, all the while whispering sweet nothings to her. Slowly insert a finger into her anus and get her all worked up. Once she is all warmed up, suggest to her to just try one bulb full. Who knows, if it works, she might be daring enough to take a second bulb.

Good Luck!

For partners that are reluctant, I have found that rectal temperatures (RTs) are the best way to introduce invasion of the anus as a sensual activity. RT allows the giver to manipulate the thermometer appropriately and to introduce sensations that can be followed later by an enema nozzle. Utilizing this tactic has helped me introduce enemas to a number of women reluctant to submit to an enema.

This is a super old thread, but worth revisiting. The key is communication. WHY is she reluctant? Afraid it's going to hurt? That's avoidable. Afraid of an accident (this has been the #1 reason for me that women who were reluctant were reluctant)? Right nozzle avoids that possibility. Finding out what the issue is makes it far easier to address.

She will either come around or shut you out completely

Likely no middle ground

It's going to have to be at her own pace