Not sure what to do? Wife problems.

I got married about nine months ago to a woman that knew about my fetish. However, for the past two years I've been in school, using money that I previously saved, and don't have to worry about time to practice my fetish. My wife knows that I "did it" in the house while she was at work the past two years. I expressed concern to her some time ago about how I would do it once I have a job because when I'm home she'll also be there. She told me we'd address that issue at that time. Well, that time is here and she tells me that it's my problem to find time to do it so that she doesn't know about it. We have a spare bedroom and I asked her about doing it in there and she says it's okay but I'll have to find a way. I then asked how would she know not to come in and she said that it's my problem, which negates what she said before. Because all it would take is her walking in on me one time, I'm sure, and sh*t would hit the fan. My fear is that when she's not at work she's at home, and this part of my life would have to die, and I don't think that's possible. She also said it was something she didn't believe in and when I asked her why she said it was unethical. Even going so far as to bring up what god thinks a marriage should be. By the way, we also had a conversation about kids (not started by me) and she says that she thinks once we have kids my nurturing of them will make the fetish subside. I'm scared to death to have kids until this gets resolved. She said that she's given as much as she can. Another fear I have is that if we split then I've practically given up hope to find someone that will accept this part of me, as this is the second long term relationship in which I told the person and it doesn't seem to be working. Please help?

The way i see it is that you have three options.

1. dont do it and stay married.

2. just do it anyways and hope she sticks around

3. since she is going as far as throwing god in the mix, fight fire with fire. tell she made vows to god to stick by you no matter what.

I like #3. But I think you can make a compromise with her. Maybe she can run errands for a hour or two while you do it. Maybe have a night were she meets up with friends. It sounds like she is ok with you doing it, but doesn't want to see you do it. Best of luck!

In addition, I feel that if she is so rigged, that with kids she will be even more rigged. I know that she wants kids badly and I don't want to lead her on. I suppose my best option may be just to wait it out though? To see how this new plan works?

Part of the deal is to not be obvious. I've already inquired and found that by asking her to leave the house, I'm apparently gving it away and it turns her stomach, or something like that.

I'd also like to add, that I pay the majority of the bills and she's really not giving me permission to do anything I couldn't otherwise do in pubilc. Don't some people wear diapers under their clothes in public. That's all I'm asking for but she has something against it. I think I will try to do it anyway and see how it works out. I'm not good at throwing religion in anothers face--even if they threw it in mine.

Hmm.... Well she said you finding a place to practice was your problem, and when you said the spare room she seemed ok, then you asked what is she walks in, she said that would be her problem, i say find something normal you can hang on the door to let her know to stay out, like one of those funny "Warning bio-hazard, Enter at own risk" signs, or something along that line, just get something and let her know when you have that on the door you do not want to be disturbed, as well as get a good odor control system set up so no smell escapes. And i do like the option , telling her she vowed to God she would remain with you, and the fact that you said you got married to her and she knew about your diapers before hand. The way i see it if by some chance she does decide to leave you then it is nothing you have done, unless you start pushing diapers amd your likes on her, you are respecting her wishes, now all you need is a way to set up privacy, another easy solution replace the door nob on the spare room with one that locks, and keep both keys. And i think sitting her down and discussing it with her may be a good idea, figure out why she believes it to be unethical, and for the marriage thing, what most christians believe, but not all follow, is that marriage is supposed to be a bond between 2 ppl who intend to procreate, get married and have kids that is all. Plus i would LOVE for her to point out where it says Thou shall not wear baby items. Christians love to say God say this and God says that, sad thing is the bible is MAN'S interpretaion of what they think God wants, and who truley knows what God wants anyway. For all we know God may be an AB/DL, then again God could be a BDSM Domme or a BDSM Sub, until we die and even meet God we will never know.

Talk to her. Tell her you love her, respect her and trust her. You are going to trust her with your deepest most personal feelings. Tell her that you are not an axe murderer, but you do have, for reasons you cannot really understand, a deep need to return to the security of being very young. You want her to help you in this. You trust her to help you. It is not dangerous, but loving.

😁 😁 😁 😁 my wife hates my love of diapers. here's what works for me .my wife works first shift i work second shift. this gives me about ten hours a day in diapers five days a week more when she works week ends.hope i helped you and good luck. 😁 😁 😁 😁

Doing it without her knowing it can lead to disaster. That's just going behind her back, and that's never a good idea. I think this issue can be solved with a little bit of compromise. Negotiate with her; if there's something that makes her happy, you do it in exchange for your diaper time.