Any advice would be appreciated

I have hooked up with a friend of mine again and recently we had an opportunity to have an afternoon together. Bottom line, I would like to examine her.

There is a strong possibility that in the late winter / early spring I may be vacationing in her area for several days.

I know this is discussed here a lot, but do you think it would be appropriate / a good way to intro it by saying to her "I have a wierd question for you, but did you ever 'play doctor' as a kid?" and see what she says, followed by telling her that I never did but would like to play doctor with her now and see how she reacts?

I have the evening planned out in my head should we get there...but I don't want to come over too strong, nor for it to be anything but fun (read: don't want her to think she's being taken advantage of). Any thoughts / suggestions / help would be appreciated. Thanks ahead of time!

I think that unless she already has a medical fetich, it is unlikely that you will get to examine her without developing your relationship to the point that you trust each other and are having vanilla sex first. Playing doctor, makes her much more emotionally vulnerable than having intercourse.

Point well taken - I guess I was asking is there a way to find out if she does have a medfet thing early on?

Well if you're talking to her... And good at turning around conversations, you could get to the subject on an innocent basis and tell her a "real life" story of your own...

See how she reacts and if she has similar storys and are eager to talk about it.

Depending on how close of friends you are, she might just go along with it. I told a female friend of mine about my desire to "examine" her and she was totally fine with.. full exam, gown, speculum.. she even let me take pics and vids of it.. we ended up having sex as well.. but I've known her for about 8-9 yrs..

others are just women I've been "buddies" with and they were just fine with it too..

Not too many women I've talked to about it feel that it's weird.. you're just getting off to a woman being fingered and spread.. besides.. they're more used to getting examined than most men are in their role-plays of it...

I agree with all: you should be sure of your relation before bringing the entire stuff on the table.

One thing I sometims do, though: I let a stethoscope somewhere 'forgotten' and eventuelly a bp cuff not so far, helps starting to play

If you have developed a rapport with your friend, you might just tell her about your medical fetish, and that you like to examine females, and see how she feels about it. This will depend on how comfortable you have become with each other, and how you feel about each other. You have to remember that a woman is very vulnerable in this position, and there has to be a lot of trust between the two of you. It is not every woman that is going to just open up her legs, and let a guy examine her.

I think you could keep it playful like you plan and slowly explain your medfet interest. You might be surprised. Who knows, she might want to be the doctor and examine you.

If you are intimate, during foreplay you may ask if she does breast self-exams. Follow that with asking if she would be comfortable with you examining them for her. Either she will agree or let her feelings be known if she finds that a turn- off. Should the breast exam have a positive outcome in terms of her arousal, you could then gently expand on the exam further as part of your foreplay. One way or the other you will have a good appreciation for her feelings and soon know if its time to bring out the speculum.

I've known this lady for quite some time, and I would feel relatively comfortable talking to her about exam procedures and the what all. I think if I could just find a way to get round to the subject, either by asking her about a latest exam OR by asking if she ever played doctor as a kid that we would be off and running.

My finances are limited, so the exam itself would even be somewhat limited (for example, could locate bp cuff, steth, thermometer, etc., but not likely to get a speculum....that might have to be digital exam only).

Edit: as she just recently started college, how would it be to ask her what all she had to do to be formally accepted? I know some colleges down here require immunizations to be up to date, so that might lead to med chat. What do you think?

A girl I recently hooked up with (kinda friends, but, not close) made a comment about "coming back for a follow up" .. All I did was after sex, we were laying there (and I'm a total breast guy) so I was playing around with her chest and started to do the breast exam motions... she giggled, smiled and ask if "she was OK" and if I found anything. =)

other's I've directed the conversation towards medical stuff.. then the topic of "are you clean" comes up, to which I'll get the usual yes, "got checked X days/weeks/months" ago.. I'll just probe from there.. if it's a comfortable enough conversation I'll say something like "your Dr is a lucky man" etc.. Then, well, I just ask about it.. or, like the recent one, will just do the motions while we're both comfortable.. I think most women would recognize a "breast/bimanual" exam if you started it up on her.

DrBob wrote

My finances are limited, so the exam itself would even be somewhat limited (for example, could locate bp cuff, steth, thermometer, etc., but not likely to get a speculum....that might have to be digital exam only).

I'm not sure if you have checked prices however I would suggest that the steth and BP will each cost more than a speculum (stainless steel $20/disposable plastic $5). Of course go for the basics first but a disposable speculum should not be out of reach.

The basic tools you need to do a thorough exam are not very expensive. Shop around. Internet, local paper, craig's list, e-bay, etc. You should be able to get everything you need without breaking the bank.

Whatever you decide start slow, feel her out, and take it from there , she might drop hints either way so pay attention. good luck and enjoy DOC 😎