Opposites

So I was curious about something I've found about myself: does anyone else feel that their role in fantasies are reversed with their real life. I am generally very passive person, but I take leadership roles and I like to have control over what's going on; but in play, I'm the submissive patient, but I sometimes like to fight a little, not bad, but just be a little rebellious in a way. Just curious if others find this to hold true?

I agree with you, 'flyfisher'. In real life, I am usually quite firm and assertive. (I am a supervisor where I work.) As a gyno-fet 'patient', this gives the perfect opportunity for me to allow my submissive side to emerge... and enjoy!!!

In my job it seems I am always the one trying to keep two parties happy and bending over backwards to get that done.In the bedroom and med play..I like to be in charge (when I am the doctor)and dictate what is going to happen.For example Flyfisher,if you fight to much,I may order you on your tummy,restrain you a bit and administer a little spanking.Might as well take your temp then also.

Medical situations are the ones where I really feel vulnerable. Normally I'm in charge and on top of things (work etc.). A balance for me to be the patient on occasion.

I am usually in charge in my life, with my work, and with my family. I think this is one of the things that makes my medfetish so exciting, I and being subordinate, and giving up control to someone else.

It seems to me this is common in medfet patients, as well as the D/s fetish.

I also agree that in D/s lifestyle, the typical daily life role can get reversed once the partners are together. i am a very strong and independant woman, who can handle leadership roles if i have to and succeed very well at them.

In D/s lifestyle however, i find myself seeking someone stronger than me to just take charge and take over. My favorite type of play is consentual non-consent, which pretty much gives my partner to do as he wishes withing certain boundaries which are prediscussed. If the "dominant" party is really stronger than me, he could go further than the prediscussed boundaries, but that has yet to happen. i am still waiting to find someone who can really see through my manipulation, and my charm, and actually "control" me. i have believed for a long time, my true submission to someone may have to be forced out of me, but i really want it to happen...i just can't let go.

I have had a different experience although I fantasize otherwise. In my work and everyday life I am "in charge" and the decision maker. This is the role I've also taken in my play. I long for the opportunity to play the submissive/patient role. It would be nice to be able to let go and let someone else take the lead for a change.

For me it is the same. In my job to be, as a teacher, I am the one who has to be in charge, the same is true for my relatioship, I am the one who is dominant. I think this is one point, because medfet is so fascinating for me, because in this "other life" I really like to be the submissive patient. It is a pitym, that I can´t imagine to play with my partner, he is just too nice,...

I am a play patient because thats what i am in real life a patient. med-fet allows me to enjoy the fun and kinky aspect I wish was present in real life exams