Early Intercourse Alternative Acts

After some very satisfying sex yesterday, hubby and I were laying around talking about our early sexual experiences. We were both raised Catholic and were born in the early 60's and had similar upbringings. The 70's and 80's were hard on adolescents with our background. The whole focus on the sex act being some big mystical thing that you were supposed to wait to do until marriage vs the newly sexualized culture of the 'if it feels good, do it'. Talk about dichotomy. Most of us were left to figure it out on our own as our WWII generation parents were all about 'save it for marriage'.

We both started dating at 14, granted our experiences were a little different lol. I was dating an 18 year old boy and he most definitely wanted sex. I tried, but he wasn't able to penetrate me. It just hurt too much. Looking back, I'm pretty sure I had vaginismus likely caused by not being psychologically ready to have intercourse. Once I did it on my own terms at 16 I had 0 issues with pain. Anyway, just because I didn't want to/couldn't go all the way didn't mean I left my man with blue-balls. I gave hand jobs and blow jobs but there's a lot to say about the intimacy of laying up against someone, kissing etc that you don't get with oral. Did any of you Frot? Rub genitals together without putting the cock inside? Hubby said he did it quite a bit as a lot of the girls he dated (until college) were virgins but wanted to be sexual.

I did it two ways, kind of depending on where we were. We did a lot of fooling around in the car. I'd straddle the boy with my pants and undies off (really good position if you're wearing a skirt, but in those days we usually had pantyhose on anyway so it's not as easy as it is today) and I'd rub my slit on the underside of his cock until he came. If I were careful, I could usually cum before he did that way but not always. Often I'd get him off by hand or a blowjob first and then straddle him so he would last longer and I could get off. The other way was if we could be someplace we're laying down, he'd put his cock between my legs and I'd close my thighs around it while he thrusted. If I ground down on him, I could get some clit stimulation.

Hub says that he and his ex would lay side by side with her leg over his hips and he'd rub the tip of his cock up and down her slit. I never did it that way but I can see how it would work.

Once I lost the Big V I stopped doing it this way, but it was a lot of fun and creative.

Did any of you do this kind of stuff and if so how did you do it?

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Suzy was an attractive brunette. She was 5’9” or so and had a unique figure. While she had the long muscles of a swimmer, she was incredibly thin. She was literally muscle and bone. Suzy was from a mid-size town in North Carolina. I only mention this because we did have girls in the house from small towns. The small-town girls tended to be a little bit behind the girls from the city schools not only socially but also sexually. The girls in the house knew one way or another which girls were sexually active. Well for the most part, every now and then, we got fooled. Although Suzy and I were suite mates (Four to five girls in two rooms with a common bathroom), we had never discussed sex in detail until the night in question. I knew she was sexually active but that was all. There were jokes and innuendos among the girls when we were getting ready to go out on dates or sometimes when they came back to the house like never wear white (panties) on the weekend as you never know when someone will seen them, a clean ass and a dirty mind or don’t lose your panties. Suzi’s roommate and mine were gone for the weekend. We had some visitors from another sorority chapter staying in the house so Suzy took Betsy’s, my roommate, bed so the visitors could stay together.

Suzy came back to the house but made no attempt to change into her pajamas. We made a little small talk as she sat in the chair. Finally, Suzy said with a slight giggle. “Dee, let me go wash my pin-mate out of ass before I change.” Now this was not a common statement. While I had heard similar from Betsy, my roommate, all the time. I was a lot closer to her. When she came back into the room and changed, she exclaimed. “Now that I have a clean ass, I can sit on Betsy’s bed.” I inquired jokingly. “Don’t tell me that Hoagie is the backward kind?” Suzy retorted. “Hell! He would put it in my ear if he could but since the front is off limits to him, he must settle for the back door.” Well, I was more than a little shocked, and also curious. I countered. “Really, most of us are the other way.” Suzy said. “I know but I have an overwhelming fear of getting pregnant like my best friend did the summer before I started college. In fact, we were supposed to be roommates. I just don’t take any chances.” I asked, “Why not the pill?” She went on to explain that she had a friend of the family that died of complications from birth control pills and that she feared them. I don’t know if it was the beer (She had had a few.) but she really opened to me. She said that in high school she and her boyfriend had practiced sixty-nine but no matter how hard she worked on Hoagie that he still pushed her for penetration, so they had settled on anal or butt sex. Since she was so open I asked more and more questions about, and she was all too ready to answer. She said that she had gotten a book about anal sex and a blow-up butt dilator to widen her passageway. She described how she lubed him and even squirted a few ounces of olive oil in her anus the first couple of times and insisted that she be on top. She added that she now liked it now, could take him any way and even climax with clitoral stimulation. What I didn’t ask and now I wish that I had is if she took an enema or suppository before if she thought she was going to get together with her boyfriend.

@ddell2- So, have you kept in touch with any of your sorority sisters? Were you ever intimate with any of them?

What girls did to me:

Handjobs

Sucking (this intimidated them at first but they liked the smooth experience)

What I did to them:

Rubbing the clit and vulva

Internal fingering

Licking

general caressing

I've also done the "penis rubbing on the vulva" thing @Nurse_Phillips described but with a condom on.. did not want to risk a semen spill there. Also, it came later, around first intercourse.

Just to note that several posts have been removed due to an issue with an account that moderators are currently dealing with.

My wife went together for almost five years before getting married in 1960! She was still a virgin on our wedding night, but we did everything except penetration! How about you?