When do you back off when they say no?

My boyfriend thinks i am a little too kinky

If your boyfriend thinks you are too kinky, you have to educate him in the pleasures of kink. All I can say is start slowly and build up to the more kinky deeds. If you really care for each other, work together so you can find a happy medium. If he is completely resistant and you need the kink, you might need a different boyfriend.

How true... have been thinking of that

Usually it is the other way around, that is, girl think their men are too kinky so they go find a vanilla man. Most men will try anything once, especially sexual stuff. No disrespect to your man, but if my lady were on this forum (she is into enemas, but not enough to frequent this forum) I would be jazzed and never let her out of my site because clearly, she would be a kinky keeper and every man would be trying to get her. Really sexually adventurous women that are under 35 are very hard to find for myriad reasons, so when you run into one, you got to enjoy it. For what it is worth, there are thousands of men just on this forum alone that would sell their left nut on ebay to get a chick that some men found too kinky. Just sayin'

Where were the girls like you when I was not married I would of done anything that you wanted to do at least 3or 4 times to see what it was realy like He does not know how good he has it .

Some people are not as adventurous as others. I have found that starting small and gradually increasing the level of kink a happy medium will be acheived. This does occasionally take a while, but it is usually worth the time invested.

The best thing I ever did was slowly convert my wife to the dark side of kink. Now we can have a real relationship in addition to our kinky sexual side. This makes for a fairly happy and healthy relationship most days, and keeps adventure in our love lives.

Most would drool and walk a hundred miles to be with a lady like you.Your boyfriends backround may have something to do with his hangups. It might take a little time for him to learn and accept your ideas of sexual pleasures. However if you truly love this man then gradually work your kinky ways as a part sexual foreplay.

Let the good times flow. w/m 72yrs/W.MA

I am pretty much in the same place with my girlfriend. I have to play on my own.

Shadoeskin may have the last word:

...that starting small and gradually increasing the level of kink..

Makes it fun rather than giving Mother Nature the finger. It might take a year, or so.

The more your man is educated the better he will be when it comes to enemas. It's always good to be honest with him, like what they taught you in 3rd grade, honesty is the best policy.

Get a new boyfriend....

Guys are pigs.

They will usually do anything kinky you ask of them.

If he won't and it is important to you, TELL HIM and if you love him, try to compromise. If he holds steadily against trying new things or what you want to do, you might need a new boyfriend.

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The original question was posted seven and a half years ago

I actually convinced my guy tonight or tried too, that my enema was health related. He almost left me because of them a few days back. He seemed to maybe see that they aren't that bad. There's a whole world of kink out there. He's just into spanking hard and with a tool.

Your boyfriend will come around and accept you if he loves you. If he doesn't, it's not worth the fight.

I've expanded my wife's limits by quite a bit. The reason she is so often willing to try new things is trust. She knows that I'll approach anything new slowly and will stop immediately when she says stop.

No is a non starter. I respect the refusal and that's the end of it.

Stop is different.

When I start to become a bit too scary and my playmate starts saying stop or looks like they would. Really like to be able to I stop and ask if they want more if they do not I stop. It is an entirely selfish act. I want them to come back for more.

When I am receiving something nasty I usually take it too far and end up being damaged. Stop usually comes out in things I do not like such as poop play or other such things I find boring or just would rather not participate in. I expect it to STOP If it doesn't things can become nasty or just not fun. I can do the limp doll thing and be no fun at all to play with. Like handling a wet noodle.

This is a very SMART topic!!

‘NO’ is a complete sentence! Immediately stop after hearing the word.

Making someone, who is not into kink, do kink may just push them farther away. If you want your partner to atleast try kink, start small and go slow. Talk to each other and be honest so there is no miscommunication. You may need to stop and try again, but try to keep the experience positive for the new member.