I once had the option to have a chaperone stand in but declined the offer at the time. It was at my first ever skin exam, and the nurse that led me back to the room and checked me in asked if I would like her to stay in during the exam. I was really nervous about the whole thing, which she could probably tell, but told her that I was okay.
Reflecting on that experience, I’ve thought about how it would have felt if that nurse had stood in and watched. I was in a gown with underwear on when the doctor started his “routine to get to know my skin”, as he called it; and shortly after he began, he asked if I could stand and remove the gown as it was easier for him to see my chest and back.
After moving around and inspecting me while I stood there in just my underpants, he then sat down on a stool and told me to turn and stand with my back to him. From that position he grabbed the waistband of my shorts and pulled down the back of them exposing my butt to the exam room.
Without putting them back up to cover me, he told me to turn and face him. Once I did, he looked up at me and asked if he could take down my underwear. I didn’t say anything and just nodded my consent. With that he reached for my waistband again and pulled the entirety of my underwear down so that everything I had was on display.
I assume that the doctor’s “routine” would have been the same if the nurse had been there watching it all as my chaperone, which is a scenario I’ve thought about and played out in my mind.