Gloved confusion

OK hopefully that gets some attention. I wasn't sure where this fits but I had an experience recently that really threw me. I have a new partner and one of the things I did to "feel" him out on my med.fet. turn-ons was to say I liked anal play and latex gloves came in handy for that. He had a negative reaction saying couldn't he just keep track of which finger went where? Later, in bed, he stroked and penetrated me anally. Hurray! Here's the part that confused, excited and made me nervous-- as we lay in the afterglow I reminded him to wash up. His response was to hold his finger to his nose and sniff, deciding I had been clean enough he didn't need to worry. I had an intensely embarrassed reaction to all that and he gently told me not to be shy. So if he is that bold, why wouldn't he want to use a glove knowing they turn me on?

The most important part of any relationship is communication. Regardless if your partner is male or female, unless they are a mind reader they will never understand why you are aroused by a particular thing unless you tell them.

Gloves may have many different aspects of arousal. Is it the scent of latex that arouses you? The sharp snap of a glove as it is donned? The sight of extended fingers flexing, along with that snap? The smooth sensation of a gloved finger being inserted, rather than rough skin and sharp fingernails? For most MedFets, simply the sight of a box of gloves is enough to raise their heart rate. Does your partner understand why?

Don't be afraid to share your fantasies with your partner. If they understand not only what arouses you, but the reasons that it does, they will likely make their best efforts to satisfy you.

Yes to all the above. I told him my entire trauma story and also one humorous related situation. I worked as a special education teacher in a state run institution. My “students”, all young adults who were profoundly impaired, pretty much all needed diapers changed. We had boxes of gloves everywhere. My roommate worked as an assistant in my room. We later became lovers. I'm hetero but it was a worthwhile experiment. I told her about my erotic trigger where latex gloves were concerned, So she would surprise me from across the classroom, with a "good girl", snap and intentional look in my direction. Made me squirm everytime. In any case the boyfriend wasn't enticed through salaciously planned humor or by my vulnerability in sharing a difficult event in my life. Oh well.. I'm hoping in time !!

I would love to find out my girlfriend was playing with gloved hands... somehow ha

May I Ask... What is Your Trauma Story?

Maybe he was a bit shy at first - he wasnt afterwards so thats a good thing.

I wish i was your BF....l would wear gloves for you all the time.… l love biogel surgical gloves, smooth thin and tight.

I understand how important gloves are in relationship it also ads to a better hygiene.

Another “resurrection”

There's many here that really can relate togloves in one way or another, whether it is from a clinical situation or in a home “play” scenario.

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