How can I convince my wife to accept my diapers

I have been into diapers for years, but how can i convince my wife to just accept me wearing them on occasion? I don't often mess and don't like to flaunt them off. I just like to wear them and wet. How would you suggest i get what i want?

I hear you. I would really like to do the same thing. Does anyone have experience telling their parter about a diaper fetish even after the subject has never come up for many years?

How can i convince my wife to just accept me wearing them on occasion?

I don't think you can "convince" anyone of anything re: sex, kink, and taboos. If she is totally or kind of OK with it, that is her. If she is not OK or repulsed/horrified, that is also her. In my opinion, changing someone's personal reaction to any kink is highly unlikely. You, like most of us, likely have no idea why diaper lover play works for you, it just does. If it does NOT work for someone, that is just how it is, in my opinion.

Does anyone have experience telling their partner about a diaper fetish even after the subject has never come up for many years?

Yes, I do. Highly successfully. My wife is now very diaper lover, gets extremely horny wearing and wetting, and regards diaper lover play as a very, very important part of sex. But I have already written about it ad nauseam on this and other boards.

Later: I went and looked it up. One of the more concise postings is:

Diaper-Dreams / How to get him/her involved / My "How It Started story on: 2008.10.28

Have your wife try wearing diapers for a few days and wet them then she is wet pull the crouch of her wet diaper to one side and make love to her I love this it is what I get when I weak up wet every morining I am 23 f I been wearing diapers now sence i was 19 I love it a lot and I will never stop my husband is a life long bedwetter he is why I started to wear now I do think of myself as a bedwetter

G'day,

Have an open and honest conversation with her. You aren't going to be able to "trick" her into liking something. Be prepared to answer questions and approach it in an adult mind frame. Be prepared for a possible negative reaction because you've hidden this from her for a number of years. Most partners, men and women, don't react kindly when they find out their spouse has been hiding something for years on end.

Good luck but don't be surprised if it doesn't turn out exactly as you may want.

Snugglebear

I was so lucky to get my wife to like diapers

I have over the 23 yrs of marriage tried but to no avail. I so desparetly want to get her to at least accept the fact that i wear diapers to bed. So just thinks that it is not right to role play with me. I have no idea what to do.

I made it sexual, and told her i wanted o try something new. I put on a goodnite right in front of her, wet it, then rubbed it. it turned her on and now she like to masturbate me in it. sorry for the bluntness but its the truth. just do it and if she doesn't like it then just tell her you "will" move on to another thing. Hope that helps!

Hmmmmm, I'm kinda lucky in that I have a wife who's accepting of my recreational wearing of diapers.

Well, I'm an advocate of gradually working with your spouse in steps. I'd advise wearing products designed for adults that look like regular underwear that protect against minor leakage but insist, at first, it's your problem and you'll take care of any accidents. If you're asked why, just shyly explain you're afraid of minor slipups between toilet visits and having them on really, really, alleviates the stress of having to "tense" up all the time. If you feel the time is right you might ask to share a deep dark secret with her that when you're in them it feels good against the skin and when you're next to her and no longer afraid of leaking it kinda makes you rather amorous. Oh, and somewhere along the line do the laundry and point out, rather obviously, that you're really, really glad those embarrassing yellow stains in the front and the 'skid marks' are gone for good.

If she's at least letting you do this on your own at this point you might want to slowly take on the 'little boy' persona gradually. For instance, when she tells you take out the trash do the, "I don't wanna, I'm a big boy now." if she's speechless, immediately do a, "Oh awl wight....if I hafta." and do it pouting like a spoiled child would, stomping and pouting. You can imagine other situations and scenarios that put your wife into the position of having to get her husband, now the occasional petulant little brat, to do what she wants you to do by bring out the stern mommy out of her.

I'm gonna stop here and ask for a critique and maybe if I'm not considered a complete oddball we'll reach the ultimate goal:

You, clad only in diapers, rubber panties, and frilly bonnet 24/7. You're hands and feet are hand cuffed in an adult sized crib and bottle fed with whatever mommie thinks you deserve. You are only let out to take baths and service mommy in whatever wicked role she desires.

I just flat out told my fiance, she was kinda scared and didnt understand at first, but now she just kinda ignors the fact that i wear. Im hoping one day to get her involved!

Small hint for the success of any relationship, don't try to convince them of anything like this. If they are not into your diapers or wearing diapers themselves don't push it on them. You will eventually find yourself without your partner. Let them see the pleasure you derive from your selected lifestyle diapers and maybe some day they may use it to pleasure you in return for you doing lifestyle selection of their likings. Lead by example and don't force or convince your mate, it will blow up in your face and end your relationship.

Just talk to them and explain your interest. Let them decide how they feel about it. Communication is the key but you can't make them do anything.

Just take it slowly my wife was totally horrified and disgusted and shockedv when I decided to come out to her about having worn in secret for the whole of our 32 yr marriage which in hindsight was a big mistake on my behalf and in hindsight I should have told her years ago.she wanted to know how I could have kept it a secret for all those years without her knowing and what other things had I lied about she also said it was not normal for a grown adult to wear diapers and that they were only for babies and she also called me a pervert. At first I was told to get rid of all my diapers and plastic pants as it was not normal but I said it was for me and refused to chuck everything out because I said it's something you can't give up so I had to agree to keep 1 pair of plastic babypants and only wear when staying at a hotel on business.I can only wear at home now because the company went bust.at Xmas I wet the bed and have done 3 more times since so my wife said you did it on purpose I said no it was an accident but the best way to protect our bed was for me towear a diaper to protect the bed,after a row and me disappearing downstairs my wife came down and shocked me by saying that as I seemed unable to give up the kinky fetish that if I agreed to wear pyjama bottoms over my diaper and babypants that I could wear them to bed what a result.so my advice is if you love each other you can finally get the same understanding from your wife as I have but it could be a very rocky road but keep talking don't flaunt it in her face and hopefully you will have the same result as I now have and I'm a very happy infantalist to be able to wear night and day with my wife knowing but with me not putting it in her face.all the best with it and hope it works out because we all need a loving partner and our baby side for total happiness.good luck

My wife is very conservative when it come to sex. I on the other hand have a few Kinks. I think she would be into babying me because she on the a regular bases has said "poor baby" and pats me in a mocking manner. I think she just won't let herself run with the thought because she think it would be wrong. I have used diaper on a very irregular bases because I know she would have serious issues with it if I did it when she is around so I can only do it once or twice a year, However we have a sheet that we use to protect the bed during sex and I have used that as a diaper during masturbation and she is none the wiser.

I tried to introduce diapers to my hubby years ago, but with out much success. I tried gag gifts, he just threw them away. I tried other suggestions but to no avail. So I wear in provate or when he isn't around. Sorry but I can not help.

I was forced back in them by my wife after wetting on everything due to being a diabetic.She has become use to me wearing diapers our roles have sorta reversed but change my own diaper she has become a lot more dominate.

My story is unique in that my soon to be wife had a relationship some 23 years ago but the circumstance was not good. At that time she did know that I love to be diapered and breastfed. But because she cared for me she told me that she would diaper me. I think it was because that this is what I wanted. She like her breast suckle and when she did diaper me and she found out that I sucked harder and that I was in a world of my own when she diapered me she started to like it and she would diaper me every time she came over and I didn't have to ask she would take my pants off and tell me to raise up and she would slide the diaper under me. but she did feel unease about baby pants cause I like to wear pink thumbs diaper pants. Now its been 23 years later that our daughter found me and we got to talking and we both wondered if that there could be a "you and me" because the circumstances at the time seemed to disappear (I won't get into the situation then) but she know tells me that she wants to be married and she accepts my diaper fetish to a point that she going to diaper me at least 3 times a week and put me in baby rhumba pants. and other things to because I did tell her over 23 years that we didn't talk that I was dressed as a baby girl and she didn't seem to mind but kinda giggle and told to she was going to do a lot more

My wife has become part of the diaper wearing process. She has to change me, re-diaper and clean me up. he really does not mind it and takes pleasure of cleaning me up and making me smell nice after a accident. She will not allow me to change myself.

Here is my/our story I am 42 year old divorcee that has found the man of her dreams about a year after the divorce. Jake is 45, we met online in a totally vanilla site. We dated for about 4 years before I got remarried. I work as a guidance counselor and he works as an accountant. I never knew nothing about Jake having interest in diapers, we would spice it up in the bedroom with toys from time to time but nothing even to suspect about diapers. On a weekend that he and his friends went away fishing I was cooking in the kitchen for myself and as I opened a drawer it fell apart from the handle. So I went into the garage to find a screwdriver as I’m looking for it opening doors i see a black bag in one of the garage cabinets. So I open it up and see adult sized diapers plenty of them too. I was confused at first as to who’s they could be, but it’s only me and him living at our home. So i looked inside the bag and saw a receipt that they were purchased in July. I stayed hush didn’t call or ask him on the phone about them. I learned in my past relationship that jumping to conclusions is not the way to go. Since my curiosity was so astounded by this I went into the garage and searched furthermore to see what else he may be hiding . I found another trash bag in the trash can so I opened it up and it smelled like baby powder I looked deeper to see and say used diapers. I was disgusted was my husband using diapers ?? Why would he not tell me ? Is there something wrong with him ? Why? Why? Why? So I started to search the internet and see if this was even common, I mean I’ve seen it all on the jerry springer show but I wanted to know how common this was, as I was searching so much stuff came up on the topic. I was amazed it was like a whole other world out there that I didn’t know of. I still couldn’t believe my husband my dream guy was into this type of play. But I was extremely nervous in approaching him about it because I didn’t want him to feel ashamed, after all I’m not looking to get married for a 3rd time. So I had to be very cautious about my approach. I educated myself as much as I could in an entire weekend, I read so many stories about how many Dl and Abdl wives resent their husbands on diaper wearing and how many are repulsed by it. Also how many actually accept it too, that’s where I started to think if this is actually true I must not embarrass him especially that he is a very well known figure in the community. Even though I did not accept him wearing. So upon his return I could not take my eyes off his crotch every moment as the day would come to see if he is truly wearing a diaper. The following weekend I had plans to a spa with my dear friend Mary, I kissed jake and told him I would be back in a couple of hours. As we drive to the spa there was inclament weather and the spa has closed early so we returned home. Mary dropped me off and I went in our house through the backyard door. As I entered I could not find jake, so I ran in the garage he wasn’t there I then went upstairs in the bedroom and found him passed out under the covers. As I called his name “jake jake” he woke up in a frantic he was like your done already ? I was like the place was closed so we came back. I was so nervous and became worst because he seemed nervous too. What would I do what would I say if he truly was wearing them ? My stomach was full of butterflies, so I said I’m going to change my clothes to him and jump into bed with him since it was a dreary day. He shouted can you go get the mail ? I said I will later on on he insisted over and over so as i was changing he ran out the bedroom and went into the garage I put on my pajamas as fast as I could to follow him out to the garage as I opened the door to the garage I see him there in his diaper. He was so shocked and so was I, I didn’t want to believe it. He shouted it’s not what it looks like, I said what it looks like is that your wearing a diaper !! What the hell jake what’s wrong with you I shouted , he was so embarrassed he ran into the house, I kept chasing him for answered but he didn’t say one word. I then realized what I had done by confronting him in such a manner, I was all for not embarrassing him and I had done it to the extreme. I actually left him alone and went into the kitchen and started cooking, but could not unsee the image I’m my head that I saw him wearing a diaper. Why would he hide this I kept asking myself , and the answer to myself was how could he tell me such a thing when I would react this way. Aster I cooked I asked him if he was hungry and he said no I’m not, so I ate and went to bed, he did not come to bed that Saturday evening. I could not sleep one minute and as upset as I was I kept thinking of what I read on the side websites. So I didn’t know what to do was this going to be the end of us ? Was all I thought. So I started searching sites to find anything in wives catching their husband in diapers. I actually found hundreds of posts so I read one post of how to be calm and talk to him. So I got up at 3 am and went to the sofa where he was and sat next to him, I asked him are you ok ? He was not really talkative , so I asked him are you a diaper lover or Abdl ? His eyes lit up how do you know he asked. I know Jake and I’m sorry I freaked out but if this is something that is part of you I need to know I love you and want no secrets. He answered I’m a dl, and I didn’t tell you because I love you too, I asked him do you need to wear them or just wear them for fun , he answered me I wear them for relaxation. Relaxation? I asked he said yes I work in a high demand position at the accounting firm where I squirm with stress and yes they make me relax, they are comfy and take my mind off the stress. I was shocked to get that answer from him, so why haven’t you every told me about them ? He said I couldn’t I don’t know how you would react , who you would tell and if you would accept me . Well I don’t accept you hiding secrets from my I said, and I don’t know if I want to be involved. Are they’re any more secrets ? No no no he said this is it. So is it ok if I wear them on occasion he asked. My mind drew a blank then I replied yes Jake but not around me, and no I will not tell anyone. The relief in his face and the relief in me was priceless and could not come faster. As time went on we spoke more about it and I also continued to educate myself. But he was still hiding when he was wearing, I felt like not much had changed from when I caught him and him wearing before also.

So I read more about it, and I came across that sports football players wear them, truck drivers, gamblers at casinos, even celebrities have worn them. I came to think this is not so bad at all. I mean there are far worst things out there that men can be into, alcoholism, drug abuse, physical abuse, adultery, lazy men that don’t work, etc. my previous relationship I had been cheated on and physically abused constantly.

So the lesson I learned here is that the majority of wives girlfriends or S/O that resent the fact that thiers wears diapers or do not want to be involved in the diaper play with thier hubby actually makes thier hubby retaliate and rebel even more and indulges into it even more. So this is a trick that I figured that helped our relationship so much and made it even stronger( you must know that involvement will only bring you closer). A short time later Jake would wear in private and I notice that our sex life was diminishing also. This was upsetting to me and there have been times where there were plateau in our sex life but we would always spice it up a little with some light bondage and role play. So I decided that the weekend coming I would incorporate the diaper into our session so he starts to feel comfortable with me and the diaper. So on Saturday night as he was watching tv I was feeling kinky so I called him in the bedroom but he was like I’m watching tv leave me alone. I was frustrated and furious it been a while since we had sex and I wanted to make him feel comfortable again. I thought to myself maybe he don’t want to have sex because he was still embarrassed. I then decided to search kinky ideas with diaper and I found plenty that actually turned me on as I was reading them. I changed my self into some lingerie, and went to the couch where he was sitting from behind and blindfolded jake, he was reluctant but I told him to shut up and listen to me this is his punishment for wearing diapers without my consent, I told him to come along and take his punishment or I would throw out all his diapers, he said in a low tone ok I will do it I’m sorry. As I pulled him up the stairs into the bedroom I took him to the bed and told him sit down then lay down. He listened well. I told him roll over on his stomach and extend his hands over his head, I then cuffed him to the bed I told him to hush if I hear one word the diapers were getting ripped and tossed into the trash. He didn’t even peep. I retightened his tie blindfold and told him to pull himself on his knees. I asked him pick a number between 10 and 60 he picked 30. I told him good he was asking why I said you will soon know, I garaged some of our toys and found a butplug I lubed it up and inserted it in him he was not shocked because we play like that’s most of the time it actually helps loosen him there for toy play, I then turned some music on so he could not hear me, i told him he better hold it in ,I ran to the garage and grabbed a diaper came back and turned the music louder so he don’t hear the crinkle. I opened up the diaper and put it on him nice and tight to retain the plug. Instantly he had an erection I never seen before I whispered in his ear remember the number you picked he said yes . I said on you must stay and retain the plug for 30 minutes and keep your diaper dry or else. He said ok and whispered thank you (that melted my heart) . I came back to check on him and he was still there I asked is the plug in he said I think so it actually wasn’t I pushed it back in and said don’t let it go or you will be in big trouble. After 30 min passed I came back to the room and told him he has a choice he either can wet the diaper of keep it dry but each one has a consequence . I came back in 5 minutes and his diaper was wet. I said to him ok no time for your punishment. I went to our toy chest and pulled out my strapon and put it on I turned the music on again and pulled his diaper off half way pulled out the plug and Inserted the strapon with about 5 thrusts him moaned in ecstasy. I then pulled his diaper back up taped it tight and told him for wetting his diaper earlier he can’t change out of it till he wakes up in the morning and that he better not leak the diaper or he would not be allowed another diaper for the weekend. Since I did this and still do it a few times a month his desire to wear alone as gone down because it’s more fun when we both play together. I even have work from time to time even though I’m not crazy about them I still see that they are comfy and relax me too. It’s the coziness I guess. Moral of the story be wives should be more accepting and remember there a far worst things out there that thier can be doing, so this is not bad at all. If you love them you must accept them as a whole not just parts of them. To be honest at times it turns me on too I guess it’s the excitement of it all but jake wears on occasion with my consent and I do change him. However by playing in the bedroom with diapers our sex life has gotten much much better and we are much closer, acceptance is key and he has the desire to mostly wear less on his own. Who knows I may wear one day too but for now it’s important that I support him and trust me I don’t regret it one bit. The point is to have fun, and be creative, I sometimes lock all the bathroom doors and hold the key so he can’t use the bathroom, other times I make him do errands while wearing, I also surprise him and make him wear when he least expects it. Have fun

I hope all you guys can show this thread to your significant other.

I would love to get my wife involved; but, that will never happen. About 7 weeks ago she developed a bad case of bronchitis. While she regularly used panty liners, she was concerned they wouldn't be enough as every time she coughed she would also pee more than a minor leak. I suggested she wear my diapers which she did. After 2 or 3 days of wearing them, I told her she was really sexy in them to which she replied, "Yeah, sure." As her bronchitis got better and she quit the additional peeing, she quit wearing the diapers. She had no love whatsoever for them.

Bottom line: it's not always possible to convince a spouse to join in a particular kink.

Over the years my wife and I have tried a number of kinks, but she is really not interested in most of them. Even detests the majority of things tried or discussed. About a year ago I asked my bride of nearly 40 years to administer a glycerin suppository, telling her I was a bit stopped up. It was the truth, though, given time or doing it myself, everything would have worked out just fine. To make a long story short, she agreed and did it. Half hour later, so did I. ?

I bought a 'lube shooter' syringe and, a few weeks later, ask for help, again, but this time, the help was with a mineral oil treatment. Again, she complied and didn't ask where the diaper came from - just wanted to know why. I explained that the oil could easily leak, so she bundled me up in a disposable diaper.

Now, the oil treatments, weeks or months apart, are prolonged with quite a bit of in-and-out tease and play with the syringe, but none of that while she diapers me; that's all business. However, she seems eager for her "turn" of 'regular' and oral sex afterwards.

Nothing exciting in the telling of it, but the doing of it turns me on!

After having had several relationships in my teens/early 20s--a few of them lasting several years--I realized while I was still single that I'd never be able to get married unless my wife knew about and accepted my diapers.

During my late teenage years I had one girlfriend--starting in high school, followed by a few years apart, then back together for another year or so when I was 20--who was very liberal-minded and fun in bed (if I made her come hard enough she'd squirt pee all over me which was wonderful). But she absolutely could not stand the idea of diapers. She was always talking about how she would never have kids because she absolutely was NOT going to deal with having to change their diapers! So I figured out very early on--without even having to bring up the notion of ME wearing the diapers--that she just wouldn't do over the long term, and broke up with her. (And I still feel kind of bad about this, at the time she really did not understand why I was doing this, but I decided I couldn't just come out and tell her "Because I love wearing diapers and your attitudes have shown me that you'll likely never accept this part of me.")

Then I spent about four more years dating another girl who, at first, was fine with me and my diapers. This, because she otherwise refused to have sex with me. She wanted to "save it for marriage". So I spent a couple of years enjoying openly wearing my diapers around her. Then she finally decided to try sex, and at that point it was time (according to her) for me to give up my diapers. It was "Now that you have this, you no longer need THOSE." This was one of several factors leading to our breaking up. (Time would reveal that she was a latent lesbian so this never would have worked out, with or without my diapers). As bad as this was near the end, I must say that it convinced me just how much I loved my diapers. There were many nights where we'd have a big argument, I'd walk out, get in the car and leave, and on the way home I'd stop at the store and buy a box of toddler-sized Pampers then half an hour later there I was, back in my diapers. (I then decided that "Girls come and girls go but I'll ALWAYS have my diapers!")

There were other relationships where I hinted at it, to no avail. Some where I knew there was no chance of it ever happening but decided to date the girl a while anyway for the other "benefits". But by the time I was 25 I realized that I'd likely end up being single because I couldn't marry anyone who didn't accept my diapers, and I'd probably never find a woman who did.

And after accepting that, I DID find one. But I didn't know this until the relationship started to get serious and decided "OK, it's time to be honest about this" and told her "If we're going to go farther with this there's something you need to know about me." I think she was expecting to hear something horrible (I have some incurable disease, I worship Satan, etc.) I was scared to death but finally got it out... "I'm into wearing diapers, I always in one way or another have been, and I always will be." And she sighed with relief "Oh is THAT ALL?"

Over the years we've had our ups and downs but she's always known of and accepted that I'm going to wear my diapers when I need to wear my diapers. I don't keep them out in the open for visitors to see but I also don't have to hide them from her or worry about her finding them. At times she has very much enjoyed participating and other times, not so much. But it's the honesty that counts.

So, bit of advice #1: If you're single, don't marry anyone without first telling them about your diapers and giving them the choice of accepting it or not (then whatever the decision, proceed from there).

#2: If you knew you loved diapers, didn't tell your fiancee, got married anyway, then she found out later, well, if she's angry about it, I don't blame her. I'm not sure you can fix that situation, unfortunately. Good luck.

#3: If you've discovered SINCE you were married that you love diapers, be honest about it, explain that it's a new interest and source of pleasure and explain how you discovered it. Tell her you'd love for her to participate but if she doesn't want to, that's OK. But ask if it's OK for you to do it anyway, if she doesn't want to be involved you can keep that part of your life to yourself. Just be sure to offer her something in exchange for it--shower her with love and affection and make sure that SHE is sexually satisfied (whether this involves your diapers or not).

She is the main reason been back in diapers had accidents she would not like wet bed there was no choice.I also have autism.