Erotic Chat

Years ago, in another chat room it was quite common for participants to create a "scene" where they would engage in a cybersex dialog in the main channel room. Whether or not the activity was actually occurring didn't seem to matter much as long as the dialog seemed "hot" to the others in the room at the time. In fact the other guests (voyeurs?) could, and did, chime in with their sexy suggestions. It was kind of like contributing live to a continuing erotic story. Most of this was all in the spirit of good sexy fun in the main channel room although some serious hot and heavy cybersex did move into private chat.

It seems today that subjects other than the weather etc tend to jump pretty quickly into whispers. Nothing wrong with a confidential conversation of course, but it seems to me that a little more "excitement" in the main room might make chat more interesting ...particularly for newer users.

Anyway, the question is, in the Zityverse, is this frowned upon, or considered uncouth somehow? Or is it just a chat style that's fallen out of normal use? Considering that users are aware of the subjects discussed, I don't think anyone would be shocked 😃

What does anyone think?

I totally a agree with you. The chats about every day life things are fine but I think most go into pm to chat about more erotic things.

I think if people prefer privacy to discuss intimate matters with other users they have come to trust, that's just fine.

(I say this with a soupcon of fearful distrust; based on what I'd said in public at a long-gone chat site, a member with mental health issues stalked me and got dangerously close before he ended his life. He'd traveled more than a thousand miles and was about thirty miles from me when the trail went cold.)

For me, the bottom line is that I am not discussing my fetishy interests in public for the arousal of onlookers I don't even know. I don't consider sharing my thoughts, experiences, and fantasies a spectator sport. Other people may feel differently.

Years ago, in another chat room it was quite common for participants to create a "scene" where they would engage in a cybersex dialog in the main channel room. Whether or not the activity was actually occurring didn't seem to matter much as long as the dialog seemed "hot" to the others in the room at the time. In fact the other guests (voyeurs?) could, and did, chime in with their sexy suggestions. It was kind of like contributing live to a continuing erotic story. Most of this was all in the spirit of good sexy fun in the main channel room although some serious hot and heavy cybersex did move into private chat.

It seems today that subjects other than the weather etc tend to jump pretty quickly into whispers. Nothing wrong with a confidential conversation of course, but it seems to me that a little more "excitement" in the main room might make chat more interesting ...particularly for newer users.

Anyway, the question is, in the Zityverse, is this frowned upon, or considered uncouth somehow? Or is it just a chat style that's fallen out of normal use? Considering that users are aware of the subjects discussed, I don't think anyone would be shocked 😃

Speaking as a moderator, what you ask is not frowned upon. On the contrary, it might actually encourage chat participation.

However, there are some things to bear in mind -

⏺ Matching interests

Participants would need to check that the interests central to the scene are actually shared by others present in the chat room. Give people the opportunity to either stay or go, depending on how they see that question.

⏺ Consent

There should be no attempt to 'force' a scene on an unwilling participant, e.g. an 'exam'. Consent is an essential requirement for any activity conducted here.

@PinotNoir

I think if people prefer privacy to discuss intimate matters with other users they have come to trust, that's just fine.

(I say this with a soupcon of fearful distrust; based on what I'd said in public at a long-gone chat site, a member with mental health issues stalked me and got dangerously close before he ended his life. He'd traveled more than a thousand miles and was about thirty miles from me when the trail went cold.)

For me, the bottom line is that I am not discussing my fetishy interests in public for the arousal of onlookers I don't even know. I don't consider sharing my thoughts, experiences, and fantasies a spectator sport. Other people may feel differently.

Appreciate your comment. Sorry to hear about your negative experience with another user. Totally agree that many people prefer to keep their true thoughts private. Everyone has that right. The chat I was remembering was more in a playful nature. While it could be quite explicit I know that folks wrote about things they might do or would like to do or even might never do. In many cases it was more a fantasy put in text form than a reveal of personal activity. A lot of very real activity stayed behind the private chat wall and thats just perfect if that is what makes the user comfortable.

Speaking as a moderator, what you ask is not frowned upon. On the contrary, it might actually encourage chat participation.

However, there are some things to bear in mind -

⏺ Matching interests

Participants would need to check that the interests central to the scene are actually shared by others present in the chat room. Give people the opportunity to either stay or go, depending on how they see that question.

⏺ Consent

There should be no attempt to 'force' a scene on an unwilling participant, e.g. an 'exam'. Consent is an essential requirement for any activity conducted here.

Thanks for the moderator viewpoint! I've done that job often enough to appreciate the amount of work and hassle it can be.

I fully support the conditions you mentioned. They shouldn't even need to be said ...but then.

Hi everyone - it's been a while since I commented on anything but for this subject I must respond. I miss the 'old' noz chat where cyber-sex scenes were common, I participated in many. I gave a great prostate massage to willing participants. Anyway those days have just faded into history.

Be well

BJ

I agree with BJ it seems things are fading

I agree also with Big Jane's comment. I particularly enjoyed sharing details of past enema sessions in private chat with others, including my childhood enemas and those memorable sessions with my late wife. And hearing from others here about their personal erotic enema activities was quite stimulating!

Hi everyone - it's been a while since I commented on anything but for this subject I must respond. I miss the 'old' noz chat where cyber-sex scenes were common, I participated in many. I gave a great prostate massage to willing participants. Anyway those days have just faded into history.

BJ

Glad I'm not alone remembering those time. Indeed, I think I remember some of those Big Jane scenes

Back when I did participate in chat with friends it was pretty much vanilla chat. No playing in the room with others "watching". Those who wanted to do that went to another room or elsewhere. To not distract or take away from chat.

We occasionally played erotic alphabet or teased each other. But anyone could and was included in the chat. This was many years ago. *Sighs. I do miss those friends and chats.

Years ago in either the chat room of enemasrus or nozzleville, a chatter whose moniker was Redrover, asked me. "If the girls ever douched or took enemas in front of each other. I started laughing so hard that I nearly peed my pants right in front of my computer. The moderator, whose moniker was AquaGent, immediately IM’d with the message. “Tell him that you used to have Friday night douche and enema parties.” When I gained my composure from laughing, I said. First to AquaGent. “I can’t do that to him.” “Red, there were girls in the house who would shower when another girl was in the room.” I added. "In the three years that I lived in the house. I only knew one girl that I knew gave herself an enema, and explained the circumstance of her giving herself an enema. (My roommate was constipated and had a flight to Washington, DC, to interview for a summer internship. She was afraid to board the plane without voiding and was out of suppositories, so she used her douche apparatus to give herself an enema.) "I have smelt the strong scent of douche powder entering the communal bathroom and knew that several of the girls had douching bulbs, but I never saw any girls douching."

I later told Red that he missed his calling; he should have been a maintenance man in a girls’ dorm or girls' school.

Wow, someone else who remembers AquaGent! (And his lady love Petals?) We probably knew a number of the same Nozzleville people. I left after the stalking incident from a member there.

There’s a few here that I engage with trading different experiences as well as younger day sessions with mom to current days. It both fun and interesting to learn things from each other and getting fresh ideas from one another. Also t;hose time when 2 klismos get together

Wow, someone else who remembers AquaGent! (And his lady love Petals?) We probably knew a number of the same Nozzleville people. I left after the stalking incident from a member there.

I am sure we did know the same folks, ...and did you know the crew over at Enema_Palace? Many of the same folks

I knew those members… & about the cyber sex stuff at Nozzleville, It was not a ‘thing’ that I remember starting necessarily at the beginning stages of the website… It was a thing that started by people that were accustomed to one another. -Those that knew each other’s interests & were ‘respectful’ of other people’s limits. Toward the later years of the site, mutual group cybering happened with those who were ‘interested’, in the main chat area. But generally the rule of thumb was to ASK someone if they wanted to talk or cyber in more personal matters in PRIVATE.- Using the “Private Chat” option (like we have at this site). Many people do NOT care to participate in cybering unless they are using the ‘private message’ option. Nor do some others care to hear about someone else’s interests. People were also less paranoid than today. & I think many had a little more respect for each other. -Probably because they didn’t grow up with access to internet. People have gotten to use to the fact in these days you can go up online & piss someone off or gross someone out with little consequences… & the BIG problem that I saw that was Nozzleville’s downfall was that there were too many moderators that took their personal friends word as truth. & then casted judgement on others based solely on that. So then more & more people got banned from site based on BAD judgement calls. - & whose side of which faction you belonged to. Not everyone has the same sexual interests or preferences… One of the best things about Nozzleville & ZITY is the PRIVATE MESSAGE option. You can kindly ASK someone if they would LIKE to meet you in ‘private’. If they don’t care for what you like, they have the right to decline your invitation. Respecting each other’s sexual interests doesn’t mean you have to LIKE the same interests. Nor does the other party have to put their OWN interests out there in the main room, if the majority of the room doesn’t have that particular interest. There was a little more mutual candor in that matter, compared to some people now days.

And for a time at the old Noz you could even create a custom room and invite friends. That was a nice feature - great for an intense group chat or cyber.

BJ

I do this kind of thing over on F-List, its a dedicated RP site run by furries.