Girlfriend wants to involve co-workers

I finally got the nerve to suggest my interest to my girlfriend, who jumped at the idea but wanted to involve a co-worker, both work in a research at a hospital. Half of me is excited to be with two women, but at the same time it is someone I am not very comfortable with or hardly even know. Suggestions?

@Palms,

I would suggest that the three of you meet first and get to know each other before jumping in to a role play scene. Maybe go out for lunch or dinner with nothing scheduled to take place immediately, unless all three of you decide then and there to proceed forward. Good luck! If you don't mind, let us know how things go.

I would suggest you and your girlfriend discuss at length what you both want out of the relationship. Discuss your concerns, and you both must agree agree to the terms, and set limits. Sometimes fantasies are best left as fantasies, and jealousy can destroy a relationship. After you and your girlfriend have come to an agreement to go ahead with the threesome, then discuss the proposal with the other coworker. Again all should be in agreement, and limits and safe words should be set. Hopefully if everyone is in agreement, and all the the bugs are worked out, you will have a great time. Good luck! 😄

The difficulty here is whether ones work colleague and co-conspirator today, may become the accuser and abused of tomorrow. Beware of involving anyone from her work. the problem is, they may feel guilt the next day, may feel regret... if this all comes out, everyone will lose their job, the press will have a field day and you will be splashed all over the news as a pervert. I'm sorry, but that's how it is. You never really know anyone... don't do it. Find some like minded people on the net, but not a work colleague.

Hope this doesn't rain on your parade, but its not worth the risk.

I ended up in a threesome one time. I was dating two female graduate students from the local university that were roommates. One night they decided to both spend the night! At first it was scary to me --- but with their participation it all worked out and we all had fun! However even though we continued to date it never happened again!

Some things on the face of it sound pretty exciting. But a lot of things that sound exciting are really not. Have been with 2 women on a number of occassions and each time the excitment of anticipation did not match the reality. My advice is do not involve anyone other than your partner.

I never had a threesome but apart from that I think invoving people from work never is a good choice in my opinion. If the relationship or friendship breaks up her colleague can use it against you.

I've had other people present in a number of play exams and find it part of the fun and, a huge turn on.

I must say though, I do find it far easier if they are strangers - it seems far more embarassing being examined in front of friends.

As I've posted before, I'm usually the patient in two types of exams: Small groups of say 3 or 4, where I'd usually know most of them. Alternatively, larger parties of say 8 to 15 where I'd probably only know 1 person - who's taken me along as the patient. Personally I find these examinations in front of a strange audience a massive turn on.

I think that the situation is very enticing, but you should be very careful, considering the effect that this might have on your relationship. I have never been in your situation, but I think a long and very through discussion of what is the purpose of bringing another person into the fantasy is would be in order. Otherwise, I have to say I salute you for having a girlfriend who is open minded and willing to even expand on your fantasies. Given that statement, I highly recommend you not allow this to cause friction in your relationship.

Dangerous territory, playing with fire I'd say.

You will have to be very trusting and the consequences may not be what you are expecting.

You really didn't say exactly what your interest is. You have to first establish trust between the three of you. Yes, this all sounds exciting and it can be under the right circumstance.

You also have to ensure all parties enjoy your interest. If the "third" person is not really into your type interest, you could have some problems down the road with this person being discrete or worst, use against your girlfriend for promotion or what have you. It all comes back to trust. Our opinion is take your time to get to know the third person and don't rush in.

My wife had a lot of time "male" friend and we wanted him to give my wife an enema but it ended up being that his motive was that he wanted to have sex with my wife. He really had no interest in enemas but he saw this as an opportunity to try to sleep with my wife.

The big negative that we see here is that this person is your girlfriend's coworker. As others have previously stated "this could be a bad idea". Unless, this coworker is a trusted friend of your girlfriend, this would not be a good situation for you or your girlfriend.

When I went through the divorce from my first wife, I had to hear her tell the court about my medical fetish. It is not fun listening to your ex-wife telling the court about your medical fetish and everyone is staring at you.

To Medfedcouple: I can't imagine your fetish coming up at a divorce hearing! I'm absolutely speechless & my heart goes out to you.

To Palms: you posted this last November. Can you give us an update? I'm torn here. On one hand, you should be able to trust a friend more than a complete stranger (especially when doing things to your body). On the other hand, everyone here is raising excellent points about the potential for disaster. Kimberly brings up the press, which probably isn't a far reach to think this could happen these days. Bottom line: you know your girlfriend and her friend better than anyone else on this site. Talk about everything first (all 3 of you), set limits, etc. and just go with your gut. If it happens, keep your fingers crossed and have fun. If it's already happened, then dammit, tell us about it!! Enquiring minds...well, you know...

I would avoid this situation like the plague if your girlfriend likes her job. I would NEVER mix a business relationship with one involving any sort of sexual fetish. On the surface it sounds so enticing, but often fantasy and reality are two entirely separate things and mixing them is risky. On the other hand - LIFE is risky - and I have had some really hot scenes happen that could have easily gone south and been utterly disastrous had the planets not been in alignment...lol

I could understand this if it was a close friend and she or he was interested in playing but not with co-workers.

My god your gf must be mad. She could loose her job.

God I would love to involve certain coworkers in my girlfriend and my sex life. Two in particular. But it’s unlikely and anyway too dangerous to mix work with personal life. Bad idea in the end.

I was involved with an affair with a coworker. Fortunately it worked. LOTs of examples where it went really bad. No one was fired, but people left their jobs and their marriages. Bad idea, except for us! We were in the minority. 40 years later.

I met my girlfriend at work. In the beginning I was very wary. We had lots of discussions and eventually we got together and we still are today 5 years later. It can create friction so be on the lookout.

I also had an ex-college of mine visit us at home we were talking and it came up she wanted a gyno exam. I offered and it was accepted. I then had my girlfriend and the college strip down together and examined them both one after each other.

They were both in the room together. It was a bit awkward for my girlfriend at the time as she was concerned that I would make the 2 of them play with each other. It was just an exam for each of them nothing more.

Talk to your girlfriend and set up rules first then everyone knows.

We got involved with a co worker back in the 70's.

We invited her around for drinks and that was going to be it but as the booze flowed so our ebbed away. The conversation turned to sex and she asked us what we did for fun and my wife told her about med fet. Then it was not talked about so we explained it to her and she seemed interested so we told her to our exam room. It only had a table and a few instruments, but it catered to our needs at the time.

She asked when we did and we explained it. To my surprise she said that I could examine if I examined my wife as well. I told them to undress and they did, I had seen her in a swimsuit but it totally betrayed her figure.

They stood there naked and I seth'd each one in turn, having to lift their left breast up to get a better listen made it more erotic. I followed with a breast exam on them both and then asked the friend to get on the table and after palpating her tummy I then ran my hands down the rest of her body. My wife help put her legs in the stirrups so she was totally exposed. I did a full gyno and then asked my wife to do the same.

They swapped roles and in the end her friend pushed her fingers deep into my wife's soaking wet virgina and that was it, she was so aroused touching a woman she lost if and started to masturbate my wife. We took her into our bedroom and after I stripped we made love for the rest of the night. She was more interested in my wife than me, so I let them get on with it, and we made it a regular event..

There have been experiences where adding a third to a role play idea did not go as planned. Be careful what you wish for because it could backfire in a really bad way if it goes wrong.

All I can say is that over the years it has worked for me, but you have to be careful and basically prime the person to see if their kinks match yours. Men have never been a problem, but in my experience not every woman can handle the intimacy of another woman.

This is a fairly old thread, but it always bears repeating: “Don't get your honey where you get your money.” Back when I was in business, there were quite a few offers. I never succumbed. Too much goes wrong.

Six words: Very bad idea. Don't do it.

MO

Yes it can cum back to bite you on the arse if that's what you enjoy😜😁

I have & there were no repercussions fortunately, however there's risks that one could pay very dearly for.

Is the co-worker hers or yours?

All I will say is I long for the day I should have such dilemmas! It sounds a lot more fun than constitutional law and nano-biology!

Big no!

I've never been in a threesome I didn't like, but I also never broke the unbreakable rule: “Don't graze in the company pasture.” Very bad idea to involve co-workers in sex play.

I did that. Back when I was engaged and bi we had a few threesomes, foursomes. He knew the other girls. We were both comfortable. You have to make sure that you give your lady as much attention as she needs and watch her. If she looks like all of a sudden she is not having a good time stop. Like if she is sitting away from everyone. Keep eye contact with her. Like I was watching my ex and he was all over the two girls. In a way, at first, I felt left out until one of the girls caught on and she started with me. It was always girls because I did not want any other men and neither did he.

I have told the story about him cheating on me before. But I found some panties that were not mine under our bed. I would smell perfume that I did not wear. Then when I would start my period I would be out of tampons knowing there were some left after the last time. I was sure it was someone we had been with. It turned out to be my ex-best friend who is totally straight and had never been with us together. I caught them in our bed. I kicked both of them out and for good. Then I had a party here and some friends brought over this girl who got drunk pretty fast and they put her on my bed. After everyone left the girl was still in my bed. She was very pretty. It had been a good six hours that she had been sleeping. She started to kiss me and one thing led to another. Then she said she needed some water. I said I would get it and she said no she would because she needed to get up and pee also. I told her where the glasses were and that water was in the front of the fridge. Next thing I know I feel her long hair on me and then my arms were grabbed and I felt a penis trying to enter me. I fought him off and they ran. Come to find out she had unlocked the door while getting water and given him a signal. They had done this a few times. Some girls went along with it until they started thinking about it. This couple had cleared out the apartment they were staying in and disappeared. To this day they have never been caught.

That shows a way not to do it. Make sure everyone is comfortable with what is about to happen or is happening. Never force yourself or let anyone force themselves on you.

It sounds adventurous and fun. I had a friend who was a magnet for women. He had sex with the majority of his co-workers, or so I was told. Eventually it caused problems for him, and he was fired. Be careful about involving third parties. Two’s company, and three’s a crowd, when it comes to your personal life.