Boyfriend's knowledge of Med Fetish making social situations awkward

My boyfriend knows about my medical fetish and it fine with it but has no interest in participating (in fact he is extremely phobic about doctors, hospitals, and needles). I keep the fetish to myself and indulge it online, and it hasn't really had any impact on our relationship until recently. We have a very close friend who has been going through a lot of medical problems lately. The last few times we have seen her, she has either been hooked up to an IV or has had news of recent procedures. I am interested and have asked questions and had conversations with her about her medical problems, not in a sexual way, but because she is my friend and I am concerned about her. My boyfriend, however, has been making comments (sometimes in front of her!) implying that I am only interested in talking to her about her issues in order "to make deposits in my spank bank for later" (his words). How do I get him to understand that my medical fetish is something I keep in the bedroom and has nothing to do with my concern for/interest in my friend's problems? I hope this works in this category, I apologize if I should have put it somewhere else.

Well.. talk to him, very seriously, about how uncomfortable it makes you.. I guess, if it comes down to it you might have to revoke some of his "privileges" for a while? You shouldn't have to do that.. if he's really in to you and cares about you, he should stop making comments like that the second you tell him they're inappropriate when not in the context of sex.

>We have a mothering side that allows us to shut out all things sexual >when needed, men not so much. They have a much harder time with >this.

I do think that is not so really or a male gyno doc would not exist .. 😉

Please Mashie, don't exaggerate too much ... LOL

m2000

Mashie, you don't offend nobody and if possible still less me.

However I must say you that me and you are not able to do an accurate statistic, based only on ours convintions and/or personal experiences.

Can be that statistically speaking can be like you say, but I can say you that lastly many women, especially young and of the last generation are very aggressive, until to can say that the rules are inverted.

Then depend even on the education degree and kind of character of the person.

Like you say, would seem that every man on this world cannot resist every time that he sees a naked woman: well it is not so, not always so for sure.

And do exist also very hot women that are exactly like you describe the men, again not always so ... LOL

Regards

M2000

Ps. Professional or not professional ( yes, because exist also professional male and femal that are not able to control theselves perfectly, I can do true examples also in this contest ).

This is clearly not a medical fetish issue, but rather, a relationship issue. To me, he sounds insecure at the least..possibly even immature. If he cares for you at all, he should know better.

First of all, he should respect your privacy by not bringing your fetishes up to anyone publicly...period...EVER! That's just not cool at all!

Secondly, he should be sensitive to your emotional condition when you're concerned about a sick friend. In that situation, you need a shoulder to lean on, not your boyfriend accusing you of looking for some type of sexual gratification in your friend's suffering....THAT'S TWISTED! (his accusation, I mean)

I think Dr. Phil would opine something about his repressed feelings of inadequacy and thinking he cannot satisfy you because he's not turned on by the same things as you...yada, yada, yada. Not to sound like a relationship counselor, but I'm curious how old you both are & how long you've been together. To answer the last question in your post - you shouldn't feel obligated to make him understand...it's an issue that he has..you've done nothing that needs explaining. He, on the other hand, clearly needs to explain to you why he feels the need to bring up your private sexual desires in front of your friends. He's the one with the issues, sweetie - not you.

Good luck & big hugs!

Brian (who's 38 yrs old & married for 3 yrs, by the way)

It's a shame that he doesn't join in your fantasies. Next time he wants to act out one of his, kindly remind him about how you are still waiting to fulfill your fantasies. What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. 😶

Missannathema - I wholly agree with SpecSteve and wospatient. I see (from your profile) that you are in your 20's. Well, so am I... and, if I had a boyfriend who acted like yours, I would give fair warning to him to think before he speaks. He has no right to bare your secrets and embarrass you in ANY manner. You may have to resort to "shut up or you're history". There are better men out there... trust me.

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