Married to not interested guy

Hi. Anyone here in a marriage and the other person isn't into the clinic/medical thang? (like me!!)

My husband isn't interested or at least appears to be uninterested. Wish I had an answer.

My current and long-term partner is not at all interested, so I seek satisfaction in my personal fantasies, med/fet pornography and stories, and very occasionally in medical play with another female (it does not bother my partner for me to be with a woman, but I cannot play with another man). It's not perfect, but I wouldn't sacrifice our relationship for the sake of my fetish.

My boyfriend is not at all interested in the med fetish.

My partner is not really aware of how much i am into Medfet, he does play with me with gloves, but that it it. No more, i long for a proper examination, either by male or female as long as it fulfils my fantasies....

Oh, I wish there was a way for you all to discuss this with your S/O's so they see how important it is to you! I think having the same interests and sharing one's secret desires is the key to a fabulous relationship!

I'm assuming that you've all tried to relax, have a drink or two and try to get into some sex-talk with your spouse, as a means of developing an opening on the subject?

There are quite a few comments about not being able to broach the subject with their partner. Like a lot of things in life, this subject is exciting to some and of no interest to others. Its nice that there are so many females on this site that find it exciting. Because there are so many that have no interest whatsoever. My partner included.

My husband does not have a medical fetish, and he does not go to the doctor unless he is on his death bed. My husband however, does know about my medical fetish, encourages me in my medical fetish, and he enjoys it with me.

Mine isn't interested yet (there is always hope right?!) He is interested in a bit of BDSM so we have fun with that..

In another discussion, someone had a great suggestion.

If you have a diary or journal, start and entry expressing you desires, then leave the writing someplace where it might be noticed and read (but not too obvious).

Plant the seed. Maybe something will take root and begin to grow.

My wife knows of my fascination with the fetish but she has no interest. She knows that I explore medical fetish with others and she does not object.

My girlfriend thinks that i am the biggest retard in the whole world for being into this stuff

I dont think you are a "retard" for being into this.... what, exactly floats your wifes boat?

Each to thier own is a saying that i believe is very true.

Love, and appreciation for each other comes of knowing, or perhaps understanding is a better word, what makes us individuals and what makes us tick. Essentially, sex and arousal are such infinately individual subjects that it is difficult to say what is "normal" and what is "retarded", or odd.

Certainly there are absolute no-no's, such as rape and paedophilia, but harmless fun such as a medical fetish is NOT retarded.

I think that you are appreciative of what makes you, as a person "tick", and as such should be commended, NOT condemmed.

Welcome to the world of medfet anyway, from another RETARD. 😁

Thanks, Strapherdown; I've written a document about myself and left it on my computer. My wife hasn't found it, probably because she has her own and there is nothing on mine that interests her much.

Medical fetish is a taboo subject to my wife, I would not want to ruin our relationship, but it would be nice to find a group or person with whom my fantasies could be explored.

My wife has no idea, and I would not even know how to tell her, I do not think she would be into it.

My wife just isn't interested either, she don't care if i find another woman to play with though.although i'm not heavily focused on gyno play i still like medical stuff been searching for about 4 years now, but how do you approach a woman and say "hi id like to stick wires on your naked chest?' 😮

The man I am seeing now,though not yet official, was talking about gyno exams with me the other day, we were on messenger, and he was asking me about what happens during them. (He knows the basics, but he said he has never considered the full extent of it until he and I were discussing birth control, etc.) He asked me what I thought, and I have never had a real one, so I sent him a link to some sites explaining the procedure. He looked at them, and we talked about me being so nervous to get a real one (he has been saying that if I do, he'll go with me if I'd like, so I was more comfortable). Then he said "it would be so much easier if guys were taught how to do this to their girlfriends, like, a preliminary kind of exam, so you'd have to go to the gyno less but still be aware of problems." He meant proper training but not necessarily the years of medical school you'll have to go through.

That sounds fairly promising to me... =)

Maybe try something like that? Bringing up the gyno in a non threatening way and assessing their opinions first.

My wife will do very mild play, i would like to get into caths, electro, enemas. I get turned on by her having proedured done, next week she will have on and i get all ecited just thinking about it.

How about married to a woman who is not interested in anything related sex, including sex????

Good thing we have this site for those who miss out in real life. I would love to chat with those who are missing out

Give it a shot, gilinva. I wasn't interested in medfet until my wife started telling me about her interest and why she was interested in it. She was so excited about it that she got me excited about it too - that's how I eventually ended up here! 😃

I recently (within last year) shared my med fet fantasies with my wife who is an RN. I had been keeping it from her for years. But, as you stated, it is who I am. It has been this way as long as I can remember.

My wife is not into this scene as I am. To her, it is just a job. However, she has indulged my fantasies without judging me. She takes my RT and examines me on a regular basis. We've yet to work up to enemas and injections but I am hopeful that we can do so soon. I would urge everyone who is like us to find a way to take your advice. My relationship with my wife has never been better since I "came out".

Temperatureboy

Temperatureboy, I have the same situation as you. My wife is a RN and knows I like medical play but she just isn't into it.. She will on occasion let me examine her ...especially after her annual exam and even will examine me sometimes. I am glad she at least meets me half way and just doesn't say no to it all.

Mash, That was an ex cellant post and like others said ..truly from the heart. Thank you.

There is a difference from some that 'wants' to be examined versus 'lets' you examine them. While the interested could be peaked..its usually a desire from within.

I agree that a true med fetish is not something any of us here really chose its just a part of who we are and in a good relationship we should be able to tell a partner anything... hiding it only works for so long

Jem

Although my wife isn't into medfet, she lets me "examine" her once in a while (if I initiate it) and when it gets to the temperature-taking stage she gets so aroused at my state of arousal that it quickly progresses into sex. But I keep hoping that one day she will come to me asking if I think she has a fever... 😄

Dr. Ben Dover, if your wife gets aroused with you taking her temperature, and it leads to something enjoyable, I am sure she will figure out a way to get your attention. 😉

As I said in an earlier post, how about being married to a woman who is not interested in anything dealing with sex. That even includes absolutely not talking about it.

So best of luck because I have tried since 1989.

beltoro

Ditto here. My wife is not overly turned on by medical play, but she loves to play with my butt. SO, enemas and the occasional rectal exam are not topics I have to talk her into. She goes along with it (playing doctor & patient), but when she's the doc, she has trouble with the 'talking' part of role play. I'd like to be talked thru the exam more....she's working on it because she knows it's a major turn on for me. I'm trying to get her into trying sounds on me. Someday....