Can you tell if stories were written by men or women?

Does anybody else wonder about what sex and/or orientation a story might have been written by, especially where no name or a cryptic name is given?

Please continue with your discussion. It would be good to get feedback on accuracy, quality and heart.

Its hard to tell sometimes, but I have found if the writer goes into too much graphic detail, it is usually a male writer. That is just my opinion. I have found that women usually write more about emotions, feelings, love, caring, and sharing.

This is supposed to be a pretty good way to tell who wrote a piece:

http://bookblog.net/gender/genie.php

I fed my three most recently written stories into the Gender Genie, and it guessed female for all three (I'm male). It's an interesting idea, though. I guess I just write like a girl.

Maybe your feminine side is showing through Dr. Buttz 😁

It is most challenging to write about something that exists within the heart and mind. There is no way to measure or monitor human thought except when it manifests its existence in some type of physiological response. The only other way to have knowledge of what she may think is when she verbally shares her thoughts, her desires, and her emotions. I am someone who so desperately wants to know what she thinks and feels, but some women, like men, are challenged when it comes to sharing this intangible, yet so valuable, treasure.

This site has been a wonderful experience in that the female participants have been much more willing to share their thoughts versus details of their physical responses. All the ladies who have read my feeble attempt at story sniplets (or scenarios) have responded in a positive manner (and I consider constructive feedback as positive). While it has been satisfying to receive the feedback, I find (as this message thread addresses) a thirst to learn more about what she feels.

I hope ladies reading this message thread will continue the discussion.

I have written about 2 stories. Both long and drawn out with much detail. I feel the details are what explain exactly what was going on----

not much interest in the tales. Although they are the truth my maleness must override the interest.

You can tell I am male as I love to include as much detail as I can. I also like my stories to be as accurate as possible, and try to include some humour if I can.

Interesting topic here. I've been casually working on a story for almost a year and it's taken on quite a life of its own with multiple chapters....and yes, being written by a 38 yr old male, it's descriptive. I'll be sure to go back & make sure there's sufficient emotional content. I was really only writing it for my wife & I, but maybe I'll post it someday. I'm just concerned about the length (of the story, I mean...get your collective minds out of the gutter..LOL).

I think that women are a bit more descriptive in stories they write. But both sexes, when they have a more complex sexuality, realize that it's all in the details!

I tell my boyfriend spanking stories that usually last at least 30 minutes. I bet only a quarter of that time is dedicated to the actual spanking. It's all in the description and how real I can make it. He goes crazy for them!

Who gets spanked in your stories, JenniOR? And who does the spanking? Could you give us an outline of a story you would tell...please.

After having read plenty of so-called "true accounts" on various boards over the years, I have found that the number one dead give-away to a story being bogus is that it contains the phrase, "One day my aunt came over and..." In second place comes, "One day, my next-door neighbor, who just happened to be a nurse, came over and..." Third place is taken by, "I could hear every sound from the bedroom of the gorgeous blond teenage girl that lived next door to me. And one day I heard..."

I consider any one of these phrases to be an immediate "eye-roll alert." 😁

In my modest opinion, it depends.

Depend like is written the story and what the writer wants tell you.

A good writer must be able to think like a woman and like a man, or better he/she must try to do it well.

A mediocre writer simply is not able to do this and will be very superficial and predictable.

And still, a good writer must have a lot of fantasy, too easy only tell you real fact, because very often they are so repetitive and boring, said those a time or two the ideas would be ended ...

M2000

Very interesting topic

As, now, an old both true and paly Dr,I have to acknoledge that, even if discovering the body of a new (true or play), female patient is always a great adventure, I'm more curious about knowing that she feels in the secret of her mind.

As said one of my old med teachers "les femmes montrent plus facilement leurs fesses que leurs âmes" i.e.

" women/girls show easerly(?)their butts than their souls"

Both are fascinating but the second one is a lot more mysteriosous ...

While I certainly agree that the fictional stories which delve the deepest into the description of the emotional and psychological side of med-fet tend to be written by women, I'm sure there are some men who would be able to give the ladies some competition in this area. It's just that (my personal opinion here) in med-fet-fic, the majority of stories written by male writers read as if they were "typed with one hand." There is that rushed, let's-get-right-to-the-action-with-no-frills quality to them. I'm not saying this is necessarily bad, or that those types of stories would be of no interest to others. They just don't happen to be my cup of med-fet tea.

For instance, I would love to read a good story written from the perspective of a male doctor who goes into detail about what it is like to daily have access to the most personal parts of women's bodies, and how he deals with the widely varying reactions he gets from the women he examines and treats. Stories like this seem to be non-existent, as far as I can tell, which is really too bad. I'm sure I'm not alone in my desire to read some stories that explore the topic from the "other end of the exam table" perspective.

I some times can,but when women started getting published they used mens names and so they could sell books. I feel that a woman is a bit more descriptive,and the put in more detail,but not always right . So it is a buyer beware type of story .

I think you can usually tell whether a man or woman wrote the story for erotic stories (medfet or otherwise) by reading those aspects of the story that are purely sexual. I think it is very difficult to write about the first-person experience of sexual response of the opposite sex convincingly. Speaking from a male perspective, when another man writes about an ejaculation, he tends to write more about the physical sensations associated with it, while a woman will tend to write more about the external description of the event itself.

I'm not saying that I couldn't be fooled by a woman who deliberately tries to write like a man (or vice versa), but I think the effort required to do so would be more than it's worth to the author.

That, for example, is why I normally write stories from the male perspective. I did write one story from a female perspective, but it was largely of her reacting to what the man said and did. I actually submitted it to a web page with a female editor who liked and published the story on her web page; but I have always felt the story was kind of shallow in terms of its sexual narrative from her perspective, as I suffer from serious disadvantages in trying to narrate a woman's sexual experience...

A good writer should be able to fool you, but most of us are not professional writers. If you look at non-fetish stuff the professional writers should be able to write from the point of view of either gender to vary their stories and ideas. With fetish stuff it's a little harder. Most of us are speaking from experience, so just like I can't describe how exactly it feels for a man to ejaculate, a man can't really describe the exact feelings of a woman's climax; but they understand that it's similar. As a general rule, women do focus on the emotions and the psychological side of things, but I've read some great stories from men that do the same. Then again...we do have some really great writers on this site! 😃

This is an excellent topic... I cannot totally agree with the concept that women write with less detail. I have been writing erotica for several years now (although I've never shared it) and find that my stories are almost too detail-laden. I have to edit the details and re-focus on the emotional responses of the characters. When I'm writing I imagine being in the position of the characters so perhaps that's where my emotional connection comes in. From what I've read it seems that men tend to get to the point much more quickly than women. Much of their writing (not all, mind you) seems to focus on the ultimate outcome. Whether that's orgasm or getting the woman naked, their writing seems to rush through the build-up of nerves, the anticipation, the excitement/fear/love/etc.

Soumise, while I'm not a nymphmaniac I can relate to the rush and total immersion in the physical. But isn't the rush emotion?

Just some thoughts...

It would be interesting to take a poll to see how many respondents write as if they are a member of the other sex.

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I tell my boyfriend spanking stories that usually last at least 30 minutes.

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Very good Jenn! My former wife had this fantasy, one experience with a girlfriend that went nowhere, and I eventually found myself telling her stories about the two girls who lived next door, making it a bi-threesome, typically in the midst of our making love. She would end up flying to the moon, and I enjoyed taking her on those journey!

Ssssoooo, more power to you!!! U go grl!

Hermann

I’m shocked, and saddened, to hear that many of the women here seem to think that all men are typing with one hand. Or, that they couldn’t possibly create an erotic story that would ever appeal to a woman!

I have NEVER masturbated while I have written anything here. Hell, I don’t even have an erection, because it’s all about thinking and understanding what I am saying and reading. Clearly, some women seem to think that men are nothing but erect penises, always looking for the next orgasm!

And, I wrote a very erotic story, that appealed to a girl, a while back. She admitted getting wet and excited from it, not me! And, several other WOMEN said the same things. Clearly, I have the emotional part down, I would say! Search through my posts, to the last few pages. You tell me if that’s a female fantasy or not. Bet that I fool you all to hell. You’ll sit there and claim, after reading it, that NO man could possibly have written something like this!

I used to do female fantasies, on the old 976 lines. The goal for me was to get a woman to talk to me, and then have her start masturbating. So, I had to understand her sexuality, in order to do that. Hell, after my phone was disconnected, because of the $8,000 bill, a lot of them would continue to call me, for hot sex talk. In all of that time, I would lie there in the dark, thinking about the person, and what kind of imagery that I wanted to create for her. Not ONCE in all of that time, did I ever jerk off. Talking about the most disgusting sexual topics that one could imagine, and never becoming aroused, or even erect. If I would have jerked off, I would have gone to sleep, and the bill would never have reached $8,000.

Clearly, some of you have the wrong idea, totally, about what men think and do!

As bad as it may make me sound, I have to disagree with Dr. E in that I only write erotic stories that are designed to excite me. Everything I read in terms of how you should write advises you to "write about what you know". Let's face it, I know my own sexual fantasies best. I simply don't think that I could write with the same conviction (in terms of erotic stories), if I tried to write a story designed to turn on someone else.

I freely admit to masturbating while I am typing because, in my mind, I am living what is happening to my main character (which is why I almost exclusively write about a male main character).

My only reason for posting the stories here is that nearly all my stories are about medical fetish (being examined) and because I feel a need to express my sexuality in words. (Literary Exhibitionism, I suppose...)

I do have a question for the ladies though: Social stereotypes about masturbation aside, do you think a man who is writing a story about something that does not turn him on is going to write a better erotic story? Please explain your answer.

Speaking for myself, I would hope that ALL authors (male or female) who write an erotic story are turned on by what they are writing. Otherwise, it just feels like you (as an author) are lying to me...

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...in my mind, I am living what is happening to my main character (which is why I almost exclusively write about a male main character).

...I feel a need to express my sexuality in words. (Literary Exhibitionism, I suppose...)

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I totally agree with HumblePatient. All of the stories that I have written are, first and foremost, written for my own entertainment. If that means I get a little bit aroused during the writing process -- so be it. If others enjoy my stories and are affected by them in some way -- that's even better.

This is an interesting topic. I agree that stories written by men tend to have content that is more visual or detail oriented. Understanding that, I've asked for my patients' input for several of the stories I've written. It was great to get a woman's perspective and I believe their contributions made the stories considerably better.

Well, DrWellhung, your stories are some of the very best on the board and I always love to read and savor them. You are a terrific writer. Please keep the stories coming and thanks!

A devoted fan and reader,

Lady Teddy