Rushing the Exam and Skipping Parts

Okay so I've only had one play exam by a long time friend of mine so I really am not experienced but I wanted to see everyone's opinions on this. He basically had me in there, told me to strip, did a little stething, a breast exam, the pelvic then the rectal and we were done. I was hoping when I asked for a head to toe that's what I would've gotten. I like the thought of having to discuss my medical history then being asked to remove all my clothes, get weighed and go through all the examinations of the less sexual body parts lol. I mean, to me, the abdominal exam and rectal temperature are very important parts that shouldn't be skipped. And having your ears, nose and throat examined while you sit there naked is just as big of a turn on. Does anyone agree?

Did you suggest to your doc what you would like your exam to include? I think they should like to make it as enjoyable for you as possible. Drop some hints or maybe suggest you "flip the exam table" and examine them so they get an idea of what you like.

Good luck and play safe!

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Well like I said I'm not very experienced so I just wanted like a basic exam and maybe eventually work up to the other stuff if this gets old. I guess after it was over I would've wanted him to build up the anticipation a little better.

Dear Zebra...

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Unfortunately, the Atlantic ocean separes us

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I agree with heartfuninmaine, zebra. If your doc was new to medfet like I am, he may have been so busy making sure that he was working on all the "fun stuff" that he forgot to work on all the other stuff. The best way to prevent that would be to make sure your doc knows what you expect prior to the exam. What you expected but didn't get from your first exam all sounds like good things to ask for and expect to me.

I think play should go in such a way that the patient is having those internal hopes and desires for the doctor to make direct sexual contact to treat her overwhelming arousal. Hopefully you weren't told to "strip" but rather "disrobe" , or it might be a sign of the quality of things

I agree, zebra!

At the same time, I think that you should discuss what you want in an exam, with your partner, beforehand. I think that it is sexier when it is more realistic- that includes medical history & a head to toe exam, as well as starting with less "intimate" areas and moving into more intimate ones. I think that taking one's time is certainly key, as well!

Hi Zebra Princess

I agree...it has to be built up! and absolutly no exam is complete without a rectal temperature going in your bottom! So you are saying he never took your rectal temperature in your rectum?

When was the last time you've had a thermometer in your rectum?

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Chase

I agree with you Zebra princess, the exam you got was like sex without foreplay. The exam should be as real as possible, and should be more detailed, and take longer, because the doctor is not rushed to see a bunch of patients. To me, one of the most exciting parts of the exam, is going over the questionnaire, and discussing the out come of the exam, and your health. Hopefully next time you can discuss what you want out of the exam, and how to procede. The exam is for your enjoyment, as much as it is for his. If your friend doesn't have enough medical training, and can't comply with your wishes, I would look for an experienced play doc. Good luck, and play safe.

You're well within your rights to feel as you do, and I agree with most of the posts. I understand the nervousness that may be felt by those starting out, but your post reads as though you communicated your thoughts and expressed your expectations prior to, and they weren't met. Hopefully you've had better experiences since.

Hi Zebra, I was wondering if you have had any exams since the first time and if they were any better? I agree that exams should not be rushed and a build up is very important. Communication is normally a key factor in finding better results and more practice 😃.

Lady Teddy

Having just recently been a patient, and a play doc for the first time, I can say that advance planning is of the utmost importance. My partner and I talked and planned for months before we actually met. This might be a little excessive for some (okay, most). We are both excessive list makers and control freaks. He suggested to me that I have written road-maps of the procedures I wanted to perform on him, that way I would have something to fall back on if my concentration broke. I thought that was a little over the top when he first brought it up but it turned out to be wonderful.

His initial exam of me took almost 2 1/2 hours and mine of him took almost that long. I found having a checklist to go by to be most helpful. After all, real doctors have the same type of paperwork, why shouldn't we?

I'm sure as I go on that I'll become more confident but as someone new to med-play, having a written guide was the best way to go.

Play on!

LadyDoc

It's so much better when you make it complete from start to finish. At least an hour. Use forms and fill them out thoroughly.

The exams that are complete are the very best. The idea of the paperwork and the checklist of Ladydocisin is excellent. Does anyone have an exam and checklists to share with this naughty Nurse?

Lady Teddy

Ladydoc has it down perfectly. Lists are great. But, starting at the head, or feet, and working your way up (or down) can also be enjoyable, and it's tough to forget examining each pink hole.

Dear Zebra, Inexperience could have played a part in your doc rushing your exam. When I begin corresponding with a possible patient we discuss her interestests in detail over time. Then we meet in public and then if all goes well we schedule an exam. I begin the exam asking questions regarding her medical history and knowing beforehand what her interests are I can tailor the exam to satisfy her desires. Some prefer simple things like the stethoscope but may also like more involved play too. Communication is important, paying attention to detail and giving a complete exam not just what the doc is interested in will bring satisfaction to both doc and patient.

Yes i agree with everything you have said here

an exam is more than just the breasts and between the legs

if you are being examined as a general exam then it should encompass all of your senses

the complete exam will add a more realistic "flavour" to the entire process

so yes from head to toes and that will no doubt make the anticipation of the gyno part more intense

Zebraprincess--

I would have spent more time listening to your heart than your play doc spent on the whole exam! I'd want to listen all around your heart with both the bell and diaphragm sides of my stethoscope, first with you standing, then sitting on the exam table, then lying on your back on the table, then a long listen at the apex of your heart with you lying on your left side. Of course, I would need to lift your left breast to get under it with the stethoscope for a good listen at the apex of your heart. One thing I like to check that most doctors don't check is cardiac response to nipple stimulation 😉

My regular GYN takes his time and doesn't rush anything. My play doc REALLY takes his time. A play session can run from 90 minutes to more than 3 hours, depending on what he has scheduled and does.

Sounds like you just weren't on the same page. No harm there, just more communication of expectations might help. good luck

Many playdocs don't really understand what they are looking for during the exam, because they have either limited, or no actual medical training. Perhaps that is why they skip parts of it.

I dont think any exam of any kind play or real should be rushed .

as a play thing us girls are getting something out of it as for a form of stimulation for our bodys and maybe to see how far we will dare to go . or just a case of we are practising for the real exam on the table with the real doctor .

but as for a real check up these things are very important and should not be rushed as there maybe a real problem .

Maybe it was just a case of the guy being nervous. It might b worth another try everybody deserves a second chance. Maybe talk things thru and try again they cant all b pros the 1st time out tho some r naturals.

I realised some time back that for males, there are two 'doctors' or two 'patients.' The first group get turned on most when the doctor asks the patient to drop his shorts so the build up is the point of the exam to that request. The second group uses the exam to get to enemas, etc. and so skips past many parts to get to what works for them.

I agree that an fulfilling exam--for me that means totally embarrassing--should include all body parts. In general my exams have started with vital signs, history, and then examination progressing from head to abdomen, then neurological and extremities, and the finale is the genitalia +/- recta;/prostate. I think doing the body parts which involve no embarrassment initially and completely, taking plenty of time to get to the body parts that are embarrassing to expose creates a buildup that provides satisfaction for the nervous patient like me. The real fun comes in reflecting on the experience afterward.

I agree with you exam doc -- an exam should include a slow and deliberate build-up to the "fun" parts. What's the fun in just rushing right to the genitals? It's much better to build-up slowly since this allows you to become more apprehensive about the exam thinking about what's to come.

I guess this is why most of the stories that I've written are rather slow and deliberate. Some people might be bored by them, but I find them more arousing that way.

I agree the exam should be a slow and deliberate build up, starting with the basics and progressing slowly to the more intimate examinations. That way confidence can be built maybe a checklist would have helped I know if I'm nervous I easily forget things.

Someone earlier in the forum mentioned videos on this site...are there some? If not, anyone know of a good site on which to find some?