Who prefers male gynecologists and why?

I have had both and prefer a male. I have many gay friends and family members and I'm perfectly OK with it. Whatever they want to do in their bedroom is fine as long as they don't push their preferences on me. That being said, lesbianism is exactly the opposite of my preferences!!! With a woman gyno, there is a difference I can't explain, I just feel it in their bearing, manner, touch or something that makes me uncomfortable. (Maybe this is why your wife can't explain it to you.) Several times I have felt this only to find out, later, they were lesbians. Even though the gyno exam isn't erotic in nature, your sexual organs are being spread and examined most intimately! Just knowing that a woman was doing it creepped me out because, to me, it feels so unnatural.

It was very interesting reading the previous 2 posts and how experiences can lead to very different preferences. As I've posted before, I've received intimate exams from both male and female doctors. The quality of care and examining technique of both genders in my experiences were equally professional. The main difference is that I feel like I have to be more on my guard when being examined by a female because I want to avoid any iota of impropriety or unnecessary exposure. I think this caution causes an even stronger awareness of the nudity and physical touching since I'm focused on both the doctor and myself. With a male doctor I simply don't feel like I need to be cautious regarding my disrobing and my nudity.

I really don't have a preference either way. As long as the doctor is gentle, through and does everything well without making any mistakes for me the sex of the doctor really isn't important.

I would definitely prefer a male doctor, though I'm not quite sure why. I just feel funny about having another woman looking at and touching me in such intimate places.

I feel like that sounds very homophobic, and I really don't intend for it to 😕 It's just what I feel comfortable with in myself, I guess.

You need not justify why, it is your body and your preference. Whatever it takes to make you comfortable and feeling like you are getting good care.

I agree with most women a male gynecologist is more sensitive to a woman than a female, they seem to have a better bedside manner than a female. I have had both female and male but prefer having a male gynecologist to a female gyn in fact I now have a male gyn and have been his patient for quite sometime. 😃

My wife has a similar experience can find the experience quite uncomfortable

I have seen 3 different male gynecologists and 1 female. I did not find the female nearly as caring, gentle, or concerned about bedside manner as any of the male gynecologists. Though it may have simply been my luck of the draw, I have stuck with male gynecologists ever since.

I have gone to a female gynecologist for a very long time. It’s fine and there are no problems. But I can’t say it’s enjoyable in any way. However, when I think of the possibility of switching to a male doctor, it immediately becomes sexual for me. (Please don’t judge.) I don’t mean to feel this way.

So while I’m tempted to switch for the excitement factor, it’s probably for the best that I stick with a female.

I prefer male. I’m a BBW so I usually feel less self conscious in front of a male doctor. Also they tend to be more dominant and less gentle.

Males are more gentle and caring. When seeing male doctors by state law have to have female present. So females cannot come back a get the doctor in trouble.

@Firegirl911 said

Males are more gentle and caring. When seeing male doctors by state law have to have female present. So females cannot come back a get the doctor in trouble.

@Speculum_Lover said

I prefer male. I’m a BBW so I usually feel less self conscious in front of a male doctor. Also they tend to be more dominant and less gentle.

OBVIOUSLY there are no accurate generalizations on this and some are more gentle than women and others are not.

Why does your obesity make you less self conscious in front of a male than a female doctor?

I prefer male gynos, they are so much more gentler. I love the feeling of a good doctor spreading my labia and inserting the speculum on an angle, rotating it and examining my cervix. Its so hot when they get a good view of my cervical os area

I didn't get to choose my gynecologists. I had only men until I was in my 30s so it became the norm. I've been fortunate. I've never felt uncomfortable with any gynecologists. Now I've decided that it doesn't matter.

I like a male gynocologist… its my naughty self who enjoys the thought that maybe just maybe he'd do something naughty

My gynecologist is a male and I feel way more comfortable with him than females I’ve had in the past. He takes his time with me, answers all questions, is kind and empathetic when there’s pain.

The females I’ve had have acted like “this isn’t a big deal, I go through this too, suck it up”

He doesn’t have the nurse as a chaperone unless he needs assistance for a procedure or exam.

@Interestedmed Not the first time that I've read this, about women doctors etc. lacking empathy about women and girls problems (e.g., painful periods) because "they go through this they know what it is".

I've had both male and female. For certain pregnancy aspects some female ones were better because they could directly relate. But in general terms I've had much better experience with male gynos.

After some really bad experiences in the past I switched to my current obgyn who is male and he is amazing. Great bedside manner. Gentle. Kind and very empathetic. His nurse is rarely present unless he's doing a procedure and I've never felt the need to have her around

I prefer females because a male gyno gives off the same energy as a car mechanic who has never owned or driven a car. I also had a bad experience with an unprofessional male gyno. I'll deal with a male gyno in an emergency but it's not my preference for my regular gyno. I prefer no assistant if it's a female gyno and an assistant or a friend or my spouse if it's a male gyno.

I took some posts down that were about men not knowing when they should keep off topics for ladies. Men please do not post on topics that are really just for ladies to answer, unless you are posting about what your lady partner does or prefers. It is not ok if men just take over ladies topics, it stops ladies posting on them.

After decades and moves I’ve had gynecological exams from seven or eight practitioners, with approximately a 50-50 gender split. While my experiences have been mixed, overall I’ve had better experiences with the women and would still have a woman if she hadn’t left the state.

Now with a busy job, I tend to value one-stop shopping and just have my (male) primary care provider do the honors during a regular checkup. I wasn’t aiming to have a male PCP but a woman I was more excited about left her practice before I could get my scheduled new patient visit. The next available physician rated highly enough who took my insurance was a man.

I can say he is not more sympathetic or gentle—his exam discovered fibroids and he really went to town on the palpation such that I was clenching my jaw by the end of the exam. But he’s competent enough, good with referrals, and after several visits seems to take me seriously and work with me as a partner to create care plans. Call everyone beaten down by the US care system, but that seems the very best one can expect from a physician who takes new patients.

I’m assuming I’ll want a female practitioner to help discuss hormone replacement options once I cross that bridge, but Aunt Flow remains a regular visitor, so I can kick that can down the road a while.

My girlfriend favors a male gyno only, for all the reasons previously stated. They are kinder gentler and more empathetic but, she added females can be judgemental as well. Out of probably 25 obgyns over the years and many moves she said she's only had two females but I guess they left a bad impression.

She has large labia that she is very self conscious of so I think the female obgyns made her feel worse about her lips. She's said she's discussed her labia with every gyno and every male always puts her at ease, listens to her concerns and a few have actually discussed the pros and cons of labiaplasty with her. Apparently those were some anxiety inducing consults but she'll always be strictly male when it comes to the gynecologist

Male always. A woman can be cold and calculating and also a bit rough. I think a male gynaecologist is a bit more caring. Naturally, most men are caring of females. Also, a male doesn't know what it is liked to be poked and prodded. A woman gynaecologist does know what it is like and can be rough and unsympathetic.

There is also an excitement factor involved if the procedure is not too painful and its a male.