Progressing toward larger objects in rectum

I have a question (or two) specifically directed at experienced anal stretchers, who are proficient at regularly inserting objects up to 3" (75mm) past the anal sphincter and into the rectum. Let me give the background: After a hemorrhoidectomy back in the 80's, my doctor told me that I should do some anal dilation as soon as the operation wounds healed. He said that a flexible sphincter somehow contributed to prevent a recurrence of hemorrhoids later on. So I did. And he turned out to be right, in my case at least.

I started small and it was as painful as hell in the beginning, but today I am able to accommodate up to 2" (50mm) dildoes or dilators, but that's my limit at this point. I would like to extend my anal stretch to a maximum of 3". I have no wish to become an anal acrobat like HotKinkyJo or Siswet19, just want to extend my stretch limit with another inch or slightly less. My questions are as follows:

1. By slowly progressing in dilator size about 3 times a week, how long can I expect to extend my anal flexibility range from 2" to 3"? (2 months?, 3 months?, 6 months? ever?)

2. My current anal flexibility has me completely continent, I can hold a fart while sneezing, I don't have liqui-fart accidents, in short, I have as complete sphincter and bowel control as anybody can hope to have. If I embark on this ambitious range extending exercise (with the proviso that I don't hurt myself and follow the same protocol as I did to get to 2"), have you found there to be issues with staying continent when you can stretch your hole open up to 3"?

3. When you reached your goal, did you find that you had to keep up with regular stretching else your anus will shrink back to its former smaller flexibility?

Please, folks, I am directing this question to people on this site who can anally stretch 3" or so, to get their actual experience and advice. I am not looking for comments about impending doom, "listen to your body" or guesswork if you don't have first-hand experience of doing it personally. Methinks people like @Bad_Princess , @Funfan and others like them might share their knowledge. Thank you in anticipation

1/2 It took me a long time to get as far as I have, I’d say probably years moving from 2 to 3 inches, but this was also because I had family commitments/shared households that made having a schedule difficult. So if you’re able to practice freely you should be able to move forward quicker.

I feel that I made most progress at these bigger sizes up to my current maxima was helped by using slightly softer silicone toys. Whilst that can be a handful when you have them lubed-up, they have the advantage that they can be squeezed through a smaller opening than their actual diameter as the material can be pressed out of shape.

This means that you can start moving up a size and your behind gets used to the stretch in a far more gentle way with a solid toy of the same shape. As you stretch more and your butt is getting used to the bigger sizes the resistance as you insert reduces but the stretch is there.

You can then either go for a harder toy of the same shape or up the size of the softer silicone toys

Another option is to use plugs that have a flared foot but a wide trunk, so that the plug stretches your hole as it’s inside, and doesn’t just fill your guts. This helps your hole get used to the bigger stretch for a few minutes or much longer without holding a tapered or constant diameter toy by hand.

Topped Toys has a great range of excellent but somewhat pricey plugs for this job, for example, gape keeper -https://toppedtoys.com/collections/plugs-1/products/the-gape-keeper-85

2/2 The ‘ever’ part of your question is probably yes, though at some point you’ll be limited skeletally, but that is more likely at >3” (depending of course on how tall and wide you’re built).

I’ve only had any problems in the immediate short term after a long and limit-testing play. (Literally a couple of times in 40 years’ butt play) If you get gut-sick or eat a mad chili etc. there’s a risk in those first hours after a big play day that your butt isn’t 100% back to tightness.

Same applies to travel or sport immediately after a big and especially a deep session, the last of the lube might want to get out. This is *much* less a problem if you stick with water-based lubes anyway.

Like most physical skills, if you haven’t been at your peak for a while, you should build back gently.

For me, having a hot bath after cleaning-out helps physically and mentally, and then using a couple of toys from where you guess you are after a break back towards your previous best level during the course of an evening if it’s not been long, or a couple more sessions if it’s been a while.

Give it a week or two of play at the bigger diameters before trying for a new record. Tested butt feels delicious, a wrecked butt is literally a pain in the a. and can spoil your fun for weeks.

Have fun, and do report back.

Thank you @Funfan , this is exactly the kind of info I was looking for. I have just purchased 3 soft silicone toys, 2 of which are slightly bigger than 2", but I got them in quite easily due to my hole compressing them to get through the smaller opening, just like you said. The third one, however, is a different kettle of fish altogether - just about 3" at its widest, I was able to get it it further than I would expect for a first attempt, but nowhere near the widest point, obviously. Methinks I will concentrate on using this one to apply your advice, and take it slowly but regularly, starting at 3 times per week (I hope this is sufficient). I am of average build and height, so I doubt if skeletal issues are a constraint. As I said, I don't want to go beyond 3" anyway, even 2.75" will be okay if it becomes too difficult after that. No aspirations to be a record breaker!

My getting to 2" also took years, and like you I did not put in a constant, relentless effort with a schedule in getting there - it just kinda happened eventually with trying every now and then and enduring some pain in between. And I used rigid plastic dilators, which were quite unforgiving.

I will most certainly report back over time - if nobody hears anything for a while you can be sure I am not there yet.......

To frigging regulated for me. I just stuck dildoes up my arse till they went in easily, then went the next size up and kept going. It takes along as it takes. If it feels too big, it probably is. Try something a little smaller. You will get the big one in eventually. Remember to lubricate. The more often you do anal, the quicker your bum is trained to accept it.Get cosy with your face on the floor in front of a fucking machine at least three times a week for an hour or two.

Lube is your friend, get yourself X lube, you can make literally gallons of lube which is cheap, safe, really slippery and once mixed stays good for weeks at room temperature if kept clean (not contaminated). It will make your training much more enjoyable and safe. Get a simple syringe as lube shooter to inject lube also inside. I also find it easier to dose lube on toys with the syringe. Training 2 to 3 times per week, with some plugging sessions in between, can get you close to maximum what an average Joe can take in probably less than a year. I guess your age plays quite a role how fast you can progress, as the older you are, less stretchy your tissues are. Using the right "tools" (toys) is essential, like this cone https://phreak.club/products/traffic-cone. Mind that sitting on toys you can exert much higher forces on your butt than driving the toy by hand, possibly causing injury and a setback for weeks to months, so be mindful and careful. Soft silicone plugs like Squarepeg Blunt plugs are also wonderful stretching devices. Tad more difficult to get it inside than other plugs, but once in it keeps your stretched nicely with its wide neck. Again make sure you use an appropriate size and do not be "greedy" for bigger sizes too soon (I know I was/still am).

As for (in)continence, my experience is that there may be "issues" right after a stretching session (depends on how hard are you stretching your sphincters over your current max and how much lube you put inside), but not in the long term (daily life) if you don't injure yourself (causing tears, scarring etc). What caused me gas incontinence was plugging with medium size plugs (2 inch diameter or less, so nothing "big", can take quite bigger) 24/7 for about a year, which actually lowered my resting sphincter pressure to a point where I could not control my farts. Stopped plugging and did kegel exercises and was tight again in a few days.

Play safe and remind yourself that is the journey that counts. Make it as enjoyable as you can.