When I was first married, my husband and I had trouble with truly painful intercourse. It was frustrating. I had saved my virginity for him and we are having trouble enjoying the experience. The treatment that I received was something that fed both of our medical fetish interests. I was about twenty-two years of age and the doctor I was referred to was a really, really good one. He was known for his work in this area and beyond that he was one of the areas main doctors that dealt with sexual reassignment. (interesting specialties i know)
Well the condition was called vaginismus it is essentially caused by muscle contractions and often a combination of soreness and mental anticipation of the penetration, makes it even worse.
Well the treatment with this doctor involved several visits ( I believe there were maybe eight in total over about a year and half). He was an older man and kind of kooky and funny in many ways. I remember him saying things like ...” Ok Angie off with the bloomers and up on the table “
My husband attended probably half of the visits with me I should note and as you can imagine it was the fodder for lots of future play and fantasy.
Well in a nutshell the main treatment was two things. First I had to obtain a set of vaginal dilators from the pharmacy and these ( there were three sizes, small medium and large) were introduced to me by the doctor. Basically i was expected to “ dildo myself” and have my husband do it as well. Gradually we moved up in sizes. Also on every visit the doctor would dilate me too ! Can you imagine? A Gyn sitting there putting this kinda-penis shaped rubber thing into you.
Secondly, I had to get really good at my kegel exercises. He would encourage me ( also in the presence of my husband) to kegal down on his gloved fingers. He’d count “ 1-2-3 Squeeze!” and say things like “C’mon Angie you can squeeze a bit harder!”.
Both the dilation and kegel work when on for all visits. I would get there take off my bottoms only, no gown get on the table and he would check my vaginal muscles, use a dilator and have me do some exercises, all the while asking if my husband I were trying to have sex regularly and asking if it was getting easier. Finally the condition subsided and he left us with just “ homework treatment” and indicated if it ever returned to come see him.
I remember him one time announcing i can guarantee this will get better after you have a child but we have to nip it in the bud now, and we did 😃 Within a year intercourse was totally enjoyable.
Totally true story and to our special doctor out there! I hope he is retired happy and well by now 😃