What to do?

I have a friend that i am close to, I know for fact she dose not BM for days or weeks at a time, she dose not want to go to a doctor. just yesterday i put my finger in her butt, sure enough she is blocked up, i told her i can help make you feel better by giving you some enemas, how ever she seems a bit afaid bout it. so what can i do to let me give her one so she will feel better? and 2nd how do i get the water to flow in when there is a blockage.

like i said she does not want to go see a doctor, and any advice bout it since its her it would be her frist one after i get her to let me give..

and yeah one more how many should i give her? 2 or more or what

any help and advice on this would be great..

You could try first a 'manual evacuation' which involves lots of lube, insert a finger and , with her pushing down, actually pull out the bulk of the faeces. not a very pleasant experience for either party! another approach is to use a nozzle with side openings and get the water flowing as you insert it. yet another way is to use some pumping type, either bulb or Higginson type

It tendds to be hard for the sub to retain fluid after being cleared of such a blockage

Good digging and good luck!

Use an 8oz bulb first with very warm water to get the first part of the feces out. do this 2 or 3 times as needed. The bulb is less intimidating and will get her comfortable with the process. After that, switch to an enema bag and have fun!!!

In your case I believe it should not be difficult. Talk to her softly. Explain her that she has got a problem and she needs help. Offer her to see a doctor. If not - offer her to see a nurse. Finally - on the event of refusal tell her that you have an idea and know what and how to do it.. You have a last resort "weapon" : tell her that if she refuses your help as well, she should not raise the subject in front of you - leave her to suffere alone. Somewhere in between you will get a breakthrough.

Good luck.

Avi

If she goes days or weeks without a bm, she has a problem and should see a doctor, she may have some sort of intestinal blockage, and until she is checked by a doc, you better hold off on the enemas

Since she is confiding in you about a VERY personal problem, it would seem she is at least partially open to a cure. I would definitely tell her that she has a REAL problem and has only 2 options, either a series of enemas or it is the Dr., and that if the enemas do not correct her problem then she MUST seek Medical Attention. It's one thing to be constipated for a few days, but if it stretches into a week or more then she has a problem. I agree about a small dia nozzle with holes in the side, a much gentler and pleasant enema. The next time she comes over, or better yet invite her, have your equipment sterilized and laid out, show her the nozzle and explain it is much smaller than any BM and will not hurt, then take her by the hand and TELL her you are concerned and that you are going to give her enemas, that she will feel 100% better if everything works out, and that most likely she will face the same proceedure at the hands of a Dr., at least this way she is with someone she knows. Like most of us, she is probably self conscious about something so personal, but the thought of "relief" will usually overcome any apprehensions. Sort of like someone who Hates/is terrified of Dentists....eventually the discomfort over rides and you submit. You have a perfect opportunity to introduce her to enemas, and the worst thing that can happen is she will REFUSE, which will still put her in a position of seeing a Dr and having it done anyways.

You could also get a strong suppository and have her insert that herself if she is unwilling to have you poke it in. There are some that will remove everything in the lower rectum regardless of the amount. Then she should try the enema and use several fillings to help flush out the system.

Rather than try something extreme or uncomfortable for her, wait until she has had a BM, then tell her it is a good time to try a small enema to make it easier next time. Rather than a fountain syringe, if you use a bulb syringe and gently insert it and give her two or three bulbs full, rub her tummy and let nature take its course. Once she finds out that it does not hurt and that it works great, she will be a convert forever.

If I were you, I would first give her a Fleet type mineral oil enema, While she is holding that, get the bag ready with plain warm tap water. Tell her how good she will feel afterwords, if she is feeling as bad as you say, she should be willing to do anything.

First I feel if she went weeks without a BM, she would die from infection from the bacteria in the colon. Second, once she reaches the 5th-6th day and you know this. Tell her that you are going to give her something for it and give her first a warmed up (Put in a bowl of hot water for 3-4 minutes) Fleet Mineral Oil enema and then let her lay down on her back to let it saturate her lower colon for as long as possible. Then let her expell. Wash her real tender, then give her a SLOW 2 qt warm soap enema and let her hold as long as possible. Then follow up with a warm SLOW baking soda rinse, all the while rubbing her back and belly, and then bed. If she don't let you give her anymore after this, she won't.

I would use a short nozzle and give a half pint, let her hold that a few minutes, let her expel, then one pint, have her expel, two pints, let her expel, then four pints and let her expel. YMMV, but get her up to about four pints (2 quarts).

IF you have a double balloon rectal catheter, and she is open to it, you can use it to help her retain the enemas after you have cleaned out her rectum with at least a one pint enema. DO NOT present her with the ginormous 750cc double balloon rectal catheter it will probably turn her off. If you have a small double balloon rectal catheter, like the 250 cc or possibly the 500 cc, you can try those, but not if she has any objection to using them.

Give them slowly with her relaxing flat on her back and while giving gentle abdominal massage which can become more vigorous if she is comfortable with it. (You could massage other areas too 😁 😁 😁 , if she is recpetive to it, but keep in mind you are doing this enema series for medical reasons.) That will get just about anybody flowing again. You want several gentle enemas of increasing size. You do not want her feeling like she is being inflated like a balloon which will make her uncomfortable.

DO NOT USE KNEE CHEST WHICH IS UNCOMFORTABLE AND NOT A RELAXING POSITION TO HOLD. YOU WOULDN'T GET IN THAT POSITION IF YOU JUST WANTED TO RELAX WOULD YOU? ??? Just have her lay back and relax. I hope I made my point.

With the exception of the first little enema, IT IS NOT NECESSARY TO DO A RETENTION OF MORE THAN 2-3 MINUTES. YOU WANT WATER IN AND FECES OUT.

^^^^ Yes the mineral oil enema can help, but it takes a long time to work, so if you're going to do an enema anyway, you might as well do it right with real enemas.

The castor oil will also help, and the soapsuds enemas, or any type of enema is NOT medically needed after the castor oil unless you enjoy the enemas. As I have posted before, take the castor oil, put it in a blender with about 12 ounces of tomato or V8 juice and blend it on high. The castor oil will become homogenized in the tomato juice and you won't have the bad taste or sensation of drinking the oil which can make some people throw up. The concoction kind of becomes like thin marinara sauce, which is a lot more palatable than castor oil. In fact, if you like, you can throw some oregano and garlic into the mix if you like to make it taste pretty good!

Three to four hours after you drink four ounces of castor oil, be prepared for some really good pooping!

Remember, to avoid irritation, BLOT with the toilet paper, don't rub.

I do think that a little warm water enema is the best, expecially if she had never had one. Just try to see if she enjoy that without being scared.