Guys- when/ how did you learn that girls get horny too?

Curious to hear your experiences growing up/ maturing when you learned that girls get horny too.

I think of the scene from the Netflix show Big Mouth where it’s like “guys… girls get horny too” and their heads literally explode.

What was it like for you?

I think I first realized it when I was 14 and an older girl/woman 18 basically seduced me. She definitely initiated the sex. Before then I had always been the initiator and just assumed the girls I groped before then just put up with it because that's what girls had to do if their boyfriends wanted it.

Looking back I have to think there were a few that were horny too, but I didn't pick up on it. So full of myself that I thought they only did it because I wanted them to indulge in some heavy petting for my pleasure and they would do it to please me.

I do know now looking back that a couple of the girls I went out with and petted actually came when I had my hands in their knickers. Didn't realize it at the time.

The arrogance of youth. 😃

I feel that scene is very realistic, there was a similar scene in the first season of Glee that made me realise that it wasn't just male hormones that drive have that kind of desire.

Growing up in the 1950s I was very sexually naive. Married at 23 to a woman who was 25 and even more sexually naive then I was. Heck, neither of us even knew that females could have orgasms! Eventually we figured that out after about 2 years of marriage. After the advent of the Internet in the late 1990s I found myself in chat rooms and reading stories and began to realize that yes, there were some women who did get horny (unfortunately my wife wasn't one of them).

But it wasn't until about 2003 when my wife and I were watching an episode of the "Dr. Phil" show that I realized that in some marriages the wife actually wanted sex more often than did the husband - - as that was the issue that Dr. Phil was working on with a couple on the show. They were in their late 30s, early 40s and the wife wasn't happy with the frequency that they were having sex. I couldn't believe it - - that there were women out there who wanted more sex than their husbands did - - what a revelation!

Yeah, early on, often clueless when young... I lost my virginity in high school to a girl who "dragged" me out into the woods and made it clear she wanted me to fuck her! And the time a girl brought me into her bedroom while she provocatively "changed clothes " in front of me, getting quite close to me, she did this, and while she didn't take off her undies, she bent over in front of me to take off her socks, then turned around to face me as she changed her bra, exposing quite large breasts. I was like a deer in the headlights... frozen, not sure what to do! (At this point, I'm clear on the "invitation" ...😉 And then there was the time I was in a bathroom with a girl I was dating and her friend, both only in their undies and bras, and they were conjecturing aloud, wondering about how anal sex would feel! Oh, the missed opportunities...🤣

Probably 17-18, I'd met a few girls and one of them took a shine to me. Being clueless as to what was going on, I didn't pick up on it until she locked the door of my room one night after we'd been out together, sat me down on the bed and proceeded to reach under her dress and remove her panties right in front of me. It was about then I realised she was very turned on, I was really embarrassed which she thought was great fun and continued by handing me her quite wet panties. I must have looked confused or something because she sat down next to me, took my hand and gave me a guided tour. I got that right away which she thought was great, and also realised her scent and wetness was arousal. With that info and her interest in snuggling up close, I soon worked out what made her horny

When I was around 12 and prepubescent, girls my age, who were further along in the maturation process, were quite aggressive with sexual innuendo -- and I had little interest at that age in reciprocating. Regrettably, once I did mature and developed an interest in girls myself, these overtures largely stopped.

I suppose some time when I was around thirteen or fourteen. I was really good friends with a couple of girls from school. And eventually I started playing around with them. To be honest it probably took me a little while to figure out that they liked it as much as I did.I think it took the one friend to take a hold of my hand while I was playing with her and telling me to let her show me how to make it feel good. When she took my hand and started to masturbate herself using my hand I knew.

Unfortunately none of this is taught in our standard sex education lessons. To be honest, I think it shoud be taught in the same way as to how we make babies !!

I think I'd understood that women get horny, beginning at whatever age I became aware of what horniness was. It sank in, though, when I was 16 and started fooling around with a high school girlfriend, realizing that she was getting really wet beforehand. Also, hers was the first orgasm I ever was involved with apart from my own. I brought her off by hand one day, and everything from then on was a little different. Wow--not only does she get turned on like I do, but she experiences powerful orgasms. And although she and I were much alike in these respects, I realized even then that women seemed to have a far different kind of sensuality. So she and I went on to explore that for a year or so. Sometimes life is just plain wonderful.

When I was in high school, I took a girl to the drive-in to watch a movie. After I put the speaker in our car, we got in the back seat to watch the movie. As the movie played, there was a flash of a naked girl in the movie. She had a short dress on and my hand moved to her panties under her skirt. She looked at me but didn't stop me as my hand slipped under the waistband and my fingers slowly moved into her panties. All of a sudden, I could feel her wetness. She was so wet as my fingers went into her pussy and I slowly fingered her. All of a sudden, she moaned and she said I'm cumming. We didn't have sex, but she did undo my pants and exposed my hard-on and jerked me off. That's how I learned girls got horny too.

I remember hearing the term, at 10 or 11, and thinking I knew what it meant (“wants sex” is all I knew) but really having no idea.

All through high school before I was first with a girl, I so desperately wanted to believe that they all masturbate and have orgasms. But in my heart I thought maybe only one in four did: not a high enough fraction for me to confidently believe that any *particular* girl did, and that’s really what I wanted.

When I was 17 I first heard a girl say “orgasm” and it took me completely by surprise. Ditto the word “masturbation.”

It wasn’t until I finally had a girlfriend, at 17, that I got it. The first time I sat behind her on a bench one evening and put my arms around her, I saw her nipples harden through her sweater. Ditto the first time I touched her breasts, over her bra, her nipples instantly got hard. And the first time we were naked together? That’s when I finally really understood. She was so wet she was embarrassed. Just like I was so hard *I* was embarrassed. Sigh. Such memories!