Need some help from the ladies

Hi, i tried to involve my girl friend in med play, but she seems to regret.

she only accepted once to use latex gloves but, even she didn^t say anything, i noticed she was uncomfortable.

what should i do? should i try to insist? or just let her take her time? i would like to know what women thinks.

thanks.

luis

Sorry to be blunt, but you might need a different girlfriend.

I say this based on my own experience. I tried to interest my last boyfriend in med fet, with little success. I convinced him to use a speculum on me only once (followed by fantastic conventional sex).

He kept protesting that it was "too clinical" for him. I kept saying, "But that's what I find hot!" It was like we weren't speaking the same language.

I agree... either a partner is intersted or he / she is not and it is almost impossible to change their mind.

Thanks for the advice.

i just want to agree with you in one point: the only time she agreed to use latex gloves, we had great conventional sex!!!

luis

Are you sure your sex was great for both of you? This is TOO private...

You can't force someone to do something they aren't comfortable with. I'd just suggest asking what she didn't enjoy about it and sitting down and checking if she'd be willing to try again.

If she isn't comfortable then I guess you'll just have to live with it or find a new girlfriend.

People should become comfortable with themselves first. If you don't own up to your medical fetish and really self examine (no pun intended) your own situation, then how do you expect others to go with you? Confidence is sexy, and you need to feel confident in both you skills and feelings about your sexual tastes. I highly suggest classes on medical fetish subjects as nothing builds confidence and alleves fears better than knowledge.

Once you have your place in the fetish world under control, then find someone you love and trust to date. This takes time and effort, but it will pay off in the long run. You have to get your partner sexually satisfied with vanilla sex and oral and whatnot before you spring the kinky shit on them.

After you both have a healthy sex life, and are in a trusting relationship, then you can suggest some freaky stuff. I (again) suggest going to an educational med fet event because ladies feel safe there, and there is no obligation to play. Likewise, once your mate talks to people like them at the class, they will feel more comfortable going along with your kinks knowing that there are others out there with similar tastes and lifestyles.

If all else fails, only date the people you meet at these med fet classes because you know they are there for the right reasons.

Naughtydoc

Hi Naughty Doc,

Do you know where someone can locate these medfet classes? They sound like such fun! I would love to be a patient in one of them. And yes, naughty patients need to be spanked by their Doctors!

Heather, West Coast USA

Yes, what about medfet classes? that´s interesting... do anyone know where can we take that kind of lessons?

thaks for all the advise.

luis

These classes interest me quite a bit also... I'm gonna try and google some and I'll post up my findings

Try a bribe...like offering to go shopping with her. 😃

My wife goes along with my interest, but its not something she wants to every week. Some people are very fortunate about finding a compatable partner.

I tried with mine but things didnt work out... i dont know what i could have done differently!

You could try attending to her on a day she isn't feeling very well...ask if you could take her temperature (orally!) and offer to check her pulse. I love when my husband does those things if I am feeling sick. One time he convinced me to give myself an enema when I wasn't feeling well. I didn't let him watch, but liked that it was his idea.

I like the way you think Mielle. If I see that my wife is under the weather I usually retrieve a thermometer and fuss a bit over her...

Well, it's normal for it to feel awkward at first. I mean, with me, the first time my beau and I played was by taking my temp rectally. Yes, medfet turned me on but I was freaked out by having a thermometer in my bum. Let me also add, Luis, that I'm a nurse and I know what I'm doing and taking an RT isn't rocket science and can be done by anyone. The point is, you're exploring something new here, so it's normal to have doubts, be nervous and even get freaked out. More so if you don't know what gets you off. That's why you should talk with your girlfriend, find out what gets her off and turns her off. Then try to incorporate what she likes to play, then avoid what turns her off.

For example, if she's anal erotic: you can take a rectal temp or do a rectal exam. I'm sure her clit is sensitive, lol, I haven't found a woman who isn't. So, you could "test for clit response" then rub her till she comes. Be creative, do your thing, don't give up just yet.

What's important is communication and connection. You need to talk to her and find out if she sees medfet as a turn off, if she does then you'll have to settle with vanilla sex, it might not be catering to your medfet needs but it's still sex, lol.

As with your assumption that her discomfort is a sign that she didn't like it, you can't be possibly correct about that. I mean, I was uncomfortable the first time I had a rectal temp taken but the sensation felt good. I didn't recognize that I enjoyed until the third time. And again, that's because it's a new thing. But now it has become a favorite and the beau makes sure to take my temp regularly. lol

So, Luis, don't lose hope, just yet, talk to her, find out what makes her tick and do your best. Then tell us all about it. Good luck!

Get a doctor coat and her a gown.

I wish it was so easy

This is very easly luis friend..... best regards