I've struggled with weight at a few points in my life, and I'm currently working on losing weight (yet again). I was at 220 a year ago, I'm currently down to 195, and I'd like to get down to 170. I have an easier time finding general guidelines to stick to because they feel flexible and I won't get uptight during those occasions when I want to flex things a bit, like during the holidays. (And I tried calorie counting--and it just drove me nuts.) This is more or less what I've been doing and I'm (slowly) seeing progress. And I don't want to go on any of the new weight loss drugs
Diet
* Eat something green with lunch and dinner, ideally enough to occupy half the plate
* If I'm eating refined carbs, try to make sure they're paired with high fiber foods (i.e., serving pasta tossed with spinach as opposed to a tomato sauce)
* If I want something sweet, I eat fruit. Usually fresh, but I'll also keep a few cans of fruit in the fridge. (I guess my brain registers cold fruit tidbits as more dessert-y than fresh?)
* I've been surprised at how oatmeal in the morning keeps me full for so long, so I'm eating less and getting my fiber in.
* I keep a large bowl of quinoa salad in the fridge because it's easy to throw together, it's filling, it makes an easy lunch, and it ticks off my boxes for protein and veg intake.
* I'm not vegetarian, but when meal planning, I aim for mostly meatless meals or meals. I love Vegan Before 6 by Mark Bittman. Because his personal diet plan has him eating meat for only one meal a day, his dinner recipes include meat but are also packed with plant matter so I'm still eating healthfully.
Exercise
* I've been wearing a fitness tracker for years and had been more focused on hitting a certain step count every day. Once I started focusing on active minutes (aiming for at least 22 active minutes a day), I noticed changes in my health.
* Right now, 30 minutes of cardio a day and bench presses seem to be working for me.
Sleep and stress
* My last job really screwed with the sleep I was getting and my stress levels. Once I started to regularly get 7 to 8 hours of sleep a night, I noticed changes in my health.