Ladies, have you found your A spot?

I have heard about the A spot but never made any serious attempt to find it or play with it, and never talked with any of my friends who have.

Now that I'm thinking about it, I will try to find it and see what it's all about. In the meantime, would any of out Zity ladies who have found and used it, tell us about their experience?

I lean toward the side of the A-spot debate that says it's not a thing. (For those who aren't familiar, it's an area deep in the vagina between the cervix and the bladder.) The claim is that stimulating this spot for 10-15 minutes leads to increased lubrication and arousal.

Of course, it'd be pretty hard to stimulate that spot without a whole lot of unintended stimulation to other parts of the vagina.

Could be I'm a freak lacking the controversial and unproven A-spot, O-spot, G-spot, and whatever other alphabetic spots some people say we have. Yet I'm fully functional and orgasmic and such.

Lots of women find arousal and the resulting lubrication easier to come by if they need to pee. I often do.

It must be wonderful to have so many places for great stimulation! Variety is the spice of life!

A spot, G spot, BS spot (joke). I honestly think a lot of that is men wishing we were simpler. There’s no one magic spot on a woman that will bring her off aside from the clitoris and even that requires different handling from woman to woman - hell even day to day with the same woman.

Sorry guys, we’re complex

So true @Nurse_Phillips.

I have zero issue with people learning how to pleasure women. I encourage it. I get annoyed at these new fad crap things like the G Spot Orgasm. Implies if you’re a real woman you’ll have it. Smacks of hold over from Freudian Vaginal vs Clitoral orgasms etc. squirting is another. How many guys have you seen INSISTING that all women can squirt and that they have the magic peen that will make them squirt. Bull. Shit.

Ladies, tell your partner what feels good to YOU. Men, ASK your lover what she likes and then listen to her. Technique sure but tailor it to what SHE needs

I have no idea as to the reality of an A spot, G spot, or any other spot. What I DO know, after playing with women for over 40 years (from Zity and several of its predecessors) is that @Nurse_Phillips is 100% correct! One of my most fun, but also strangest partners was Absolutely crazy about anal, anything anal! I learned that the fastest and surest way to get her to an INSTANT screaming orgasm was to give her a couple of bulbs of salt & soda solution, then inset a Tampax Pearl into he poop chute! The first time we did it, I thought I had injured her...the screaming was that quick and she began to shake uncontrollably! Once she calmed down and told me it was the best "O" she ever had, enema plus tampon became a regular part of our play.

I'm not just a pussy or piece of ass or a G-spot or A-spot or an XYXZ-WTF ever spot or some sort of 1-2-3 get me off if you do this this and then that. My mind is where you start if you want to get into my pants and there are so many things that trigger me into getting me ready for you to fuck me. Then again I am sometimes just a raging fuck me now cunt and don't worry about charming me. And there are so many ways that I want to fuck or make love or have a quickie or let you take a quickie and it's not just one or two magic spots that get me going. I can be in the mood for making long slow love or a bend me over and fuck my ass or I'm on my knees sucking your cock or eating your pussy. Maybe I wanted to be treated like a queen and your most valued treasure or a fucking slut you walk away from when you are done with me or me or when I am soooo done with you.

But it sounds like you want to know and that's cool but just don't expect there to be one or two theories out there that will make you successful with a woman. We can go from hot to cold to angel to bitch at any given moment and it won't be because of you or maybe it is. It's not magic it's just knowing when and that's not guaranteed. Good luck.

And for many women, what you do physically is only a part of her ability to be aroused or to achieve orgasm. If you don't say the right things, or behave in a way she disikes, she may not reach the Big O no matter what you do in bed.