Need advice on boyfriend

I've given this advice to other females, and it has worked for some (but not all) -

When you know your boyfriend is about to come home, strip naked, and lay down on the bed. Gently lube yourself and slip a rectal thermometer in well, your rectum. Lay there and let him find you. When he does, ask him to pull it out and 'check' you.

This usually gets the messge across to them.

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Chase

I think you should say to him that you like it when he does those things and he's given you fatasies about him playing doctor, tell him you wuld love him to try it out, it might work if you say that his actions have 'inspired' your fantasies?

I am not really sure what types of medical fetish you really want to engage in with him. The steth sounds pretty basic/harmless to me. If you do not have enough confidence in your relationship with him to openly discuss this subject, how are you going to ever progress to more in-depth medical play issues such as rectal temps, enemas, speculums, which will be far more pleasureable for you? You can certainly "press" the issue with him, without a conversation by arranging for a private, quiet evening with him. Have a nicely wrapped box waiting for him. Inside you can separately wrap a thermometer and ky jelly/vaseline; an enema bag; and a letter with your fantasies that you want to explore with him. If he does not appropriately react and respond to these "gifts", he may not be the ultimate, ltr partner that you might need to fulfill your fantasies. It is better to find out sooner than later. I wish you the best of luck!

Hopefully the reason we haven't received an update is that examine_me and her BF are having a great time exploring their kinks together. 😁

In any case, I hope it is working out well for you examine_me. Keep us posted!

If this is something you like you should just come out and tell him of your feelings and where you would like it to go. We guys don't always figure out subtle hints. Sometimes you have to take the direct approach and then we get it. Good luck.

The period of time this topic has run for and the volume of replies are a clear indicator of the number of people with similair difficulties. We're all too often embarrassed to stae our true wishes and desires for fear of rejection. Hints are OK but a poor substitute for the spoken word. One great way round the barrier is to write a letter to the partner concerned. Tell them you're going to write it. The sheer anticipation can be quite a turn on in it's own right!

By the way, a good time to talk about sexual fantasies is immediately after sex, that way he's in a more enlightened state of mind.

I think he definitely has an interest. Maybe express your interest a little more. Leaving the steth out might have been to subtle for him. Try feeling his pulse or putting your head on his chest.

He's probably either shy, thinks it's weird, or isn't fully aware of his interest. But I think with some encouragement, he'll come around.

Next time he listens to your heart , do a little upstage and listen to his but with the stethoscope. Some sensual touching and foreplay while you listening could help pull the two things together in his mind.

Examine-me:

before which exposes if I understand correctly your problem, I think the dialogue is all that is lacking between the two! Attempts to address the issue in such a way that he open with you without feeling embarrassed or inhibited.

Talk to him, open your heart to him with affection, calm, speaks of your feellings like, desires, and fears. Certainly he listens and will understand you!

I'll confide you and the all persons one aspect of my life that shows how the dialogue is important!

I had a happy marriage of 22 years, i't was just end, because I can not to share my fantasies with my ex-husband! It despite being a good person, was too conventional and that over time began to affect the loving relationship and the marriage! I didn't have the courage to share what I felt, what I wanted, I have shame to talk to him about this, I knew that he would not understand and would find strange or anormal even, so I chose to be separate of him! A wedding or a loving relationship where there is no dialogue, is because something doesn't work well!

Confidence, transparency, dialogue and sharing are very important in a loving relationship or marriage!

Think of it!

Cheers, PatientCare

Hy!

You can say to your BF that you are feel ill and have fever. Than you ask hin if he would take your temp. When he say yes than say to him he should take it where he will to take your temp. When you have a little luck he would take it in your butt.

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Confidence, transparency, dialogue and sharing are very important in a loving relationship or marriage!

Think of it!

Cheers, PatienCare

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Amen! And, I wish you the best as you move forward!

Just read all of the posts and I am awaiting some updates. I would have loved it if my wife had left a stethoscope out and asked me to listen to her heart. I am very shy and it took some time before I could share my fantasy with her. She was very accomodating at first and slowly she has lost interest in it. Now I am pretty much a solo practicioner. I love my wife, but really wish she was more into med fet. Your BF sounds like he has some interest and is willing to explore. I agree that you should listen to his heart next time with the steth and then give it to him and ask for him to return the favor. Good luck and keep us all posted on your progress.

Just checked on examine-me's profile, they have not been on the site since June of 2009. May be why there have been no updates. But the suggestions by all may help someone else.

Update: no longer with him. Nothing ever came of it. He did do one play exam on me after I asked him but it was only one time. Nothing further. He didn't seem to understand what it meant for me and I didn't explain.

I now have a new love interest/partner who has palpated (I think) my hb once, and checked my forehead for a temperature. I have also casually placed my hand over his heart and felt it beating. So beautiful.

He is more kinky and dominant than the previous and much more likely to be the dominant doctor I fantasize about.

Good news. Now steth this one before he gets away. See if his heart beats fast for you.

Quincy, I prefer to be the one being stethed, but I do plan to take this further than I did with the previous. I will come out with it one way or another ?

One day just try wearing your steth, like it is a normal part of your attire. Don't just let it lie out somewhere.

He can't avoid saying something if it is hanging around your neck.

I think that he has the fetish .., But isnt sure how to approach you with it..

Dr Steve, which one? The new one or old one? The old one doesn't for sure. Let's hope the new one does.

Do you watch porn? Do you Ever watch it together? Do you ever watch it separately then say, 'hey I saw this interesting clip, I want you to see it'...

Or just come out with it when he is listening to your HB, have the steth out, ask him if he wants to really hear your HB, and hand it to him.

Imho you can't dump your fetish on another person, but free communication is key. If you can't come out and say it or ask, then leave hints, a wiki web page on your particular kink. They are almost all there.

Good luck.

Well examine me as you said :

He is more kinky and dominant than the previous and much more likely to be the dominant doctor I fantasize about.

So chance are he will be more receptive to the idea of medfet and medical play. Its just a matter of introducing the topic gently a good starting point is getting a nurse's outfit, the " naught nurse" is quite a common fantasy and then introducing other aspects to the fantasy. I sure he will be more receptive than the last boyfriend, its worth a shot at least.

Not sure because of not knowing all details, but it appears he is interested in playing "Dr." with you. Enjoy, and see what else happens, please keep up posted

I am surprised that I missed this one the first time around..

examine me, I have a few thoughts for you.

First off, if you have an SO who will listen to your heart with his ear on your chest, I would put my steth in my night table and the next time he started with that, I would just break it out and ask if might want to try that? I would not hurt if you put it on and kind of fumbled with playing with it on him first. That would play into his being the man and wanting to show you how to use it. And lets face it, if your shirt is off and your tits are out, and he has any inner 6 year old left in him, he will have fun. But, depending on how into medfet you are, let the cat out of the bag slowly. If it ends with heartbeats than you are golden. If you wanna go deeper than that, bring him into it slowly. Perhaps next time get him a lab coat, and than you might get a rectal thermometer. Again, if he has any 6 year old left in him he will get horned up at the idea of sticking *anything* up your ass. Take it from there. But it all depends on how much your med fet means to you.

The other thing is starting on with a new SO. In years gone by I would let the cat out of the bag slowly. I am not sure some of the early girls even had a clue. However... as I got older, I realized that this is more than a passing fancy and something with a deeper meaning to me, so now I am surprisingly up front about it. It has been a long time since I have been single but last time I was I was honest and I got fairly favorable responses. The way I mix medfet in with pleasure seems to help. I think if I were into say giving painful injections most girls would run away screaming and your face would wind up on some underground "stay away from" website. But I slant on medfet is more of a scientific approach to pleasuring and surprisingly if girl is being really well pleasured, she is naturally more comfortable with you, and more comfortable with things you might be into. But as I said, I stay away from the scary stuff. I am not sure how I would bring that up if I were into it.