Beginner enema question

I’m a 24F virgin and still pretty new to enemas. I originally got into them after my doctor prescribed a Fleet enema for constipation. Since then, I ended up buying an enema bag with a small rubber colon tube and have actually been enjoying the experience.

Right now I usually do one (sometimes a few😂) every several days, but I’ve noticed I can’t comfortably take more than about 1L. Most of the time I start cramping around 0.5L. Does anyone have tips for building tolerance to larger volumes, or is it something that just has to happen gradually over time? Also, any tips on finding enema only partner?

Welcome to zity.biz first!

Starting to explore the enema arena works best taking it slow and seeing what your body tells you. The first enema in a series will likely be the smallest amount of solution you will take in as the rectum and sigmoid may have stools and feces that have built up over time, especially if you suffer from constipation. In that case listen to your body and clamp off the flow when your body starts to protest and eliminate what you can. Don't rush the expulsion process; let your body push it out naturally. Once you believe you've evacuated what you can, start with another enema and so on until you begin to run "clear". Doing what we call a "high enema" which typically cleans the large intestine up to the appendix, will likely take 3 to 5 enemas to rid the bowel of most fecal matter.

Make sure you use lube so the anus does not become sore from repeated entries. When on the toilet, be sure to sit upright to allow easier flow of the enema solution to get back into the rectum for evacuation.

There are many knowledgeable people on here that are happy to answer further questions you may have - don't be afraid to ask. The only dumb question is one that isn't asked at all......

Welcome to Zitibiz!

I think watertrain pretty much answered your question.

That said , do take things slow and never force yourself.

Do you perhaps have any nurse friends who might be able to help you?

If so you might ask them or let them

Administer them to you.

Again, welcome!

@CuriousNewbie Are you having fun when you take an enema? If so, doesn't matter the volume. That being said, a couple thoughts. When the cramps come (and they will) shut off the clamp, breath through them and once they pass, turn the enema back on. Could be several minutes. The cramps are all part of the experience and not something to be feared. With the clamp off, the water is still in you and doing its work. Go slow. Don't hang the bag too high or open the flow too much. That's a recipe for premature cramping. And if you can only take 1 L, listen to your body. Don't hurt yourself playing. That will be a sure bet not to have a good time. I bet over time, you'll start taking more without even realizing it. Just enjoy!

@CuriousNewbie, the veterans gave you good advice. For the gentlest enema solution, add 14 grams of sodium bicarbonate per liter of water. This solution causes the fewest cramps.

You’ll be able to learn quite a bit from other’s firsthand experiences here. To add to the previous suggestions I’d include deep, three-part breathing (similar to yoga) and gentle massage of the fluid. The combination of these two will lessen the cramps and work the fill deeper my friend.

Welcome to Zity and please enjoy your experience.

@CuriousNewbie, many times cramps are just a part of taking enemas. If and when a cramp starts, as mentioned above, temporarily stop the flow. Then lightly massage your stomach area to help relieve the cramp. Also, water temperature has a lot to do with causing cramps, cold water will definitely cause severe cramps. Only take enemas using water that is within a degree or two of normal body temperature. As a beginner, the volume you are able to take will be small, but over time, the volume you can tolerate will increase. Welcome to Zity. This site is perhaps the single most informative site with regard to enema knowledge and experience. Again, welcome and enjoy.

@CuriousNewbie well if you are a bit of a masochist enjoy the cramps, otherwise you will have to figure optimum speed and temp and solutions for yourself to minimize cramps and maximize volume.

I have found that fairly warmenema water makes it easier to avoid cramps. I also have found at the first sign of discomfort to stop the flow for a minute or two until the discomfort or the "urge to purge" subsides. Also, hanging the bag only a small distance above your body (assuming you are laying down) so the flow is slow helps to take larger volumes too. Another obvious tip is that an empty colon after a cleansing enema, makes it much easier to enjoy a larger volume. However, everyone is different but it is possible these hints might help if tried. Watching the bag slowly deflate is helps me in that I know how much more before the bag empties completely. Be patient, you will get use to gradually increasing your volumes and be a pro before you know it. Denise

Very good advice here from everyone, only thing I can add is that it can help to gently move your hips sideways and in a circular motion also when you close the clamp to take a little break before letting the flow restart. I think it helps the passage open up a little bit.

Welcome @CuriousNewbie!

You will find so many helpful people with different experiences. This community is like an enema encyclopedia. 😊

For instance, I’m into cramps and orgasms. And I’m in my late 70’s. My urges wax and wane but if I’m horny and need an orgasm, a hot/soapy enema does it. Masturbation does nothing anymore. Just experiment and find out what's right for *You*.

MEG 🌸

Welcome aboard Ms CuriousNewbie. You will find a wealth of information here on Zity. My best recommendation is to read, read, and read some more. And then experiment as often as possible. Just remember that there isn't a right or wrong way to do things, but there are procedures and routines that will be more or less pleasurable for you. Your goal is to enjoy the enema, not harm yourself. I definitely recommend that you stay away from any use of alcohol (including wine) as a solution as it is absorbed much more rapidly when consumed anally versus orally. Also, the preparation of the bag and solution, the use of lube, and the insertion and manipulation of the nozzle can be just as stimulating as the enema itself. Don't rush into anything, take your time, find out what you like, and enjoy yourself. This isn't about breaking records for liters taken, it's about pleasure.

If you have any specific questions, don't hesitate to ask or DM me or other members.

Thank you everyone for the tips! I tried some of them - increasing the water temperature and going slower with a few breaks definitely made the process more comfortable and helped reduce the cramps. I also did two small enemas using a bulb syringe, which helped a lot with retention. I was able to hold a little over 1L for more than fifteen minutes with no issues

Does anyone have any opinions on using nozzles versus small colon tubes? Also, once you are done with an enema, do you remove the nozzle, or do you just close the valve and keep it in?

Here I’ll remove the nozzle and replace it with a pleasant butt plug for long-term retention.

@CuriousNewbie thank you for your feedback and experience.

Hello, and welcome, CuriousNewbie!

I’ve read the posts, and you’re getting good practical advice all around. Specific to your question, it does work if you give yourself just a pint or so of warm water first, clearing out the lower sigmoid and rectum, then you should be able to go inject higher and retain longer.

The only thing that I’d add, which was not mentioned, is your position when taking the enema. I’m usually a left-sider in the Simms, but times that I have been bound up and needed a more thorough cleanse, I will get down in the knee chest position with my bottom up.

This is not the easiest position when going solo, I will ask my husband to help, but I do find that it’s easier to get the water up higher into me and in larger amounts to be able to retain.

Wishing you good health and enjoyable enemas.

Furthermore, once the enema is finished, do you remove the cannula or do you simply close the valve and leave it in place?

Unlike small tubes, an olive-tipped cannula prevents leakage during the enema, even if it's not held. This leaves both hands free for massage or caressing.

If you have enough strength to keep the enema in by clenching your buttocks, you can turn off the tap and remove the cannula.

However, if you use a two-balloon enema nozzle, you don't need to clench your buttocks, but you must keep the nozzle in place. You only deflate the balloons once you're in the toilet to expel the enema and its contents.

I’ve introduced several ladies to the joys of erotic enemas and each one of them have been different in how they were able to take, hold and volume of fluid.

I say listen to your body, experiment with amounts, recipes, positions, nozzles and how deep you insert the nozzle and how long you leave it in.

As enemas go, variety is definitely the spice of life.

Welcome, I find position helps most with fill capacity and cramps. All people are different. Personally, I do best on my back legs up and even pulled back at times. You may even find slightly raising the hips may help.

You can also start by laying on your left side then turn to your back. After that you can slowly turn to the right side to help the enema flow higher in the colon.

As others and yourself have mentioned, many times a small bulb enema taken and released will clean the lower colon and rectum. Then if time allows rest for a half hour or so and try for a larger fill. A little rest and relaxation between fills calms things down.

It's truly a matter of finding what your body likes. And mostly what makes you fill good. It's also easier to take an enema with a better nozzle. Something that has a larger tip that won't fall out can allow your hands to be free to lightly massage your abdomen and other areas to help eliminate the cramps. Many times gas also causes cramps. Make shure when taking a bulb enema you expell all the air. Same when using the bag. Let the water flow to all the air has escaped.

Does anyone have any opinions on using nozzles versus small colon tubes? Also, once you are done with an enema, do you remove the nozzle, or do you just close the valve and keep it in?

It depends on what you mean by “small.” Small as in small diameter colon tubes increase the risk of bowel perforation, which is VERY bad, and they can curl up inside of your colon rather than going in deeper. If by “small,” you mean short, then yes this is a good option compared to a short nozzle as it allows the solution to fill the upper part of your colon before the rectal vault becomes distended with water which is what often leads to “cramps” or a premature urge to expel. If you can, very slowly and with lots of lube, get the colon tube past the rectal vault, you will be able to take more water more comfortably. It often helps to let a little water in each time you advance the tube to help expand the colon which makes insertion easier.

@FSP Is the rubber catheter not considered to be a colon tube? The one I have is 0.6 cm in diameter and 30 cm long- I have no problem pushing it in at least 6 inches as it is extremely flexible.