Most Painful Part of your Exam

What is the most painful part for you females in the exam?

and for males?

though its painful do you enjoy it?

My experience has been that very few patients enjoy pain however most expect a certain amount of discomfort. When a patient becomes aroused they will usually exhibit a higher tolerance to "discomfort" which may otherwise be painful if they were not aroused. A patient should never need to use their safe word in play but many like to be kept one breath away from it. In a real situation you don't have that choice.

I'm not into pain in any way; so as far as play exams are concerned if it hurts we're off track.

For the real thing the speculum is the worst part. I can't call it pain but it is very uncomfortable.

Jackie

I would say the anal scope for me. I only had it once and it was pinching me. It also felt like the doctor was mechanically fixing something down there 'cause all I felt was metal clanging against metal.

That was it only one time. Well maybe those enemas. I'm talking about the Barium Enemas where you are filled to the max and still have to hold it in for almost a half an hour.

Another time was a sonogram and they filled my bladder with water for the test and the catherter was painful putting it in.

That's finally it.

I would say the speculum is very uncomfortable as well as very exciting to me.

For me the most painful thing ist the pap smear, I always have cramps after the examination

I am trying to understand the pain thing for the benefit of my patients who want a bit of that, but quite honestly I don't think I could go out of my way to hurt the lovely women I want to attract to my examination chair!

Me too, Dr Viking!

I'm often asked by patients and prospective patients to inflict pain on them. Like you, I struggle to properly understand this since the proper place for such would seem to be in the BDSM arena rather than medfet.

I've been asked to tie a patient up, beat them, cane them, fix painful clamps etc. but I will certainly not do this with a new patient nor will I do anything which is likely to endanger a patient on any part of their body. I might perhaps on request smack a bottom with my bare hand.

For a patient I have seen before and after properly counselling them I might agree to doing things which are to some extent painful BUT it has to be safe and sane AND have the potential to result in pleasure.

Still, as is frequently said on these boards, different strokes for different folks!

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I've been asked to tie a patient up, beat them, cane them, fix painful clamps etc. but I will certainly not do this with a new patient nor will I do anything which is likely to endanger a patient on any part of their body. I might perhaps on request smack a bottom with my bare hand.

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That’s exactly the reason why safe words exist, since when you’re in a play situation you can get so much into character that it can get really intense. There’s really no danger of hurting your patient, BIGK, if you use safe words, if at any point he/she feels things are too intense then all that’s needed to be done is to shout “amber” or “red” or whatever safe words you prefer. Hence, you are able to avoid hurting or endangering your client.

Besides, it’s not only by incorporating BDSM that the possibility of hurting or endangering your patient exists. Any procedure done without proper precautions can result in danger, accident or injury. And this isn’t only for non-medical professionals. Even healthcare professionals who play aren’t 100% foolproof. I mean, any unknown allergic reaction to any drug no matter how safe you play can result in injury, it’s true that being a healthcare professional makes it safer since you’d know what to do but that doesn’t mean you can’t make mistakes.

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For a patient I have seen before and after properly counselling them I might agree to doing things which are to some extent painful BUT it has to be safe and sane AND have the potential to result in pleasure.

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There’s a fine line between pain and pleasure, in fact the line is so fine it crosses over and even merges, that’s why BDSM and MEDFET work hand in hand. Also, it isn’t all physical, patients don’t ask to be tied down or spanked or beat just for the sake of feeling pain. A lot of what’s it about is psychology. BDSM is not just about the pain, it’s a lot about power, control and trust. Surrendering yourself to someone else’s control, trusting completely that you will both get pleasure from whatever scene it is. Medfet is a lot like that, even RL medical situations are in a way like that, submitting yourself to an exam, surrendering yourself to your doctor’s control, trusting that he/she has your best interests in mind. Also, half of why most are into medfet is because of the feelings of vulnerability or embarrassment that lets them get off, which is a lot like what subs in BDSM feel.

MEDFET and BDSM are very much alike. It isn’t just about pain.

As with my answer to the original question:

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What is the most painful part for you females in the exam?

and for males?

though its painful do you enjoy it?

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For me, it's getting blood drawn, it hurts. but yeah, i get pleasure from it after.

Thank you naughtykatie for your detailed reply.

Of course there is a safe word attached to any meeting that I take part in. I'm at pains (!)to make sure the patient knows that he or she can use it whenever they wish and that everything will stop whilst we review the situation. I even go to the lengths of explaining each procedure that I propose and seeking permission.

You are also quite right in saying that there is the possibility of harm in whatever activity one partakes of. We take risks every day in interchanges with others, including with health professionals (In fact I'd almost be tempted to say more so with health professionals if the UK experience is to believed)

I believe I've acknowledged the link between pain and pleasure too and I do, as stated, play with pain sometimes but with the caveats of safety, sanity and the pleasure potential.

There is however a type of person colloquially known as a 'pain pig'. These are people who are determined to have pain inflicted regardless of the level attained and the dangers involved. You only have to read some of the wishes to have testicles exposed or urethral meatus slit to be aware of what some want to experience. It is certainly not my intention to descend to that sort of practice however persuasive the patient might be.

There is another issue to consider too, one I have touched upon in other postings. That is the issue of the safety of the playdoc.

We run a perpetual risk of being accused of assault, from simply shining a retinascope in a patients eyes right through to giving a DRE. We even run a risk if the patient, agreeable at the time, has a rush of guilt at what they permitted to happen and complains to the authorities.

Exactly the same arguments apply to restraining a patient.

So you see why I won't use restraints or inflict pain (at any level) on a new patient. Someone I've just met, despite what chat or agreements have been made, is an unknown quantity. Everything I do to him or her is a risk taken. I need to minimise those risks.

All that being said I do claim the right to struggle with the original concept. It is for others to have their own views

I had to keep a full bladder during a vaginal ultrasound. I wouldn't say it was painful, but very uncomfortable.

Hey BigK, I'll try to explain from my point of view. I've had a strong medical fetish since I was very young and it's tightly bound with a strong desire for restraint and pain. However, the restraint must not be uncomfortable so as not to distract. The pain must only be a result of medical procedure and not from slapping, pinching, etc. Above all, the physicality of the pain is not what really excites me, it's the psychology and 'application', the anticipation, fear, buildup, loss of control, etc then of course the visual; watching the doctor as he submits me to the procedure, his face, his eyes and of course watching what he's actually doing. The actual resultant pain ends up being one facet of many.

This all said when I go to the doctor I don't have an iota of consideration for my fetish, it absolutely never enters my mind which is quite strange. My fantasy and reality lives are totally divided so painful procedures in a real medical setting do nothing for me whatsoever.

Although pain is a major component of my fetish I can really understand why so many 'doctors' have such a problem administering it, although in reality this is probably a good thing! But I've been looking for a play doc for years who understands and enjoys the administration of pain in a medical setting yet who is not a bully; who can manage the build-up slowly and subtly and who clearly enjoys the discomfort of his patient on both a physical and intellectual level. However, sadly everybody I'm in touch with also doesn't really 'get' why we want to submit ourselves to pain as we do so I am one frustrated patient! Lily

Gosh well said lily that is all so true, and very much how i feel too

I can handle most anything that is thrown at me in a real setting. However, one test i never want to complete again is an ultrasound with a full bladder. My bladder hurt so badly that i thought i was going to burst... and then they made me wait so long before they took me back to do the actual ultrasound.

Another procedure i had was a vaginal ultrasound and due to the extra sensitivity i had in that area at the time of the ultrasound, it actually hurt alot.... the follow up ultrasound was not nearly as bad and didnt hurt at all...

I'll see your ultrasounds with full bladders, and raise you a baby sitting on your full bladder. Had to do that a couple of times. Of course you already have to go potty every 20-30 minutes to start with.

I had one ultrasound done when I was about 8 months along. I already had to go when I arrived at the office. They ran late. "We'll get to you as soon as we can." Not the thing to tell someone at that stage in pregnancy, and they should have known better. I have a high pain threshold, but I finally told them "Sorry, I'm going to the bathroom NOW." No one tried to stop me.

Wow, thank God they don't make us have full bladders anymore for getting an ultrasound on the baby!

Most painful part of any exam I have ever experienced was actually during labor with my first. When my doctor checked me to see how far I was dilated, I was having abnormal contractions. A finger or two checking your cervix on top of contractions...no bueno!

Real exam wise... the speculum. Not painful, but definitely not comfortable!

Agreed im told the speculum and pap both are uncomforable

The most painful part for me is the bimanual. I try to take deep breaths the whole time which helps me focus on something else. The pap smear and speculum don't hurt at all.

Several ultrasounds when pregnant with a full bladder. I swear those are the worst!!

I absolutely do not enjoy getting shots, especially the ones that leave big black and blue marks.

The entrance of the speculum, my doctor never quite does it in a very comfortable manner, or at least in an uncomfortable manner that I would enjoy 😃

Anytime they accidently pinch you down there!!!

My wife say that the speculum is the worsts part... i don't really know... but when i go with her, she suffer sometimes

I don't like getting needles ever....

There are some really painful procedures. I remember my wife's experience with her IUD insertion. The female doctor inserted large speculum, then clamped her cervix and sounded her uterus. My wife had to take deep breaths and wiggle her toes to keep herself from squealing and squirming. I was holding her hands and could see sweat on her face.

I alway look forward to my doctor's appointments, and always enjoyed getting shots or having the speculum. But a few weeks ago I got an IUD, and I didn't take my painkillers before hand. I really regretted that, as the cervical clamp HURTED SO MUCH. This is by far the most painful thing I've experienced at the doctor's, but maybe that's also because I (sadly) never get anything done at the doctor's.

For me, the most painful part is the stomach palpation. For reasons unknown to doctors and myself, I'm extremely sensitive on my torso and I hate firm palpations on it. I can't even say that I "enjoy it through the pain". It just leaves me nauseous and grumpy. I generally request that my doctor not perform that part of the exam unless absolutely necessary.

Several of my "patients" have also been into BDSM, so working pain and discomfort into their play exam is very much desired. I've been told they find medfet appealing because it allows them to fantasize about something that could actually be going on in the real world. (Not that the fantasy play dates reflect genuine medical procedures as they would take place in a real setting of course, just that medfet seems closer to real life, and thus makes their fantasy more compelling.) And I've never had any problem coming up with new procedures to please them. It really just takes knowing what they like, knowing the limits, and using your imagination.

Speculum and pap smears! I don't enjoy shots, but after being on blood thinner injections throughout my pregnancy (which had to go in my stomach and the medicine fricking burned), I'm pretty much used to that.