Hard or soft spanking

A spanking should be hard. It gives me so much to think about and also feel when led on my bum in bed, and the fact when somebody enjoys and likes to spank, then you get the full benefits.

I prefer hard bare bottom with a paddle. My favorite position, which is probably from high school paddlings but they were not bare bottom, is to bend over and receive at least 20 hard swats, also like over the knee, also naked.

Real spankings hurt.

I have two ladies who spank me-but they are entirely different. With one, I go to her flat dressed in lingerie and a dress under my coat. I have jogger bottoms on over the lower part of the dress that I remove when outside her flat.

She will take me in and find fault with me-then put me over her knee and spank me-but not in a way to really hurt-it's the erotic feeling of being spanked whilst dressed and over the knee of a lady who herself is in lingerie.

My second lady is a professional spanker who can really hurt if that is what you want. With me, she will certainly make my bottom red and it will sting-but no permanent marking. Again, there is the eroticism of being over a stockinged knee, with my dress pulled up and my panties at my knees. totally in someone else's mercy.

Both experiences are fabulous, but the first one gives me a much more immersive experience as it is part of a total role play session.