Chaperone experiences

I am 70, and have had just a few chaperone exams.

Would any other member wish to share their experience(s)? I will in the next day or so

I once had the option to have a chaperone stand in but declined the offer at the time. It was at my first ever skin exam, and the nurse that led me back to the room and checked me in asked if I would like her to stay in during the exam. I was really nervous about the whole thing, which she could probably tell, but told her that I was okay.

Reflecting on that experience, I’ve thought about how it would have felt if that nurse had stood in and watched. I was in a gown with underwear on when the doctor started his “routine to get to know my skin”, as he called it; and shortly after he began, he asked if I could stand and remove the gown as it was easier for him to see my chest and back.

After moving around and inspecting me while I stood there in just my underpants, he then sat down on a stool and told me to turn and stand with my back to him. From that position he grabbed the waistband of my shorts and pulled down the back of them exposing my butt to the exam room.

Without putting them back up to cover me, he told me to turn and face him. Once I did, he looked up at me and asked if he could take down my underwear. I didn’t say anything and just nodded my consent. With that he reached for my waistband again and pulled the entirety of my underwear down so that everything I had was on display.

I assume that the doctor’s “routine” would have been the same if the nurse had been there watching it all as my chaperone, which is a scenario I’ve thought about and played out in my mind.

When I visit my female dermatologist for a total body skin exam, I have never had a chaperone. I have never been given the option. Quite honestly, I would have said no need for a chaperone. My dermatologist has examined me nude so many times she and I are very comfortable with the process. During my last exam we were discussing vacations.

The reality is the chaperone is to protect the doctor from frivolous lawsuit.....not the patient.

When I go to the dermatologist a young female assistant (I don't think she is a nurse) takes me into the room and asked what I am there for. I say a full body exam. The last time she got a paper gown out of the cabinet and said take off everything but your underwear and put this gown on. Then she asked if I needed the gown. I said no, I don't need it. I was when she a PA comes in, I am out of the gown in about 30 seconds so I don't need it. She left and I took off everything except my boxers and sat on the table. In just a couple of minutes the female PA and the female assistant came in and the PA started the exam. The assistant was taking notes on an ipad while the PA did the exam. There is no choice to have the assistant there, it is just part of the exam.

I have have dermo exams with both male and female docs. No biggie to have someone else in the room to take notes, can't remember a time when there wasn't.

My former primary care doc always brought a female chaperone in with her when performing the genital and rectal exams. The chaperone was usually a physician's assistant, but sometimes she would just pick anyone that was available. I would be seated on the exam table with a paper sheet over my lap. The doc would take a seat on a stool and have me stand in front of her and hand the paper sheet to the chaperone, who would use it to block her view of my intimate anatomy. On my last appointment with that doc, I forgot to hand the sheet to the chaperone, instead just putting it on the exam table. The doc didn't seem to care and just proceeded with both the genital and rectal exams in full view of the chaperone. It still turns me on to think that the chaperone witnessed my ass being penetrated by the doctor's finger.

I was recently in the emergency room after a hernia and the woman doctor brought in a scribe that she said also served as a chaperone and she looked about 20 years old and sat in a chair and watched while I dropped my pants and the doctor checked me for a hernia. Despite the pain I got about half erect because the young woman was intently looking on.

My former primary care doc always brought a female chaperone in with her when performing the genital and rectal exams... I would be seated on the exam table with a paper sheet over my lap...

@buttdial Does that mean that your PCP would do most of your exam without a chaperone, then leave in the middle of your exam and get the assistant just for the good parts? I would be filled with so much apprehension and anxiety sitting on the table, naked under a drape, waiting for them to return.

I’ve only had one chaperone actually present in the exam room. It was for a skin check in a dermatology office. Even with the chaperone present I got the impression the”examiner” ( in this case a nurse practitioner) was uncomfortable with a male patient and have long since taken my business to another office. In all of my other medical exams, whether PCP or urology, there are large signs in the examination room advising patients of their right to have a chaperone present. It’s not unusual for the doctor to have a nurse or med-tech assist with the exam or procedure but no one just for observation purposes.

@buttdial Does that mean that your PCP would do most of your exam without a chaperone, then leave in the middle of your exam and get the assistant just for the good parts? I would be filled with so much apprehension and anxiety sitting on the table, naked under a drape, waiting for them to return.

Exactly. The genital and rectal exams were the very last part of the physical and she required a chaperone only for those portions. It was only then I had to remove my pants and underwear and cover my lap with the paper sheet.

I had a physical exam by a male doctor whe. I was in my early 20's. He has a female scribe in the room. She was likely only a few years older than i was. It was embarrassed for the genital exam. I was laying in the table and he was between the scribe and I. Not sure how much she saw.

When I visit my female dermatologist for a total body skin exam, I have the dermatologist and her assistant

Aside from my exams up through my teens with my mother present, I had never experienced a chaperone until recently. When at my first dermatology appointment, the doctor entered the room with her nurse in tow. As the doctor went through the exam, the nurse acted as her scribe, taking down whatever she said. I assume this is their process since the same thing happened for my wife's visit a couple weeks earlier. Though unlike my exam, my doctor had a student along and my exam ended with me fully nude in front of the 3 attractive ladies.

Last time my urologist (M) asked if wanted a chaperone, I simple asked if the chaperone was male or female? End of discussion... !!!